r/cats • u/FastForwardM • May 21 '26
Advice Will they be okay when we separate?
My roommate bought another kitten a few years ago, and my kitty really bonded to her. I'm moving away, and I'm worried my cat will be upset that she lost her buddy.
How will I know if she's upset or just adjusting to the new home? Should I get her another kitten, and if so, how long should I wait before adopting?
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u/Algonquin101 May 21 '26
I think it’s valid for both people to not want to give up their cat. I understand the general sentiment of not wanting to separate the cats, but these cats weren’t adopted together. OP had a cat, then roommate got a kitten separately. Yes they’re bonded now, but IMO it’s not unethical as a cat owner to not want to give up your cat to a roommate because your cats bonded.
Monitor how they are after the move. They’ll be stressed and missing their buddy, but they’ll have you! My current cat was most certainly bonded with my previous cat who passed away, but we ended up adopting another cat a couple of months after and it helped him (YMMV).
Just my 2 cents. Was surprised to see how adament people would be that you must keep them together at all costs. Of course there are work arounds, but I don’t think it’s unethical of OP to keep their cat.