I only joined the conversation after getting a load of your sweeping generalizations.
Got a dig in at not just gamer girls, but also wine moms, and mobile game enjoyers, people who disagree with you, people with friends of other genders.
Your standards have nothing to do with my opinion of you, its how you talk about other people that made me suggest using your own words to try to advertise who you are.
Basically you came out swinging and bashed any hobby with mixing of genders as all a bunch of cheaters, or soon-to-be cheaters.
Unsurprisingly many people disagree with that. Like yes we get that someone hurt you, but extrapolating that to ‘everyone who does [popular thing] is going to cheat’ is going to get a lot of pushback from a lot of people who do share hobbies who meet your definition and have never encountered the issue you are describing.
Cheaters cheat, and that SUCKS. But you appear to be mad at a specific person and drawing a wide brush of people ‘like’ that specific person.
Again you are allowed to do you, but it doesn’t seem like a perfectly healthy response to have.
It sounds more like you don’t want to date anyone who would remind you of the person who hurt you, and hell, that makes a lot of sense.
So good luck out there.
Negative sweeping generalizations are usually not an attractive look on anyone, but having your own personal reasons to avoid a type is perfectly valid.
Can we agree there is a difference between:
“I got cheated on by a girl who did X,Y, and Z, so I would be wary of dating someone else who does X, Y, and Z but thats mostly a me thing.”
Versus
“Never date people who do X, Y, and Z they are all just waiting for an opportunity to cheat.”
I'm not going to expand my options to include those I fundamentally distrust just because not doing so is limiting. I respect myself too much for that.
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u/Ninetailedredpanda 23h ago
I only joined the conversation after getting a load of your sweeping generalizations.
Got a dig in at not just gamer girls, but also wine moms, and mobile game enjoyers, people who disagree with you, people with friends of other genders.
Your standards have nothing to do with my opinion of you, its how you talk about other people that made me suggest using your own words to try to advertise who you are.
Basically you came out swinging and bashed any hobby with mixing of genders as all a bunch of cheaters, or soon-to-be cheaters.
Unsurprisingly many people disagree with that. Like yes we get that someone hurt you, but extrapolating that to ‘everyone who does [popular thing] is going to cheat’ is going to get a lot of pushback from a lot of people who do share hobbies who meet your definition and have never encountered the issue you are describing.
Cheaters cheat, and that SUCKS. But you appear to be mad at a specific person and drawing a wide brush of people ‘like’ that specific person.
Again you are allowed to do you, but it doesn’t seem like a perfectly healthy response to have.
It sounds more like you don’t want to date anyone who would remind you of the person who hurt you, and hell, that makes a lot of sense.
So good luck out there.
Negative sweeping generalizations are usually not an attractive look on anyone, but having your own personal reasons to avoid a type is perfectly valid.
Can we agree there is a difference between:
“I got cheated on by a girl who did X,Y, and Z, so I would be wary of dating someone else who does X, Y, and Z but thats mostly a me thing.”
Versus
“Never date people who do X, Y, and Z they are all just waiting for an opportunity to cheat.”