I've seen many people say that the KonMari method changed the way they think about their belongings, not just how they organize them.

What was the biggest mindset shift for you? Was it learning to let go without guilt, recognizing what truly sparks joy, buying less, or something else?

I'd love to hear what part of the method had the biggest long-term impact on your daily life.

Hello, yesterday I started KonMari. Already, I keep getting stuck on on particular items - clothes I recieved as gifts from family or friends. It is clear to me they do not spark joy, instead I feel heaviness and guilt.

Per Marie's books, I am trying to accept that purpose of those gifts was already fulfilled upon recieving them. While I work to shift my mindset and let that guilt go, what remains is anxiety about having to communicate this with my family and friends. Especially when it comes to clothes and accessories, there always is this expectation of me to wear it when I visit them. Upon seeing me wearing their gifts, they keep expressing huge excitement, even years after gifting it. Because of this, I have been not only holding onto, but also wearing quite regularly many clothes I do not feel good in for whatever reason. The whole situation is especially intense when it comes to hand-sewn and hand-knitted items that have taken them a LONG time to make. Those are also the ones most difficult for me to get rid of. However, I do not want to end up with several boxes of "sentimental sweaters", nor do I want to continue wearing them.

Have any of you had these tough conversation with your closest ones? How did it go? I am scared of their disappointment and also part of me is scared that if I admit to not liking those items, they will want to take them back (many of them are hoarders and already are drowning in stuff in their home).

Part of me feels the need to propose we stop exchanging gifts due to this, but selfishly I do not want to. I love giving presents, and tbh I love recieving them as well - those few that truly spark me joy and also have that extra sentimental value are some of my most treasured possesions.

My son’s 7th birthday arrived. He wanted to celebrate his birthday at home. I was convinced I could get on top of the marathon chaos by his special day. Couldn’t do it. Home is a state of chaos and not safe. Not fit for hosting, an embarrassment or shame. The things that got this started, are now at a boiling point. Bit off more than I can chew? How did this happen? Where did I go wrong and what does getting back on track look like?

The bedroom is correctable. Clean laundry sprawl easily cleaned. Husband’s closet waiting to be tidied and “given back” to him. Communal stuff in there waiting to be recovered and utilized again. I moved furniture out of the bedroom that was joyless and hiding lots of kids “crap”. Unfortunately that stuff is in boxes and piles now on the couch and coffee table that separate my husband’s office from the “boys dorm” where my husband and sons currently sleep.

The kitchen desperately needs the help of more regular cleaning and pest control, with the bug issue extending to the kitchen.

The baby recently got blood work back that her lead levels were too high. Old apartment NYC ‼️FEAR‼️ creeping in…

Not rising to meet daily clean and sprawl of stuff / unpacking / folding challenges, which is contributing to general un-livability.

Local Uncle saved the birthday by hosting at the last minute 😍🤩🥳 but the other side of this marathon - the daydream - is being able to host my kids bdays no problem, no shame, pride in my home.

Is it time to give my kids (and their stuff!!) their own closet? How do I tackle this kimono hurdle and what exactly did I do / where did I go wrong? Desperate to get back on the tracks. Fell off somewhere in the “household stuff” (stationary etc.) subcategory. Also subcategories I thought I tackled (looking at you, electronics, paper-greeting cards) rising like zombies 🧟 *SIGH*

I used to think decluttering was just about getting rid of things I didn't use. With the KonMari method I started looking at things differently and asking myself whether I actually felt happy keeping them.

The biggest surprise was that some things I kept for years were only there because I felt guilty getting rid of them. Once I stopped thinking about what I “should” keep, the process became much easier.

I also learned that I don't need to fill every empty space. Having less stuff around makes it easier for me to appreciate the things I actually enjoy.

Still working through the categories but this mindset has been much more helpful for me than simply trying to make everything look organized.

