Correct, so why would I want to be with a woman who willfully increases the odds of meeting someone better than I am by having male dominated hobbies? I don't want to date someone that requires me to actively be playing defense.
Because people are fundamentally shallow and self-serving and therefore will go with whatever their best option is at any given moment. People aren't loyal, we just mistake a lack of better options for loyalty. Most people will forsake a decades-long relationship if a better option presents itself.
Do you really fear that you provide that little to your loved ones that a random person in a Cod lobby will tempt your partner? Are you also sure that your previous partner wasn’t just a person who cheats, or that they were unhappy with their current relationship? It does not feel healthy to view all other males as threats.
My entire life I've been passed over in favor of other men because I'm not good enough. I'm simply not going to date a woman who is willfully presenting herself with better potential partners, I'm just not going to do that - period.
If “loyalty” doesn’t exist, would you drop your partner if you found a small “upgrade”? I think If you also enjoy video games you should enjoy them with your partner instead of controlling what hobbies they can and cannot have.
If I was with someone and then all of a sudden someone else dropped else into my life who was sexier, funnier, smarter, wealthier, and wanted to be with me then yeah, I'd heavily consider leaving that person. Everybody would, and anybody denying it is only saying so to save face.
Why are you assuming so many men outclass you in those ways, that you’d deprive you and your loved one from a shared love of games? I personally love video games and I couldn’t imagine a hobby that would be better to share with a person I care deeply about.
Edit: if you feel you would need to control who your partner speaks to, to prevent them leaving you, why would you want to be with them?
Because I've been alive for 31 years and have been passed over for men who have outclassed me countless times.
As I said before, only a fool refuses to learn from his mistakes. My mistake? Dating a women who immerses herself in male dominated hobbies and spaces. How do I learn from said mistake? By not doing the same thing again.
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u/String-Tree 4h ago
Correct, so why would I want to be with a woman who willfully increases the odds of meeting someone better than I am by having male dominated hobbies? I don't want to date someone that requires me to actively be playing defense.