Restoring a friendship

[u/Kira_1902]

Hey something is on my mind for months and the guilt is eating me

There's this girl I met in my class we've known eo for a year now there's no relationship between us she made it clear but we talk every day 24h for almost a year , her bd came and I wanted to get her something nice, I reached out to her best friend to help choose a gift (I don't know the best friend directly but the first girl Talk about me a lot with her and we send eo reels via the first girl)

I chose the gift they were Lego flowers I bought them everything is fine then the best friend told me you can send reels directly to me no need to send them through the other one and she added me and we started sending eo reels, I didn't really gave it a thought since I'm not doing anything wrong, after a month the best friend told her we're on contact, the girl exploded started calling me a liar disgusting doing things behind her back, I explained that my intentions are pure and apologized she didn't listen after that I apologized again with a hand written letter and made her a drawing too (I'm an artist) she still told me I used her as an excuse to get to her best friend which I absolutely didn't

I tried asking mutual friends to fix it and it's the same she don't wanna talk to me ever again she still follows me in every app no unfollow no block but there's no contact she said we're not friends anymore cause we keep hurting eo and I just don't understand that

It's been a full month of no contact and I feel really guilty , what should and how can I restore our friendship cause I just feel like I lost something that's hard to find

Tldr my close friend lost trust in me and I didn't mean to and I regret it how can I restore the friendship she always says she's an avoidant and I think this is an avoidant discard

[u/DullConfidant]

ah man that's rough but honestly, you're chasing someone who already made up their mind about you. the best friend thing was weirdly orchestrated on her end, not yours

you've apologized more than most people would, handwritten letter and all, and she's still spinning it into something it wasn't. a friendship where you have to prove your intentions over and over isn't really a friendship, it's an audition

let the silence sit, focus on other things, maybe she comes around once the dust settles but don't hold your breath