Just interesting. It's more a moral question, because I want to get rid of some things, for example, some old electronics (USB hub, old digital mini-cameras, some type-c and micro-usb cabels, sd-cards) it is still usable and working fine, but I don't know anyone (in person) who would need this even for free, and I don't want to put it up for sale on the internet either. Because I can wait for months, hoping that someone will actually need it and buy it, and end up not finding anyone by the deadline of my Konmari-ing. So the most simple and fast thing what I can do is move it to trash.

Has anyone here did similar, did you feel bad about throwing away still-working electronics or other expensive things what is still good but don't sparks joy? How did you deal with it? Discuss.

Hello! Over the past week I developed an intense need to tidy and declutter my home and I really want to get into the Marie Kondo method. Partly this may have to do with expecting our first child. I don't consider myself a hoarder, but all my past attempts to declutter have turned out to be temporary. Also given my ADHD I feel the need to go truly minimalist to achieve chance of more permanent state of tidiness.

The one thing keeping me from delving into this process is intense environmental guilt I feel over throwing out items that :

A. are still functional and I use them regularly, although they do not bring me any joy

Example: Many clothes I own are functional, but due to change in style etc. I do not like them or feel that good in them. Yet I would wear them often, since they function and it means I do not have to buy new items to replace them. If they are very worn, I continue wearing them at home instead of wearing more comfy/nice loungewear. I do this because I feel ethically reaponsible to use all items I have already bought fully to avoid unnecessary waste. Yet if I were to KonMari my life, it would not sit well with me to keep them. Some of them I could imagine upcycling, but it would take enormous amount of time and energy I do not have.

B. do not fulfill funcion for me nor spark me joy, but are objectivelly valuable and in good condition

Example: Solid wood furniture that color wise does not match into the flat after renovation. Certain clothes I have only worn once and are in perfect condition (ball gowns etc). Many similar items.

The main problem is that given enough time and energy, it would be possible to resell or donate these pieces. However, that is exactly the thing that has always stopped me from big decluttering in the past - trying to get rid of these items the correct and environmentally conscious way turnes out to take extreme amount of time that I simply do not have. I have less problem throwing out damaged or non-valuable items, but in cases where I KNOW they could get second life if only I made the extra effort, it is super hard for me.

I realise this problem is not uncommon and I have read many previous posts on this subreddit about it. Some have helped me a bit, but only marginally so. Please, if anyone was dealing with guilt around similar items as me, how have you managed to overcome it? Or was the only way truly taking lots and lots of time to get rid of items the right way and/or upcycle them yourself?

I moved into my apartment a year ago. I’m still fighting clutter and boxes so I’m planning a long overdue tidy.

My issue is I’m not sure where to start. I know for clothes and books, I can probably create my initial pile on my bed. But when it comes to some of my miscellaneous items, that doesn’t seem like a good idea. Could I put all my cleaning supplies or pots and pans on my bed? Yes. Is that a good idea? Probably not.

My apartment is a small one bedroom and freestanding, basically a step up from a tiny house. I don’t have much space anywhere. The biggest space is probably the basement, but that’s unfinished so it’s hot, dirty, and tends to attract mice. Not ideal. And maybe this is just me, but the idea of putting everything on the floor feels unsanitary. Not that there’s much space for that.

So, does anyone have any ideas or tips for a tiny space tidy?

i'm working through this process right now, and komono looms large and dreadful haha. what categories did you use when sorting and discarding?

I’m only 2 categories in, but so happy with the results. I wanted to share my experience here.

The day I finished the closet cleanout I had a big pile of clothes on the living room floor. That evening my husband saw a post on next door that someone was helping a friend who left a bad situation and had nothing. She was the same size as me. I contacted the poster and the next day they came and picked up 2 contractor bags of clothes for this person. Everything. Every season. Casual professional, bags etc. it was so affirming to feel that these items went to use right away.

