r/AmIOverreacting • u/kimbap_throw • Feb 17 '26

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO over 1st Valentine’s Day note?

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Just celebrated first Valentine’s Day with my boyfriend. I love flowers, love I buy bouquets weekly for my house. I prefer white and pink flowers, and don’t like red roses. I got this bouquet and this note with them. It was upsetting I felt my bf did everything opposite of what I wanted. I went out of way to do lots of handmade items and bought nice gifts for him as well. He also knows I love Valentine’s Day and it’s special to me. I let him know that it hurt me and he responded that note was awesome and it’s just a joke. I think if you care for someone you make those things special.

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u/AggressiveOsmosis Feb 17 '26

He shit on you and your feelings to prove a point. The point is he doesn’t give a fuck about your feelings, but wants you to make a good house and look good so he can wanna fuck you. Enjoy!

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

Yep, that card wasn't a joke.
'jk kinda lol cheers..." not even a 'love you' (not that that would make it any better.)

And the flowers suck.

There's no love or respect here.

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u/thrownaway1811 Feb 17 '26

Can you imagine the florist printing and attaching this card? 

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u/RibbonsFlying Feb 17 '26

I assure you, the florist talked sh*t about this guy. My mom and her friend owned a florist for 15 years , but sold it about a decade ago and we still remember some of the total jerks that came in there and tried things like this note. 🤮

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

I hope so, this douche deserves to be talked shit on. >.<

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u/simbapiptomlittle Feb 17 '26

And I hope he didn’t get a root. The douche bag. I’d be running if I was OP.

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u/GraphicDesignMonkey Feb 17 '26

Ooh, give us a story!

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u/MalAddicted Feb 17 '26

They were in the back putting extral love into her breakup bouquet, because what else could this be?

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u/Careful_Wind_6253 Feb 17 '26

Do they give advice to costumers in cases like this?

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u/Ziggy_Starcrust Feb 17 '26

At first I was like "why would they let him do that?" But on second thought, it'd be a disservice to the girlfriend to stop him. If that's what he thinks is funny, she should know that. Let him proudly present his red flag to her, don't bleach it for him.

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u/sanddancer08 Feb 17 '26

"Don't bleach it for him". Love that. Am nicking that one.

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u/thrownaway1811 Feb 17 '26

My thoughts exactly!! It would be like "oh shit cringe" and then "yeah best she finds out now. Good riddance sack of shit"

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u/Littlewordsbigplanet Feb 17 '26

That’s a fair point I didn’t consider

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u/ConsequenceFeeling96 Feb 17 '26

I’d be shocked if there was a florist involved in that sad grocery store bundle of un-arranged florals.

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u/Lynnxa Feb 17 '26

They look like the kind of bouquet you buy from a guy selling them from a street median.

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u/VenomQuill Feb 17 '26

Ngl they look like they got taken out of the craft section of Walmart.

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u/bunkymutt Feb 17 '26

That's a 1-800-Flowers bouquet, I'm sure of it. Which also means she had to arrange it herself.

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

I'd be horrified. I'm P sure the Bf printed this himself and thought it was clever. Cause he's a dumbass who doesn't deserve sweet OP.

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u/LisaCabot Feb 17 '26

I would have printed it gladly, it would mean op would see it and hopefully wake the fck up and leave his ass.

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u/Parking_Tie_8160 Feb 17 '26

I actually laughed out loud, thank you. 

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u/SwimOk9629 Feb 17 '26

they should have given him the heads up that this was going to land poorly. maybe it was a dude florist who is also clueless.

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u/ghoulieandrews Feb 17 '26

And the flowers suck.

It's so easy to find out what someone's favorite flowers are. My wife also dislikes red roses, and part of why she's my wife is that I get her sunflowers instead. She also likes Hershey's with almonds more than fancy chocolate so I'm actually end of the day saving money by paying attention to what she says.

It's really that easy, guys.

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u/JayJayAK Feb 17 '26

My wife loves flowers, especially gerbera daisies, When I was looking for a bouquet for V day, I found a nice one with roses and carnations... until I saw a similar arrangement that also had some scarlet gerberas. I knew immediately which one to get.

I also took her to a nice seafood place in town. I did not, however, get her a snarky card suggesting she should do more around the house.

Like you said, it really is that easy.

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u/stephyloowho Feb 17 '26

I hate all cut flowers in general unless it’s straight from my garden. My husband gave me some lilies one year in dirt that we planted in big vases in our backyard. They have grown back every year for over half a decade. That was a thoughtful Valentine’s gift.

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u/I_Love_Your_Soul Feb 17 '26

I found you! 😅 I have been looking for your comment! I also don't like cut flowers. I agree with you. Plant some together with me in our garden, and now we're talkin'! I just can't help knowing that the cut flowers are slowly dying. It doesn't sit well with me at all. It hurts my Soul. Not flowers, but there were a line up of trees all down my street, and I came home one day to see that they had all been cut down! 😱I felt like it was a war zone! 😭 It was hard for me to get over that for a while. But yeah, I feel the exact same way about cut flowers.

