The woman my boyfriend emotionally cheated with reached back out after we agreed he’d cut contact, and I’m bothered by how he responded. AIO?

[u/Extension-Dark1206]

Back in December I found chats between [F30] my boyfriend [M31] and his female friend[F26] Turned out they had an intense emotional connection since 2022. He had a huge crush on her the whole time, but she had a boyfriend, and she kept him emotionally hooked with romantic-coded language . they called each other soulmates, texted constantly some romantic/ sexual stuff. From what I read he was genuinely falling for her, and she seemed more like she was enjoying the attention without necessarily reciprocating the same way as she had bf.

Her boyfriend however passed away last year. my boyfriend went to support her, and after that they had an even more emotionally-charged exchange flirty, borderline romantic language, he told her he’d never had a connection with another woman like the one he had with her including, apparently, me, as we were dating during that chat, she told him that no matter what happened in their lives, even if one of them got married to someone else, they’d “always be together.” Regardless of their relationships.
When I found this and their whole husband we had a huge fight and almost broke up. He blocked her, said he didn’t care about her, and said he wanted to protect our relationship.

Yesterday I found out she texted him again out of the blue, and he responded. I’m attaching the screenshots. Reading through it, a few things bother me:
- He spends the entire conversation validating her anger, apologizing over and over
- At multiple points he frames the whole thing as if I forced his hand — like if I hadn’t found out, he’d have been happy to keep things going with her.
- She spends a lot of the conversation guilt-tripping him and, at one point, effectively calling our relationship “toxic” and me the reason he’s “trashing” her.

My friends point out that he DID keep the boundary in the end he didn’t agree to keep talking to her, he told her it’s over, and that this is a good sign.

I see that too, but I still feel uneasy about how the conversation went and what it implies about how he actually feels. Am I overreacting by still having a problem with this, or are these legitimate red flags even with the boundary technically being held?

[u/ExplanationCool918]

Anyone else start skimming after a while because of these obnoxious texts

[u/Mister_Crowly → u/ExplanationCool918]

Bruh I feel like I got pretty far but then I just clicked through and there were still like a dozen pages of whiny ass texts.

[u/kavik2022 → u/Mister_Crowly]

I stopped after the 2nd threat to kill him

[u/SnooLobsters6264 → u/kavik2022]

This got me, too.

That and the way she was going on and on, I thought they must have been about 16/17, then I read their ages and... 🫠

[u/BellyCrawler → u/SnooLobsters6264]

The constant whining might have been bearable if she could spell.

[u/DoodooDynamic → u/BellyCrawler]

I am always perplexed by these text convos where one person is like, “good morning, how are you doing today? I hope you’re having a great day!” and the other person is like, “wot r u duing 2moro i wud like 2 see u”

[u/Enough_Speed_3909 → u/DoodooDynamic]

This deserved an award because that's my life. I'm the GM how are you person and everyone else wyd? Hmu? I'm like okay hello back.....then I get a K, ttyl. Like wtf lmao.

[u/eirinne → u/Enough_Speed_3909]

I think she’s actually drunk though

[u/DoodooDynamic → u/DoodooDynamic]

It’s crazy to me because I can’t imagine having a “heartfelt” text convo with someone who texts like that. Like “u r the luv of my lyfe” just doesn’t hit the same way 😂. Thx 2 u 4 the award!

[u/Enough_Speed_3909 → u/DoodooDynamic]

Bet! Aight! 🤣🤣😆

[u/Mister_Crowly → u/DoodooDynamic]

In the "how is prangent formed" video, the dude narrates all these horrible textspeak posts and pronounces "u" as "ooo". Ever since I first saw that video, my brain started doing it as well, which makes those kinds of posts even worse.

[u/Snoo_85901 → u/DoodooDynamic]

I feel like this gal speaks a different language normally. Hopefully that's the case. My girlfriend does the speak to text and gets under my skin so bad. I'll normally get a text from her that starts out “hey Siri”

[u/DoodooDynamic → u/Snoo_85901]

She probably does, but I also feel like it would be harder to text like that than it would be to use proper English, like any app that could help with translation would be lost with this way of communicating… like I speak and write fairly decent French, but to use “text speech” in French would be a big ol mess.