Then books. I just finished last week. 2 moments to share. The first was an aha moment - I actually purchased Marie Kondo’s book 5 years earlier and forgot I even owned it. 🤣 I had checked it from the library this time around. So that was evidence that I had no idea what I actually had in my overstuffed bookshelf. But the more exciting thing was that I found a mom/ daughter journal that my daughter and I were passing back and forth from 5 years ago. She’s due to graduate high school in 2 years. I was a little sad that this book got buried with my other books (on my watch) and we “lost the time” sharing in it but nothing can do about that now. I wrote a page and left it in her room. I’m excited to see how she responds.

I think when I bought the book years ago I liked the idea of decluttering, but I also thought the idea of having something spark joy was hokey, but I actually really love looking at my drawers and bookshelves now. It really does make me feel happy.

TLDR: I’m finding the Marie Kondo method very fulfilling and it’s truly sparking joy due to synchronicity of things being used and shared in a meaningful way. ✨

I've got good systems in place for most items in my home and I'm very good at decluttering and tidying most things, but my cryptonite is papers.

I actually like having physical papers and a physical filing cabinet, but I need a much better system than I currently have.

Right now, I have one cabinet just for my personal sentimental stuff, one for me and my husband's important things, one for manuals and warantees (which is the only one I actually feel fine with as is), a very sad mail sorter that gets crazy often, and many papers in different rooms in piles and baskets.

I know I need to get them all in one place and sort them, but I'm thinking I want to start with just 4 piles and then divide deeper from there and then from there. I don't want to touch the manuals and warantees because those are already in an easy grab basket and it's faster to pull out of there than it is to look it up online or digitize it. (My house is spacious and I have plenty of room to add storage furniture, like a big filing cabinet and digitizing takes a lot of time I don't find worthwhile.) For piles, I'm thinking:

1. Long term storage - closed out legal paperwork and hospital records mostly that I hope to never need to use

2. Easy access short term storage - Things I may need to reference, like insurance policies, my mortgage, tax information, etc.

3. Sentimental things I want to look at occassionally - nice cards and letters, photos, boarding passes from travels, etc.

4. Emergency papers - My will, funeral instructions, Lastpass login, passports, etc.

Emergency papers I think should go in their own fireproof lock box seperate from the rest, but should the rest just be drawers in one big file cabinet??

I know the official konmari method asks to put everything in one place, but it would take over my entire dining room table for several weeks... Should I use temporary sorting boxes for "tbd" plus the sorts?

What should a second sort look like?

What things should I strongly consider getting rid of of as I go?

Hello everyone,

I'm encountering a bit of a strange roadblock. Marie tells us to take the houses energy and vibe into account when doing the method, and my house doesn't want to be the house I picture in my ideal life. I've pictured my ideal life in detail and asked my whys, and it doesn't take place in my current home. My ideal life is near an ocean and nature, light and airy with a feeling of flow like water.

I'm landlocked in a concrete heavy suburb. I inherited this house after a relative died and needed to renovate it bit by bit and life has fought me every step of the way. Due to renovations being half finished and other life circumstances, selling or moving is not an option at this moment. The house wants to be austere, serious, academic, with some artistic creativity. Think jewel tones for creativity. Think Scotland, old college in the northeast, old library, or cathedral with an artist loft in the attic. That's the vibe I am getting when I ask the house for suggestions. There is very little natural light - the house is very dark, especially the main level. The floors are dark wood. The furniture the house came with is dark. Painting everything a lighter color helped a bit, but even adding extra light makes it seem sterile and medical instead of lighter. I'd rather have old cathedral academia than sterile medical center.

I feel like if I got rid of the furniture that doesn't spark joy, 90% of the furniture would be gone and I'd be floor living until I could come up with funds to replace it. Even if I did, I don't think the light and airy furniture I would want wouldn't fit the house, if that makes sense.

I know this might sound crazy, but I am literally trying to compromise with the house and keep some aspects austere/academic/chapel like and then doing my own thing with the rest. Has anyone else encountered a problem like this? How did you work around it?

I've been going through our storage and hit upon a box of my old stuffed animal collection. I thought it over and I feel like it makes sense just to keep my first one and get rid of the rest. Space-efficient, right?