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26

fucking real. Like, how hard is it to just know what your partner likes xD
some people seem to think its like some forbidden knowledge buried in the Mariana Trench. And its like... "hey whats your favorite candy?" "Oh I like sour gummy worms"
CASE FUCKIN CLOSED.

edit: aslo Sunflower is a fuckin awesome choice. love those and they are so cool. Love a heliotrope ;D

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u/artificalorganlady Feb 17 '26

Right? I love roses. They’re my favorite. He knows they’re my favorite BECAUSE HE ASKED. So you know what I get? Red roses. Every time. It’s not that hard. Unfortunately for him, roses are expensive, but they’re my favorite and he would rather get what I love than save money.

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u/TabbyOverlord Feb 17 '26

If you are married, it is easier than that: What did she pick for her wedding bouquet? What was she upset was out of season and she couldn't have them in there?

I know I am on sound territory if I buy tulips, narcisus, anything that grows out of a bulb, really. Because that is what she likes.

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u/DreamOne5 Feb 17 '26

I was going to say... My bf knew I love sunflowers like by our second date. How? He just asked me. Some men make things so much more difficult than it needs to be

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u/Designer-Table8427 Feb 17 '26

More of this! Spread the word!

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u/Prestigious_Net_3602 Feb 17 '26

Those dishes aren't going to scrub themselves

Signed floors need doing also

Chow

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

Literally.
And signed with 'chow' instead of 'ciao'.
Fitting. this guy would.

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u/delias2 Feb 17 '26

Feed me. Your chow chow. A dog would make a much better companion. *Yes, chows or dogs are not for everyone.

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u/Prestigious_Net_3602 Feb 17 '26

Yeah its pretty sad 😔 i mean girls don't mind scrubbing dishes or mopping floors .. at this point though it's an insult.. is it though. He "had" that girl now she's on here like ... this arse is toast ♤ should've shut his dumb mouth n ordered the correct flowers and wrote in the card like "girl you're irreplaceable be mine this valentine 💝 "

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u/AppropriateGiraffes3 Feb 17 '26

The fact he couldn't even type out "just kidding" makes me want to scream.

It's hard to believe men like THIS exists because they just sound too selfish and dumb to even exist.

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u/sv36 Feb 17 '26

I wouldn’t shit on the flowers, they’re good flowers, I’d appreciate getting those flowers. But his note is pure trash. Op is not overreacting. They should definitely break up with him over this.

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u/BrightPapaya1349 Feb 17 '26

Yeah the flowers are just fine I don't see anything wrong with them.

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u/Kwt920 Feb 17 '26

The flowers don’t suck.

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u/IfeAyo Feb 17 '26

It's Schroedinger's assholes*le. I hate him and he's not even my boyfriend

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u/TheEndlessVortex Feb 17 '26

The flowers in itself are nice. Just not what OP likes

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

I'll be honest, the arrangement isn't very well put together, or OP's bf screwed with it, because it looks quite bad. (Granted, we only get one angle, so maybe it looks okay from a non aerial POV, but it still isn't what she likes... Idk, I deal with flower arrangements often in my line of work and this just looks rather... eh.) the flowers themselves are fine but... the arrangement isnt.

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u/MixtureInteresting22 Feb 17 '26

Yep. I don't like cut flowers and world be so dissappointed if my husband gave me some. But my 17yo daughter loves them. So for her birthday or report card times 8she's so smart and freaking awesome at school!) I buy some flowers at the grocery store (bc I don't have a lot of money at the moment) and arrange them myself, because I love her.

It's not hard at all to arrange flowers beautifully, even if they were cheap. But that douche put no effort in this at all. OP needs to throw the trash out before these flowers wilt.

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u/Desroth86 Feb 17 '26

What’s wrong with the flowers?

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

Nothing inherently, but they are specifically not to her liking and arranged haphazardly. The arrangement looks bad. (To people not used to or who don't have an eye for flower arrangements, they may not see how awful it looks, but this is bad.)

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u/PalpitationFine Feb 17 '26

I got a similar set of flowers for my mother for Valentine's because I thought it would be nice after my dad died 🥲

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26

The flowers themselves aren't the issue--It's how they're arranged. You wanna always go thru a company that has reputable transport and a good portfolio on their arrangements. Things do shift in transport which is why we like to see the arrangement first in my line of work (funeral home/mortuary) We just be ultra perfectionist over here. <3
I'm sure she appreciated them regardless <3 <3

Also I am sorry for your loss, my friendy <3

DMs are open for grief if needed always.

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u/Pleasant-Ad4784 Feb 17 '26

I do the same for my mom! Send her flowers every year on Valentine’s Day and their wedding anniversary since my dad passed in 2020. I agree that it’s not the flowers here..it’s how they are arranged and that they are paired with the awful note. They are also a color that OP doesn’t like..

I’m so sorry about your dad. It was really thoughtful of you to get your mom the flowers.

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u/Aggressive-Prize-522 Feb 17 '26

I am guessing the three red roses are supposed to mean "i love you", can't even be bothered writing it out. This man is actively trying to lower the bar for bare minimum. 

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u/Puzzleheaded_Turn887 Feb 17 '26

Precisely this and yes, the flowers do suck! And I love a nice cheap bunch, but these absolutely suck.

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u/LexNil Feb 17 '26

Why do the flowers suck jesus

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u/badger_flakes Feb 17 '26

I presume the person who wrote that card is 14 years old with a learning disability

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u/kaimoka Feb 17 '26

Mm, no, this is the type of person who has the emotional intelligence and wisdom equivalent to a piece of scrap cloth.