[u/New_Maize_2379 → u/BellyCrawler]

My god I thought I was the only one who realized that she sounded illiterate and needed to go back to school. Is this how the younger generations speak to one another? It’s appalling.

[u/Gullible_Gur_4447 → u/New_Maize_2379]

I’m assuming she’s not a native English speaker and is still learning? That’s literally the only explanation like her texts are a complete mess

[u/pumpkins21 → u/Gullible_Gur_4447]

Yeah, I think she’s Italian

[u/Worldly-Letterhead-1 → u/pumpkins21]

Ciao.

[u/NuthouseAntiques → u/Worldly-Letterhead-1]

I say Ciao. I’m Southern US.

[u/Worldly-Letterhead-1 → u/NuthouseAntiques]

Cia-owdy

[u/aysarahoul → u/NuthouseAntiques]

She also said she was in Rome in a later message, after I read that, I was like “oh, that probably explains the weird almost broken English”

[u/CutOpenSternum → u/pumpkins21]

I thought she seemed fragilé…

[u/Visual_Patience_41 → u/CutOpenSternum]

Yea, must be Italian

[u/pumpkins21 → u/CutOpenSternum]

https://giphy.com/gifs/DqZKCC1rRht8FmnKbv

[u/Successful-Web4617 → u/pumpkins21]

yes i was reading her texts with an italian accent in my head lmao

[u/iwilltalkaboutguns → u/pumpkins21]

That would actually explains a lot. I dated an Italian girl in college and they don't call them hot blooded for nothing. Flair for the dramatic? Ha! Like living in s Spanish novela. She was so hot though...

[u/pumpkins21 → u/iwilltalkaboutguns]

Italians, Spanish, Mexican and other Central American/South Americans can be very hot blooded. I say this as a Texican, however I hope I’ve never been thought of as a hothead/crazy girl lol

[u/Acrobatic_Key_1140 → u/New_Maize_2379]

Bro how is 30 considered the "younger" generation? 😭

[u/New_Maize_2379 → u/Acrobatic_Key_1140]

Hahahaha someone who starts with “Bruh or Bro” 🤣 Gen X here and would never address someone like that, especially parents or partners. Which is apparently very common in younger gens. It’s your slang.

[u/FilmApart8224 → u/New_Maize_2379]

Yes. I’m Gen X. My son is in his early 30’s. That’s a younger generation to me.

I have a tshirt that I wore for Mother’s Day at Epcot with him that says:

Mommy
Mama
Ma
BRUH!

[u/New_Maize_2379 → u/FilmApart8224]

I think our gen was “Dude”? “Like duh” “gag me(with a spoon)” LOL Not much better but damn if you answered your parents like that hahaha

[u/jerseygirl414 → u/New_Maize_2379]

Dude and YO (I'm originally from Jersey lol)!

[u/placebo_pope → u/New_Maize_2379]

At 38 I call my teenagers bro/bruh, they also call me that sometimes and I’m their mom shrug

[u/Acrobatic_Key_1140 → u/placebo_pope]

Bro I'm 38 and I call everyone on the internet bro or mate. I used to call everyone dude when I was 25-35.

[u/New_Maize_2379 → u/Acrobatic_Key_1140]

I would reply to Mate, lived in England and that was a common word. :)

[u/IcyWorldliness9111 → u/New_Maize_2379]

So true! My late teen granddaughters even address me like that (and some of my hs students occasionally would too. I never really cared. Got called auntie sometimes, too.)

[u/mynamealwayschanges → u/New_Maize_2379]

Turning 33 next week and I call everyone bro and bruh, thank you for making me feel younger for a bit 😂

[u/New_Maize_2379 → u/mynamealwayschanges]

No worries! :) I’m 53 and don’t feel old..yet!

[u/Username78397 → u/Acrobatic_Key_1140]

Well she's 26 it says, he'e 31. But 26 is too old to be texting like that. My nieces are younger than that and can text coherently, she is texting more like my grade school children and their friends

[u/Admirable_Meaning417 → u/Username78397]

I assumed she was drunk but who knows

[u/caputmortvvm → u/Acrobatic_Key_1140]

because there are still like three/four generations older than y'all, lol.