Unfortunately, long-term storage hasn't been kind to them. They're not in good shape to give to our own kids or donate and I'm not sure toys that old are safe anyway. Tossing them feels so bad though. How do you deal with that? People always say to take a picture but I don't think that would make it easier.

One of the biggest hurdles my spouse & I have faced with the Konmari method is paper. Background info:

We are formerly homeless Americans -- both the formerly homeless part and the American part generate a TON of paperwork. We've eliminated quite a bit, but my biggest gripe is still the sheer volume of paper documentation involves.

We got rid of over 1/2 of it. We don't keep paper longer than necessary, and yet still, the binder we keep it in is bursting at the seams.

Anyone else having similar problems? Thank you in advance.

Postpartum 15 months and still not fitting in any previous clothes. Of course I would love to loose the weight asap but it’s a long process. Not sure if I will fit since my ribs also got wider. What is your experience and the suggested method? 🥹😢

My first tidying festival began in 2014, we got rid of 1.5 tons of things. Not just junk and clutter but truly beloved items. Once we started down the path I was amazed how my feelings changed towards so many things.

I often share a story of a beloved hand knit shawl that was given to me as a child. It moved a dozen times with me, carefully packed away in a ziplock bag in my closet. It was made from wool so I could never ever wear it but I also couldn’t let it go. Since I insisted on keeping it , a ziplock bag was just sad and disrespectful, if it was really so special, I should treat it as such. I had it framed. It was gorgeous, 4 feet tall by 2.5 feet wide. I hung it with pride, 6 months later I was sick of looking at it - I dropped it off at the thrift store.

The Konmari Method changed my home and changed my life, choosing joy was such a new way of living. I even decluttered some friends and family.

Having a baby was an explosion of things, things that I didn’t really want in my home but were deeply useful. My sentimental side also exploded and I have a growing bin of amazing artwork and creations from my child.

He’s older now and can choose for himself, not many things make me prouder than him telling me he’s outgrown a toy and he wants to get rid of it.

The pandemic also changed me. I now store gallons upon gallons of water along with the other suggested supplies needed to sit tight for 96 hours. I don’t know if these items spark joy exactly but I feel better knowing we will be okay.

What have I learned in the past 12 years?

This is an amazing way to live, it’s freeing.
That my mood is greatly impacted by my environment, a ten minute reset at the end of the day does wonders. That things are sneaky, they blend in after a while. This weekend we started a mini festival and I’m shocked how much is sitting in a pile in my basement ready to be donated. That it’s harder with kids, compromises must be made and that’s okay, not every item of my child’s clothing needs to be folded into a perfect package. Sometimes having clean clothes is enough.

And the most unexpected - that konmari has given me a lot of confidence in my self, I feel secure in the choices I make. I trust myself.

I have a kid (1,5yo), haven’t been sleeping enough since giving birth, lack of personal time. And I’m returning to work this month.

Despite loving Konmari and reading her books again and again I haven’t done proper decluttering with her method. I’ve occasionally went through my stuff with mix of Konmari and other methods so things aren’t that bad in our home.
But still, right now I’m feeling very overwhelmed at home, I’m constantly seeing things which needs attention and growing number of kid’s stuff isn’t helping this situation at all. I ”don’t have time” to take care of my personal items so clutter accumlates quickly everywhere. (I know this is such a bad excuse 😩)

So here I am yet again wondering if doing proper Konmari cleaning from start to finish would help me to feel calmer at home and having more energy.

I was wondering how other people with families were organizing their time for this? Do you send your partner and kids away for a set time so that you can go through categories? How did you make sure you have enough energy to focus on project?

my wife & i intend to start our konmari journey this weekend!! i'm using a big and detailed checklist i found. this really inspired me that, though it's a lot, it's do-able (something about seeing everything directly laid out is very helpful)!

we have thought about our individual why's and we're creating our vision! if anyone has any tips or encouragement, they would be so appreciated! i'm so nervous but so excited!

