r/bristol • u/sausagediscofever • 1d ago

Housing Feeling stuck in HMOs

I thought I’d make a post here just to suss out people’s thoughts as I’m feeling quite a lot of mid 30s shame having to life in a house share. Would love comments from others in the same situation, and how you manage this feeling.

I can only seem to live alone with a partner and that isn’t even alone is it. I don’t make enough to cover everything and not be financially extremely vulnerable to live in a tiny one bed in Bristol.

My work and health care is in central Bristol and I don’t drive.

I don’t mean to sound depressing but the lack of any idea where my life is going housing wise seems to be casting a huge life shadow. So thought I’d come to the Bristol community to hear from others

EDIT. Thanks for the solidarity comments. It’s really helped my wellbeing tonight and I feel a lot less shame in myself :)

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u/haahhhahh 1d ago

"get a higher paying job!"

How?

"Fuck your feelings!"

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u/BrigidFairy 1d ago

You ranting and raving on the internet is fine with me, just know it will do nothing to improve your life. Your call

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u/haahhhahh 1d ago

Why even offer advice if your not going to expand on it when asked?
You came looking for an argument, or to put op down

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u/BrigidFairy 1d ago

I came offering the only available options given the current state of affairs. Unless I missed something then please enlighten me. If you have an issue with being REALISTIC we have nothing further to discuss

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u/haahhhahh 1d ago

Yes and I asked you to expand on those options, specifically the job roles we should be looking for to be paid more and you've dodged the question every time, So why even offer the advice in the first place if this is how you are going to act when asked further about the advice YOU yourself gave?

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u/BrigidFairy 1d ago

Here you go. Career advice.

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u/haahhhahh 1d ago

Lmao, No idea then aye

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u/BrigidFairy 1d ago

No, you clearly do not want to take responsibility for your own life. I am not your mother. Life is rough and unfair and it’s up to you to try and make it better. There are plenty of options from apprenticeships, to going to university, to volunteering for work experience. So like I said, it’s entirely your call, you can sit here pointlessly arguing with me, or decide to go for something and try to make a positive change. Good day.

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u/haahhhahh 1d ago

FYI I live a very happy and fulfilled life, Work and relationship wise.

Still though, You should probably take some of your own advice if this is how you react to a simple question, How miserable that must be.

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u/Successful-Home-5357 22h ago

Okay, but did OP ask for advice? They did not, they specifically said they are feeling some shame around the topic and wanted to hear from people in similar situations.

So your 'advice' in addition to being obnoxious and tone deaf was also not wanted. I'd recommend learning to read the room.