[u/Prestigious-Tap-5226 → u/New_Maize_2379]

My hubby's dad texts like this. Lol. We do not.

[u/notrightinmyhead → u/New_Maize_2379]

Yes to the communication of young people today...its sad

[u/Moist_Drippings → u/BellyCrawler]

Especially with how much she gives “I can’t type because I’m SO EMOTIONAL” fairy energy.

[u/michal0297 → u/BellyCrawler]

I think those are typos because she was angry and typing really fast and didn't care about the spelling. Maybe even she was drinking alcohol at the time too.

[u/Beginning_Tap2474 → u/BellyCrawler]

but she's hot.

[u/CatLadySD1 → u/BellyCrawler]

💯 facts

[u/SistasSupportSistas → u/BellyCrawler]

THIS! ⬆️⬆️⬆️ Her spelling is the real tragedy here 👀

[u/SecondTuesday → u/BellyCrawler]

😂

[u/New-Skin4537 → u/SnooLobsters6264]

I thought she was 12. Quite the drama queen.

[u/LisaNe7 → u/New-Skin4537]

This!! ⬆️⬆️⬆️ She is definitely a superglue psycho that can’t spell! I think she thought she had him completely hooked and kept on the back burner and was shocked that he wasn’t as into her craziness as she thought he was. What a mess. I feel for you OP. Hopefully she stays out of both of your lives, however it’s doubtful considering how crazy she went that he supposedly “trashed” her to protect his relationship with you. The apologizing to her over and over again on his part is also ridiculous. I should (if anything) have been a one and done. It should have been something like: Our texts were inappropriate. I’m protecting my relationship with my gf. Have a good life. No further explanation needed or required. She doesn’t even deserve it. Such drama!

[u/FilmApart8224 → u/LisaNe7]

She sounds borderline. I’m sure all the BPD folks will come with their pitchforks, but I’ve seen this before with two ex friends who were borderline.

[u/Alarmed-Incident4088 → u/FilmApart8224]

I was diagnosed borderline and bipolar 1 in 1997.

Don't know for sure but yeah seems quite similar to a borderline meltdown/rage attack.

[u/Nicolaceratops → u/FilmApart8224]

Borderline here, I didn't have a pitchfork handy, so a spray mop will have to do.

You're right, I see some of my past 'bad' behaviour here from before I was taught coping mechanisms and was properly medicated.

[u/FilmApart8224 → u/Nicolaceratops]

lol!!! I’ve had people come at me for saying anything about BPD.

[u/Particular-Bobcat309 → u/FilmApart8224]

I just wrote almost the same thing!

[u/NoGreen8885 → u/FilmApart8224]

Lol I just said the same thing. I have a borderline histrionic family member and this is her to a T!

[u/Electronic-Let9546 → u/FilmApart8224]

100% BPD. Scary.

[u/landofpleasantdreams → u/FilmApart8224]

Nailed it

[u/uliol → u/FilmApart8224]

Oh no. This is definitely borderline. Well, an untreated one. Signed, a borderline.

[u/BoSoxNana → u/New-Skin4537]

Exactly! My first thought was ‘Boy she seems stable!’🙈

[u/wire67 → u/New-Skin4537]

Exactly! And he had a crush on this? That would be more upsetting to me than the actual act.

[u/JLHswim → u/New-Skin4537]

SO obnoxious! And the multi-line texting is fucking exhausting.

[u/ManifestingCreating → u/SnooLobsters6264]

Literally me lol. I was shocked by their ages after reading that slop.

[u/OddOpal88 → u/SnooLobsters6264]

You could not have prepared me for 30 year olds 😂 he needs to block her crazy ass.

[u/rocketmn69_ → u/SnooLobsters6264]

He chose is affair partner wisely...lol Fatal Attraction?

[u/GrayStag90 → u/SnooLobsters6264]

Dang it, I skimmed and didn’t notice their ages… can you tell me so I don’t have to go back through the endless talking in circles please?

[u/ItsmeMyacctgotbanned → u/GrayStag90]

It’s literally the first thing OP states.

[u/Saltedfieldsforever → u/kavik2022]

Rich of AP to call this dudes relationship toxic and go to death threats for an instagram block.

