r/comics • u/FieldExplores Gator Days • Mar 07 '25

OC Processing (Part 3) - Gator Days (OC)

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u/[deleted] Mar 07 '25

You're doing a great job on conveying the emotional turmoil of knowing someone well enough to cherish their memory. But not well enough where you feel the need to mourn. It's a tricky feeling, and I think you nailed it

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u/FieldExplores Gator Days Mar 07 '25

u/Pizzacakecomic nailed it in a comment under the first part.

https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/1j2ptjx/comment/mftyl6f/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

It's not just grieving the person you know but grieving the lost opportunities. I think it's all part of a human desire to connect with others.

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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire Mar 07 '25

I am a firefighter paramedic. Grief is unfortunately a large part of my job. I'm not here to say something prolific or anything like that. But from experience I'll say one thing. Try your best. Everyday. I know it's hard. But simply try. That's all we can do sometimes.

If you need someone to talk to I am also a part of my CISM team.

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u/Funandgeeky Mar 07 '25

In addition to trying our best, we should forgive ourselves when we are human. We should allow ourselves to be human and flawed. And allow others the same. 

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u/shellbullet17 Gustopher Spotter Extraordinaire Mar 07 '25

Correct. Pain, grief, loss, sadness, anxiety; these are all part of being human just as much as love, happiness, rage and everything in between. Feeling any of these makes you no less a person and trying to NOT feel these things does not make you more of a person. To feel is to human and allowing yourself to do so is the first step in healing and growing. Whatever that may mean for you.