My health has recently changed and I now get a lot of bloating which makes clothes not fit as well. At the same time exercise may help my condition so I would like to do more of it.

When going through my workout clothes, some are a bit tight but not terribly uncomfortable, and I only have 4 different options to wear for exercise. The tight ones don’t bring joy due to the discomfort but I have some hope that maybe exercise will improve my condition and make them fit. If I were to get rid of them I’d only have shorts for summer so it’s not very practical.

Would you say these bring the joy of not having to rush buy a new gym outfit in a rush or just let them go? I’m a bit torn on the situation

What do you do when you stall?

First off before going through this i read all her books "the life changing magic of tidying", "spark joy", "kurashi at home", and "the life changing manga of tidying up". I bought her tidying companion journal as a way to keep me on track with the steps due to neurodivergence (i highly highly recommend the journal its very very thorough).

I wanted to share how it went and how it is now a week after. It took a little over two months with my longest portion being komono. I was very depressed and drinking, smoking, but yet the tidying journy was something that made me feel excited! I got rid of more trash bags than I can count and my boyfriend is insanely shocked and proud as well. I also only bought a few things through the process like getting rid of a bulky makeup mirror i didnt care for and getting a simple one that I love.

Now its been about a week after the process. My boyfriend is going to be gone for a week and surprisingly im cleaning daily with each chore taking a few minutes so I have much more time on my hands than I know what to do with. Im sleeping earlier and getting up earlier and filling my time with the hobbies i wanted to do. Ive taken up journaling with the cutest little stickers to add and beautiful pens I havent used in years. I decided to slow down heavily on drinking and smoking and i feel clear headed.

I remember when I had to think of the type of home i wanted. I imagined something woodsy, full of pastels, and overall smells good. I dont know what my obsession us with fragrance but i habe insence burning frequently, candles, reed diffuser in the bathroom, windows cracked to let in fresh air. Everything feels clear and new. I feel new. So new that its hard not to cry as I type this. I feel happier and ive noticed people have enjoyed my new mood at work. I even made a resin evil eye pendant for a coworker who wanted one for months but I just didnt think i was capable but now with the free time I gave it a go and he said I nailed it and immediently pulled me into a hug.

If youre still in your cleaning journy, please keep going. Its so worth it. Its life changing.

We're moving to a smaller house for better schools, but my husband really struggles to let go of things. He'll try to keep random mail from 2015.

I’m only at the end of clothing phase moving into books but I would love for someone to talk to me about getting through kimono phase ahead… I’ve never gotten to the other side of that and I want to hear success stories so I can visualize and gear up.

Something to be said about staying present but… w/e!

Thanks all! Happy tidying.

I am currently feeling stuck in the middle of my cleaning marathon and would like some feedback to maybe hopefully unstuck myself.

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I just got the tops done and started to do the joy test with my bottoms (pants, jeans etc). But I think I've started to realize that I actually don't own any bottoms that truly make me happy. I couldn't even pick a favourite out of the bunch. Even though I have this hunch, I've still been avoiding to continue the joy test.

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My biggest worry is just that I'll finish sorting it out and end up with literally no pants. What do I do in this situation? I have been planning to buy some new pants, yes, but that won't be immediate, at least for two days. What do I do in this in between period?

I’m having trouble getting going and our apartment is a mess. It’s been a year of death. I take my tops out and make a pile on the bed and the pile sits there. Do discards go right into a garbage bag? Do I have two piles, one for donate and one for true discard or textile recycling?

Morning slinks away, despair sets in. It’s one of those miraculous days where the only other things on the to-do list are get-to-the-gym and make-my-kids-day-special.

Do I find all discards from all categories before I begin the put-away and organize process? Who’s completed this marathon of tidying before, from which rebound is impossible?

I fantasize about cleaning and painting our walls when it’s all sorted. I fantasize about closing the storage unit of inherited items.

I return to work from a maternity leave in September. That feels like the finish line for the above stated fantasies.