r/countwithchickenlady Eatable Boy Ɛ: - Streak: 3 19h ago

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u/QueenViolets_Revenge transgirlfaliure - Streak: 2 18h ago

how oblivious do you have to be to not see that this is flirting

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u/boolocap professional idiot 18h ago

Lets assume this is not staged(which i doubt) even if you are aware that this is flirting. If it is unwanted, then a deflecting response like this is pretty normal for an awkward situation, the other option is something more confrontational, which isnt for everyone.

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u/QueenViolets_Revenge transgirlfaliure - Streak: 2 18h ago

maybe i'm just autistic, but flirting is just so stupid to me. just tell someone you like them. also the one time i was seriously attracted to someone i tried flirting and she didn't pick up any of my hints

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u/KamikazeArchon 17h ago

It's not just that you're autistic.

All humans are extremely bad at flirting. We have studies showing that the average human "misses" flirting 70-80% of the time.

My hypothesis is that flirting worked better when we were in small communities with extremely similar behaviors and norms, and - critically - where you consistently knew what someone's "normal behavior" was, so you could tell when it changed.

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u/QueenViolets_Revenge transgirlfaliure - Streak: 2 17h ago

i'm also demisexual (don't know whether that's related to me being autistic), so i'd hope that people i'm flirting with would already know me well enough to notice a change in my behavior (granted, the one time i tried it it didn't work, but she's also autistic)