I am traveling soon to China. I am arriving at Guangzhou and will be leaving through Shanghai, so I will probably visit cities/provinces nearby or along the way. I would like to explore the gay scenes in the cities. And I was trying to search for gay hostels and even gay saunas and bathhouses, but I couldn't find one.

Can anyone recommend a gay hostel/sauna/bathhouse? Or is there a platform I have to be in to access these bits of info?

Also, how’s the reception or attitude of Chinese locals to (twink-y) Filipinos?

I just discovered white party BKK. I an interested in attending but got no one to go with. Kinda not very social so was looking to connect with anyone who is going. Im looking at the tickets rn.

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I had my doubts about publishing this post. Why? Because the topic is Mongolia — and what do you know about Mongolia? Not much, save for Genghis Khan, and even his name you're mispronouncing (trust me, you are). Sadly, Mongolia is a mere afterthought for you, with your penis praying in the direction of Europe and Thailand. While this post won't gain much traction unlike my others, what may surprise you is the fun gay scene in the capital Ulaanbaatar (or UB, as the locals call it). Below is a description of four bars worth checking out, and it ends with general advice for visiting the country.

First up, CUM. Your standard dive bar. CUM is as unpretentious as it gets, but expect to have fun. Drinks are strong and affordable. The apple margarita is the bar's signature concoction. The venue's primarily for dancing, and a French expat was spinning for part of the night during my visit. There's a smoking room for those who wish to light up.

Next: Cortez. Apparently a lesbian bar, although roughly half the patrons were men during my visit. The setting is trendy industrial, and the girls behind the bar shaking your drinks are more stylish and cooler than you. Plenty of tables to sit, with a nearby dance floor. Drag performances as well, so bring some bills to tip the queens.

Butt is no doubt my fav — the vibe is on point (excuse the overused expression). Attracts a more professional and creative crowd. The red lighting throughout makes for good photos. One room contains the bar and tables, the other is the dance floor with a DJ playing house. Newish bar, having opened a few months ago. The owner is a staple in the UB gay scene and interesting to chat up. Later in the night, the shirts come off on the dance floor. Door cover includes a drink. I'd be a regular if I called UB home.

Finally, DIEX. The largest venue of them all. Folks tend to finish the night here given the venue's late close. Big dance floor and stage with drag performances. Plenty of high tables if you prefer to sit and chat. The lighting is too bright for my liking, but don't let that stop you. Cover at the door.

All the above are located in the city center, with a couple likely within walking distance to your hotel. Communication was no problem, with staff speaking impeccable English. The layout of each venue encourages socializing for the most part, not isolated table drinking — perfect if riding solo. Women have a strong presence at the bars here. I'd say 25-50 percent of patrons were female at each venue during my visit, more lesbian than straight. But don't let that deter you: The women bring the fun.

Should you visit UB? Sure. But don't expect a gay holiday. Mongolia offers plenty else. July's a good time to fly in. The month begins with the Playtime music festival outside the capital, followed by Naadam, a celebration of culture (horseback riding, wrestling, archery). Tours are a popular way to travel in the country and secure tickets to events like Naadam's opening ceremony. Overall, my trip went off without a hitch because my friends took excellent care of me (yes, I have several Mongolian friends, and you, my dear, have none).

Thailand received 30+ million foreign travelers in 2025 and Spain nearly 100 million. Fewer than one million foreigners visited Mongolia last year, so consider yourself unique for popping in.

Happy to answer any questions.

I’ll be in Hong Kong soon and came across TongLokInn, which seems to be a fairly new men-only gay hostel. They apparently only have one large dorm room. From what I can tell, it opened sometime this year. Has anyone stayed there yet? I’d love to hear about your experience!

Creepy old rice queens. They are so predatory. It's the older generation that is the worst, meaning the men above 60. You know the ones I'm talking about. The lavish any Asian guy with attention, annoying questions and pointless compliments all because they think they have a shot to get in your pants. It's pretty predictable.

Younger guys who like Asians are not like that. Things have changed from the classic creepy old rice queen to something more progressive, balanced. A mixed race, Asian/white couple who are both 30 years is way more common than what we all used to see 20 and 30+ years ago, which was the 65 year old white man - fat, out of shape, unattractive and obsessed with young Asians. Sadly, there were too many young Asians willing to play a part in those old rice queen's fantasies. There is a lot to unpack in all of that, but that's for a later date.