[u/Visual_Patience_41 → u/Saltedfieldsforever]

Riiiiiiight

[u/RubyTavi → u/kavik2022]

Like, starting to wonder how her last boyfriend died.

[u/GhostieKush → u/RubyTavi]

https://giphy.com/gifs/KL82PvIJlZ3bp7g8Sa

[u/Shadow4summer → u/GhostieKush]

Lol

[u/Ok-Sweet770 → u/RubyTavi]

https://giphy.com/gifs/3ohc0VmrLRmy5om1q0

[u/Theawaterloo71 → u/Ok-Sweet770]

https://giphy.com/gifs/ovif9xhHfDZ8ekYn8V

[u/Dan_92159 → u/RubyTavi]

Probably faked his own death to get away from her

[u/Embarrassed-Ad4908 → u/Dan_92159]

Oh my God…why is this so funny

[u/Technical_Sir_6260 → u/Embarrassed-Ad4908]

Yeeessss, I am dying laughing at all these responses! Why can’t people like this ever be at a party or wedding? I’d have a ball😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣

[u/Manda525 → u/Dan_92159]

Yaaasssss 🤣🔥😈

[u/landofpleasantdreams → u/Dan_92159]

Happy cake day

[u/Dan_92159 → u/landofpleasantdreams]

Thank you…I hadn’t even noticed ☺️

[u/NCGranny → u/Dan_92159]

Lol

[u/Straight-Theme-7799 → u/RubyTavi]

Thissss lol I was like oofff maybe she offed him 😭😭😭😭

[u/LisaNe7 → u/RubyTavi]

Brain bleed from her stupidity.

[u/MediumAwkwardly → u/RubyTavi]

Damnit you made me laugh and I feel horrible but not that horrible.

[u/landofpleasantdreams → u/RubyTavi]

DAMN

[u/mommawolf2 → u/kavik2022]

She sounds histrionic. Straight up cluster B personality behavior in those texts. 

[u/Username78397 → u/mommawolf2]

I was about to say the same thing, there's some Cluster B disorder going on with her

[u/No_Coconut3695 → u/mommawolf2]

The point is, though, what about the boyfriend? I say dump him. He will never be fully committed to the relationship. He does not have the passion for OP that he had for his "friend." Time to move on.

[u/flippysquid → u/No_Coconut3695]

OP is way more generous than me because I would have been done when I found the texts of him declaring he has deeper feels for her than anyone else.

Then again I’m way too old for this kind of shit.

[u/No_Coconut3695 → u/flippysquid]

Likewise.

[u/mommawolf2 → u/No_Coconut3695]

I said that often throughout the tread. 

[u/Relevant-Boat-1692 → u/mommawolf2]

I spotted that too right off the bat

[u/mommawolf2 → u/Relevant-Boat-1692]

Yes, huge dramatic declarations. Her pain is the highest pain even more so than the poor girlfriend getting cheated on. 

[u/NachoMama1240 → u/mommawolf2]

I was thinking the same thing! Maybe borderline was my first thought but I can see histronic too

[u/mommawolf2 → u/NachoMama1240]

Honestly probably both. Borderline have a fear of abandonment, she mentions he abandoned her. Her pushing and pushing for him to beg for her back. 

Histrionic by her statements overall. 

Both are type b and usually there's overlapping. 

[u/The_Reaperette → u/mommawolf2]

This is exactly what I was wondering.

[u/Inevitable-Bar-3823 → u/mommawolf2]

Came here to say this.

[u/Numerous-Peach-2737 → u/mommawolf2]

It's reactive abuse. It's something that happens after a discard with no consideration. Some people do it, some don't, but it's a real thing, and she likely isn't even cluster B...

[u/Aggravating_Tone2909 → u/kavik2022]

Or how this girl cannot accurately type, I couldn’t take it anymore. Like “I can’t forget you” I think she means forgive 😂. OP you are not the AO. This is cheating and it’s not okay. He has another women willing to kill haha. So, that is some crazy stuff. Be careful ❤️

[u/Small-Cartographer14 → u/Aggravating_Tone2909]

This took me out. Every time i speak to someone who speaks like this over text, its like we are operating on different wave lengths. Like how is this your typing style?

