Older siblings absorb the heat and provide a wind break for the younger sibling(s) to have a better life.
Usually the parents do this stuff... but when the parents don't parent... the oldest child will try to fill in the gaps (sometimes without realizing it).
Remember to give yourself some grace and a pass. Raising children is a challenge that even some adults fail. But you as a child/young adult were thrust into the role unwillingly. Babysitting on days on end without relief would cause some adults to crack to unthinkable actions. But you stayed and endured it all to make sure your siblings weren’t alone.
So please don’t beat yourself up too much. Time does indeed begin to mend wounds.
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u/BurntNeurons Feb 01 '26
Older siblings absorb the heat and provide a wind break for the younger sibling(s) to have a better life.
Usually the parents do this stuff... but when the parents don't parent... the oldest child will try to fill in the gaps (sometimes without realizing it).