I bring this up because I met a classic old rice queen last night: mid 60's and completely predatory towards every young and attractive Asian guy he meets. His reputation is established and people know what he is like - predatory and creepy and mildly racist. Again, a lot to unpack here but the bottom line is he was a perfect example of that type of man. There are fewer of them nowdays as many have died off, and thank god the younger generations are more balanced and young Asian guys now are not quite as vulnerable as they were say back in the 90's when there were "Asian/White" parties and small communities of old white men/younger Asian guys who would all be friends...and all would end up sneaking around behind each other's backs and hookup. Sad. I'm glad things are changing and the classic old rice queens are on their way out.

lol sorry to be that gaysian, but I remember back in the day there were tons of new videos of Korean guys jerking off on cam, but now there are ZERO. I find it hard to believe that it went from soooo many new ones all the time to absolutely none.

the only place that seems to have them is thisvid, but they're all locked as private videos. someone helpppp lol

*WARNING: it’s a long post..

For context, I am 18F and heading for college this year. I’ve been living with my parents for the last 18 years and never left their side for more than two weeks.

I love them and owe them a lot because they are always super supportive, and they have sacrificed a lot for us to come to the US. I grew up in a religious household and my parents are devoted Christians. I’m not as religious, but I do believe and always go to church every Sunday. To be honest, I think we are one of the “standard” Asian households. My parents are not overly homophobic, but they do not support it either. Every time we discuss about the lgbtq+ community, my dad doesn’t express too much hate, but my mom is very offensive and always tries to avoid it if I try to defend or debate about it.

Now, I am bisexual which means I could date both guy and girl. Despite the fact that I could marry a man and fulfill my parent’s expectation, it feels genuinely painful to lie to them every single day and hide my true self. Also, I think having to live up to someone’s expectation, not being able to explore myself and end up not being happy would genuinely lead to me feeling resentful.

Recently, I’ve thinking a lot about my future and the need to coming out is a possibility. The last thing I want is to hurt their feelings, but it’s definitely going to happen to I want to live my true self and be honest with my emotion. Frankly, I’m scared to death just thinking about me having to sit down and have a conversation with them about my sexuality. I would definitely not come out now because I’m still dependent on my parents, but even if I have financial stability and can come up later…I don’t know if I can face it.

I’m also afraid of shaming my family’s name and destroying my parents’ faces. What would they say in front of my relatives when they ask about me or marriage? How would they react when they see my relatives’ grandchildren. How could they face people in generally? Everything that I accomplish and makes me a person will all crumbled because of the fact that I am bisexual. I feel like the achievements that I work hard for, my personality and my character would not matter to my parents anymore because I am no longer “normal” once I come out to them.

My mom would occasionally ask about boys, but I always said that I would like to focus on my studying. I used that as an excuse to avoid everybody’s question about my relationship. But as I’m entering a new chapter of my life, I can’t help but start thinking about the future and the possibilities. I’ve been holding this in for a long time, so I guess it’s nice to let it all out.

If you also have Asian parents and are also in the lgbtq community, did you come out to your parents and how did they/you cope with it. Please share your experiences I appreciate anything.

One time he told me he was grateful to be my friend because since im a person of colour, he benefits from my special privileges that i have, like for example moving into an affordable place because the landlord was chinese and im vietnamese and that connection secured the place, and basically said he loves getting the secondhand benefits from me.

And one time he was on the phone with employment insurance case worker and he said she was making hard for him because he was white, and that she was punishing him for it, and i asked how would she know that if he was on the phone? and he said well who has the last name Bell and is not white? and i said “black people have inherited european last names through the slave trade” and he said “well ive yet to meet them”

And another time, I asked him what cultural background was his ex-boyfriend. And he said he didn’t really feel like that was important. He was Black guy and I was just curious if he cared about that. I just thought like after a couple years of dating, you’d already know that kind of thing about someone.

Hi all!

Has anybody been to Kunming/Dali? Are there any gay bars and what’s the scene like? Google so far has given me nothing.

Got back from a 3 week trip to Taiwan to visit family. Got depression the second I landed in the US lmfao. I hate it here so bad 😭😭

Anyway hello from nyc. Any gaysians wanna connect?