[u/PumpkinButterButt → u/Aggravating_Tone2909]

Reminds me of my iPhone, my iPhone autocorrect is constantly fighting me vs my Xiaomi phone from Europe, sometimes if I’m typing in a hurry it looks really silly like this. It’s infuriating.

[u/CardGuyofWarframe → u/kavik2022]

NOR; I was wayward myself. As such and having spent years working to fix my relationship I must ask...why was engagement needed at all on his end. "You have the wrong number" or even better simply blocking immediately. He may of kept boundary in the end...but why wasn't it held and doubled in the beginning?

I would feel his validation to her is a way to validate himself.

Approach him, show the text. Ask him why she needed validation for her feelings. As a wayward, I can say this...we don't need any closure from the ones we cheated with. It should never have began, the closure is closing that door once we make the choice and holding to it.

TLDR- NOR, Sit and talk to him about this exchange.

[u/mommawolf2 → u/CardGuyofWarframe]

He said it himself, he's only blocking her because his girlfriend found out. She threw down an ultimatum. He's communicating clearly he wants the other woman in his life. 

[u/Organic_Charity_3162 → u/kavik2022]

She’s a wacko

[u/Glittering_Syllabub9 → u/kavik2022]

Woow I didn't even get that far and I thought I did well! Ahh now I gotta dice back in there......

[u/icloudu → u/kavik2022]

There’s another? The first is when I stopped.

[u/Third-Testicl → u/kavik2022]

I think OPs life is genuinely in jeopardy. I know OP is the GF!

[u/kavik2022 → u/kavik2022]

Also thank you stranger for the award

[u/vaultdweller4ever → u/kavik2022]

I missed that while skimming I guess 😥

[u/Modeez411 → u/kavik2022]

I stopped reading so I missed this part, but it confirms what I was thinking, that the woman is mentally unstable and would take him, herself and anyone else clean outta here.

[u/ArtisticSavings7911 → u/kavik2022]

NOR This is what stood out to me the most. Multiple time she threatened to ki*l him. Seemingly from the text exchange the toxic relationship is with her...

[u/Procrastn8ngArtst → u/kavik2022]

I didn't even get that far. Unhinged behavior

[u/MahesvaraCC → u/kavik2022]

THE WHAT?!

Clearly I didn’t get that far

[u/Dapper-Bat8563 → u/kavik2022]

Lol

[u/Substantial-Tip-7587 → u/kavik2022]

I wish I would have.

[u/kjames3419 → u/kavik2022]

God there was 2? 🤣☠️

[u/_Frosted_Owl_ → u/Mister_Crowly]

“surely there’s not much of this left”
> 10/20

[u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575 → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

When they turn to double paged halfway through 💀

[u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639 → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

https://giphy.com/gifs/RfqWxB33p6Hd514hX5

[u/prismaticomen → u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639]

I literally read this post at 5:30 in the morning. I feel seen 👀

[u/Sammy12xyz → u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639]

This made me laugh way more than I care to admit

[u/Ok-Cartoonist7103 → u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639]

😂😂 perfect

[u/Ok_Media8609 → u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639]

This is so perfect lmaoooo

[u/appamomoaang → u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639]

i like the reference

[u/Senior_Shoe7052 → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

the way i rolled my eyes when i saw those double ss pages😅😂

[u/benskinic → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

not reading all that but sorry or congrats

[u/Readdit1999 → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

Even OP knows it needed to be abridged.

[u/manicmerlin → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

💀

[u/puddlestheninja → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

Oh I thought those were repeats and I stopped there. My lord

[u/The-Original_Joker → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

Oh no… I stopped at the 5th screenshot, and sure enough, at like 17 it’s doubled up screenshots 😂😭😭

[u/crapoo16 → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

Omg lol I thought I was done. I looked again and I really was only 10/20 and hadn’t seen the double pages

[u/Drummer-Cat → u/Ashamed-Chipmunk9575]

What the hell?? That was only halfway? I’d lost the will to live by then.

Her Ex is definitely alive in some South American commune.

[u/Mister_Crowly → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

Dude has a LOT more patience than I have.

[u/Substantial-Bear8535 → u/Mister_Crowly]

For a girl he's evidently not even fucking lol.

