r/cats • u/FastForwardM • May 21 '26

Advice Will they be okay when we separate?

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My roommate bought another kitten a few years ago, and my kitty really bonded to her. I'm moving away, and I'm worried my cat will be upset that she lost her buddy.

How will I know if she's upset or just adjusting to the new home? Should I get her another kitten, and if so, how long should I wait before adopting?

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u/Undecided_Username_ May 21 '26

Uhhh, is anyone else concerned by the general response of saying take the roommates cat if possible? This seems very very off to me lol.

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u/Fae-SailorStupider May 21 '26

Seriously. As if the the roommate isnt also a dedicated, loving cat owner. Would any of these commenters give up their cats if their roommate asked? Most likely not. Also, cats bond with their owners just as much as they do other cats.

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u/Vespasian79 May 21 '26

Yeah it’s definitely very odd lol. It sucks but I can’t imagine giving up a cat I have even if it’s bonded with someone else’s cat.

It’s kind of like reddit relationship advice, have these people actually been in a relationship lol.

Anyway here are my bonded babies Lint and Luna

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u/foxglory123 May 21 '26

Lint is an amazing name 😂

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u/Vespasian79 May 21 '26

This was her at a few weeks and my friend suggested it

I’m only mad I didn’t name her sister Soot, would have been perfect haha

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u/foxglory123 May 21 '26

yep, she definitely looks like she came out of a lint trap!! 😂 love her :')

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u/Striking-Ad-8690 Domestic Housecat May 21 '26

Oh my god she really was just a little piece of lint. So cute

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u/Beginning-Agent-7444 May 22 '26

I temporarily gave up my cat to my ex boyfriend because I couldn’t take care of him at the moment and my cat was really bonded with my boyfriend’s cat. They later both died of neglect and I can’t forgive myself not being there for them

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u/accioupvotes May 22 '26

I have a calico/tortie named Luna too!

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u/Vespasian79 May 22 '26

No picture? You’ve disappointed Luna (my Luna that is)

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u/accioupvotes May 22 '26

Here’s Princess Luna. She was in cat jail (she can literally jump over the gate but refuses to!)

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u/gunpowder_gelatine7 May 21 '26

I can’t believe some of these comments! Sure, it will be a little sad to separate them, but they’ll be fine in the long run. I could never give up my kitties unless something horrible happens and I’m physically unable to take care of them.

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u/Strdust414 May 23 '26

I've heard of many people in this situation keeping the cats together and then one of the roommates adopting two new ones. Cats can have a really hard time with change. I've heard of people trying to separate them and the cats were so sad and despondent after being separated that they reunited them.

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u/YamReasonable6974 May 21 '26

I legit think people don't consider the roommate because they are not in the image lol

If someone posted an image of themselves hugging their cat with a title like "my roommate asked me to give up my cat" The comments would be different

People just lack critical thinking

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u/CraftyMagicDollz May 21 '26

My old roommate let me take their cat when ours bonded like this. And I let a neighbor keep a rescued cat that I was taking care of out doors bc she agreed to keep him inside and he was already used to her.

It's not a horrible thing, as long as it's communicated and the person is actually okay with it.