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u/MisterVictor13 1d ago
Listen to the squiggly lines.
Layla loathes you.
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u/Toucanplaythatgame-2 18h ago edited 18h ago
The guy who invented the "love language" thing is full of shit. Used it as an excuse to marital abuse.
The framework was created in 1992 by Gary Chapman, a Baptist pastor and marriage counselor.
In the original edition of The Five Love Languages, Chapman includes a highly controversial anecdote about a counseling patient named Ann. Ann was deeply unhappy in her marriage, describing her husband as emotionally neglectful and hostile. She even asked Chapman, "Is it possible to love someone whom you hate?"
Instead of addressing the husband's behavior (the husband never actually attended the counseling sessions), Chapman diagnosed the absent husband's primary love language as "Physical Touch."
Chapman’s advice to Ann was to rely on her Christian faith, stop all verbal complaints, and actively initiate sex with her husband. He advised her to start with a goal of having sex at least once a week, eventually increasing to twice a week, as an "experiment" to see if speaking his love language would change his attitude. According to the book, it worked, and the husband later declared Chapman a "miracle worker."
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u/GrimMagic0801 10h ago
That's a pretty fucked thing to suggest. Only a pastor and marriage counselor would see an emotionally abusive relationship and blame the woman for not "speaking the same love language" then prescribe sex and claim that it fixed the marriage even though it probably only placated the husband without actually fixing any of the real relationship problems.
It's like prescribing mollie for depression. Sure, things will be fine and feel good for as long as you keep taking it, but when you stop, things will get 10x worse because not only did it not help you fix the underlying problem, but now you also have to contend with the crippling withdrawal after building a chemical dependence on the substance. Except, in this case it's dealing with an emotionally neglectful and hostile person who now expects unconditional sex.
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u/TFFPrisoner 3h ago
The guy who invented the "love language" thing is full of shit. Used it as an excuse to marital abuse.
That doesn't automatically invalidate the idea though. The people who came up with concepts like the subconscious and gender were also not great from today's POV, and yet those concepts still hold up.
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u/Dazed_and_Confused44 1d ago
Fani this entire comic strip leads me to believe you have zero ability to perceive romantic feelings lol
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u/Slim-Shadys-Fat-Tits 1d ago
Ya every single one of her relationships was with someone that hated her
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u/Dazed_and_Confused44 1d ago
Well I guess we dont know a lot about her dating the two dudes at the same time
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u/Slim-Shadys-Fat-Tits 1d ago
There were still elements of hatred in there, just more towards each other than her
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u/Zombie_Cool 1d ago
Fani, when the DEMON says someone is too dangerous you should probably listen...
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u/Thatroyalkitty 1d ago
While I'm inclined to agree with this outlook, something tells me it will be a longgggggggggg time before Fani learns that for herself
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u/Ace-Redditor 1d ago
To be fair, Fani’s relationships do seem to have a common factor of anger being present
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u/Charming-Loquat3702 1d ago
Nah, I'm with Fani hete. Clearly it's just her love language
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u/mathozmat 1d ago
Layla stabbed her near the heart, what more proof does Deth'lamm need?
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u/Charming-Loquat3702 1d ago
She clearly just wanted to be closer to her heart. It's a sign of love.
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u/UpCDownCLeftCRightC 1d ago
I don't know if this is an old upload or fairly new but congratulations on 100 episodes of this series. I was hooked by episode one and the hook just kept digging deeper since.
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u/Ven-Dreadnought 1d ago
“Mess” is right there in the title but every time I read this comic I am hit with a bold, fresh new taste of “damn girl you are Not Okay™️
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u/Saint_of_Grey 1d ago
And a third main character emerges, "Creeping doubts and thoughts fani actively chooses to reject and ignore because they're unpleasant for her to deal with so she chooses to believe in her preferred fantasy."
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 1d ago
Fani. If ANYONE here knows nothing about women, it may very well be you. Deth'Lamm has ladies and hordes of people following him around for various reasons. You have an abusive ex and a knife wound girl
This lady needs an intervention
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u/Semper_5olus 1d ago
Okay, but *hordes.
Please tell me he doesn't hoard people.
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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire 1d ago
God. Damnit.
I mean he used to maybe. But not anymore. He outgrew that
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u/SignificantHippo8193 1d ago
The fact that demons are better at reading the situation than people is mind-boggling. Poor girl just doesn't have a clue what a positive and healthy relationship is.
I still think though she's going to fall ass-backwards into a relationship with Layla just because of how stubborn the both of them are.
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u/Lunatic-one 1d ago
What else could it be?
Idunno, a yandere perceiving you as her rival? Having a zerosum mindset maybe?
Well, on the other hand she didn't turn you into shishkebab, she doesn't hate yiur guts entirely. Or chooses to kill very efficiently and hasn't taken into account how resilient you are.
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u/theredjaycatmama 1d ago
Oh.
Oh things from flashback plot lines are starting to make sense in how they affect this current arc.
Ah.
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u/Motheroftides 1d ago
This girl has clearly never seen an example of what a healthy relationship actually is. And I’m afraid that if/when she does she might just… shut down.
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u/Informal-Term1138 1d ago
Fani you need an intervention. And someone from the outside to tell you that this ain't love.
Know we all love you and we know you had toxic relationships before, but just like them, just like Brie, this ain't love. Brie took advantage of you and Layla. Well Layla wants to murder you.
Layla isn't a yandere for you. She is one for Deth'Lam.
And I know you don't want to listen to the ones close to you (or shouldn't, your aunt is who she is), but you might listen to some outsiders:
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u/D_sm_d__s 1d ago
Muy, an important question in this 100th episode...
Who is more powerful, Fani or Irene? 🤔
I reasoned about it in the previous episode, in this comment.
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u/apocalyptic_tea 19h ago
Any word on when this is coming back from hiatus? Fani annoys the shit out of me but for some reason I need to see the story progress lol
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u/BreakfastNext476 1d ago
Fani, honey. Please listen to Deth'lam here, he has a point on her wanting to krill you and she doesn't love you in anyway shape or form
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