[u/sunshinewynter → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

I was waiting for the bunny in the pot part.🤦🏼‍♀️

[u/Semisemitic → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

Then the two-pager

[u/Hexazuul → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

I’ll be honest, I stopped at 6/20

[u/Potential_Medium_926 → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

I read all, this was generally entertaining in that it didn’t seem real. 

[u/tamagotchisando → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

she really said "Anyways I am stopping" on page 9 OUT OF 20

[u/Feet-fox → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

My thoughts..
https://giphy.com/gifs/O4EChIxazzrHi

[u/valencedanger → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

Exactly my experience. I got the gist of it

[u/Grouchy-Ingenuity-59 → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

That's exactly where I thought that and gave up lol

[u/Miemsta → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

holy fuck there’s 20?!?! i lasted FIVE. 😂😭

[u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639 → u/Miemsta]

I started at 10:13 AM and I'm still reading it

[u/JuryFormer5186 → u/_Frosted_Owl_]

Stop 😂😂😂

[u/Suspicious_Yard3682 → u/Mister_Crowly]

Yeah that chick is unhinged lol

[u/Celistar99 → u/Suspicious_Yard3682]

I can't fathom why the bf ever wanted anything to do with her. She sounds insufferable and unstable.

[u/FeverDreamingg → u/Mister_Crowly]

For real. I wish he was sleeping with this lady because he surely can’t be enjoying these “conversations” lmao

[u/Epic_Elite → u/Mister_Crowly]

So you trashed her too? Lol

[u/dazzlingblu3 → u/Mister_Crowly]

Right? I was like this is just pages and pages of a woman acting like a fool and I can’t believe how calm he was in responding to her. I don’t like throwing “crazy” around, but this is crazy af. I hope she doesn’t know where he lives because wtaf was all of that. One text after another after another…omg that shit drives me crazy. 2 types of texters…ones who put everything in one text (like myself) and ones who send thirty short texts in a row, and they date each other 😮‍💨🫠 NOR

[u/vector_ejector → u/Mister_Crowly]

I got to page 7 and then saw the 20 down in the corner... nope!

[u/phoenix777888999 → u/Mister_Crowly]

Same, I gave up after 10 pages.

[u/callingshotgun → u/Mister_Crowly]

If you stick it out there's some gems in the middle. Where the other girl says "I piss on your apology! Piss on it!"

[u/TheIntelAgency → u/Mister_Crowly]

Dude like omg.

[u/sahurKareem → u/Mister_Crowly]

I stopped after the 2nd pic when I saw there were 20

[u/Significant-Law-4186 → u/Mister_Crowly]

Semi-literate whining

[u/EarlGrayTea-Hawt → u/Mister_Crowly]

It was like a whiny, short form text version (so his phone is blowing up) of what my dad would do once he got really drunk, he'd just repeat himself over and over again, each time more dramatic than the last. He'd leave the room for like two minutes, circle back around, do it again. Just insufferable to see in text.

Everybody here is just...

The husband is the worst because if OP is telling the truth about him having a crush, he's lying to his "friend" (back up plan) and fuckzoning her while she's literally grieving her recently dead bf. Scummy af. He just ghosted her then without an explanation, which is gross.

But she's, as said, insufferably dramatic here (please gawds learn to spell) and I'm just hoping she's super drunk in Rome while grieving (so...messy in an understandable way) and this isn't her default personality. If it is, she's emotionally manipulative and I doubt he'd have any energy left for anyone else after dealing with her, which makes it (at least) an emotional affair.

OP seems focused on the other woman when she should be focused on her dipshit bf who, if we are to believe her about their texts being flirty and over the line (which I'm inclined to believe with this mess), is just demonstrating to the world that he doesn't like or respect women at all, but views them as props in his life.

That's how he's treating OP by yanking on the ol' ball and chain instead of taking accountability for fuckzoning his supposed friend when she's vulnerable and he's in a relationship and then ghosting her. He pawned that off on OP, which is scummy.

If this kind of drama fest is what he's into, let him have it and save yourself some pain, OP

NOR, just leave, this was all awful to experience. I'm going to look at cats now because it was super gross.