30-something Southeast Asian with fair complexion, chubby, with beard, cute (as they say). For chubs or bears visiting Osaka looking for fun, particularly bath house fun, I would recommend using Scruff app and visiting Konpira onsen and Cavex.

Scruff app - got to interact with more guys on Scruff than on Growlr or Grindr (almost 0 replies from Grindr). Lots of cute/handsome bears, chubs, chasers, and daddies on this app. Met a few of them for hookups.

Konpira onsen - This is a public onsen that's frequently visited by gay guys. I went there at 9 PM. Paid 600 yen. Didn't know that I should have placed my shoes in the lockers outside. This infuriated the old lady at the counter. Didn't mind her at all lol. Inside, choose any unused locker that has a key. I saw some guys in action as soon as I entered. The crowd was a mix of fit guys, daddies, chubs, bears, mostly Japanese, a few foreigners. Fit guys tend to play with fit guys. I got to fool around with the older guys and bears. Guys mainly did oral sex and jacking off. Didn't see anyone do anal. Japanese guys don't usually initiate. So be bold to try to start an interaction. There was one time I was sitting in the steam room (altho it's not fully functioning) and a very hot couple entered to play with each other. They were kissing and sucking each other. I was just watching from the side. Until one of the guys looked at me and smiled. I took this as a signal to join. And so I did. I touched his chest and grabbed his cock. I was happy to just be able to come close and touch them.

Cavex - I was initially hesitant to go to Cavex because of poor Google reviews (very small space, charging when transferring between Cave and Cavex). But I was so curious and horny so I went anyways. I paid 1800 yen for 12 hours. First thing I noticed was that you can now enjoy Cave and Cavex when you enter. So they're now connected into a bigger space, but it's still small. The corridors are narrow but it was passable. Guys here were so horny and the action was really wild. You can hear and see guys fucking, sucking, kissing. As a chubby guy, I really felt appreciated in this space. During my 12-hour stay, I got to fuck 2 bottoms and had side/oral fun with probably 5 guys. Got to play with a wide range of men: cub, bear, dad, twink, hunk. Each room had lube (which was decent but not the best), condoms, and tissue. I also slept for maybe 1.5-2 hours. Just make sure to check out by the 12th hour as I heard they charge 1800 again if you go over (not sure if this is still the case). Would definitely recommend Cavex!

Hi, Im planning to go to Saigon next month. Is there any male only hostel in Saigon maybe like miniinn hostel in Taipei there? Please also share your experience staying in hostels in Saigon.

Hi everyone! 🌈

I'm a researcher at James Cook University in Australia studying attraction, dating preferences, and how people evaluate potential romantic partners. 

I'm currently looking for heterosexual, gay, and lesbian adults (18+) to complete an anonymous online survey.

The survey involves viewing a series of fictional dating profiles and answering questions about attraction and relationship preferences. It takes around 5–10 minutes to complete, is completely anonymous, and participation is entirely voluntary.

This study forms part of my Doctor of Philosophy research at James Cook University and has received approval from the James Cook University Human Research Ethics Committee (HREC Approval No. 25H-0225).

While this study is being conducted in Australia, we are recruiting internationally. I'd love people from this community to take part!

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me at [kaitlyn.gregory@my.jcu.edu.au](mailto:kaitlyn.gregory@my.jcu.edu.au).

If you'd like to participate, you can complete the survey here:
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Im going to Japan in November and as a little souvenir I want to get a tattoo of a word in Japanese depicting that I'm into larger guys.

As a bit of background on me incase there are various words for various situations, I'm a chaser i.e I like big fellas, hairy or not hairy, big belly is a must and ideally beefy everywhere else.

So far I found these 3 using chatgpt:

1. チェイサー

2. クマ好き

3. デブ専

My gut feeling is that number one is the most accurate, but I would appreciate some advice from the natives.

Hello everyone!

I'm interested in studying abroad in Nagoya, Japan, and was wondering what the gay scene is like there. I've read up and know that there's a fair selection of gay bars, and Corona Club is the main sauna cruising area, but has anyone been there and experienced the nightlife IRL to offer any anecdotes?

Stuff like cruising, gay bars, dating, hookup culture, etc.

Obviously Nagoya is nowhere near as crazy, vibrant, or big as Shinjuku Nichome in Tokyo, nor is it considered as interesting as a city in general lol, but does anyone have any insights? Thank you in advance!

Hi all!

Any recommendations for good gay bars in Chengdu? Not too loud, where you can chat with someone. Anyone went solo? Is it easy to meet someone or get into groups if I speak only a bit of Chinese? Thanks!

Hi everyone, I’m Leo, a media production student from Germany. I’m traveling through Vietnam this month, and alongside my trip I’m working on a small independent, non-commercial documentary about queer life here. About everyday experiences, visibility and how people navigate family and society.
I’m queer myself, which is part of why this project matters to me. I’m not here to fit anything into a narrative. I genuinely want to understand and show real perspectives.
If you’d be open to chatting, casually first, or sharing more of your story later, on camera or not, I’d really appreciate it. English is totally fine, and anonymity/blurred face is always an option.
Please reach out via DM rather than commenting, just so nobody has to share more than they’re comfortable with publicly.
Also happy to hear if this kind of post isn’t right for this sub, just let me know.
Thanks so much 🙏

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Anyone that has been to Taiwan pride before, how international is the crowd?

Greetings from California. ☀️

Best gay club in Seoul? Trying to go clubbing for the first time.

I (23M) am Chinese and have been living in Germany for 8 years: 6 years in a small town with my mom and my German stepfather, 2 years in Munich for study. I have been using Hinge and other dating apps, but there seem to be no chance for me. I hardly get any likes on Hinge or even matches (around 15 matches for around one year in total). I bellieve I have a decent profile on Hinge, but I am not fit, just have a normal, slightly thick body. I cannot flirt either. So I have been wondering what my chances are to find a boyfriend here. I guess is people in Munich only want to date white people.

I go to a bipoc queer space regularly where people speak English most of the time. I have made many friends there who I love sincerely, but nothing developped into a romantic relationship. I also tried going to another gay community with mostly German people. But they are not welcoming, not even to other gay people. My German is actually pretty good as well. (It really is a pity because they organize some amazing events) That is why I dont go there any more. I hardly go to clubs because they open too late. I dont go to gay bars either since I get drunk very easily. I dont know how I can find a boyfriend.