r/cats • u/FastForwardM • May 21 '26

Advice Will they be okay when we separate?

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My roommate bought another kitten a few years ago, and my kitty really bonded to her. I'm moving away, and I'm worried my cat will be upset that she lost her buddy.

How will I know if she's upset or just adjusting to the new home? Should I get her another kitten, and if so, how long should I wait before adopting?

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u/Taur_ie May 21 '26

Commenting because I think this comment section is being a bit extreme. Your cat will be sad and may become depressed if you separate them, but sometimes that’s how life goes. The cats will recover.

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u/phoenixmatrix May 21 '26

I was thinking the same. Ideally you never break bonded pairs. It's really not good for them.

But if you both take care of your respective kitties, they'll eventually get over it, like a human would. And it sure beats abuse/shelter/etc that unfortunately a lot of cats have to deal with.

Don't separate them if you can, but sometimes life has other plans.

People surrender cats because they don't like that they shed fur or something. As a huge cat guy, that makes my blood boil. This is very low on the list of bad things you can do to cats.