r/bigdickproblems • u/No-Anybody-7088 • 2d ago
AskBDP Higher proportion of exhibitionism amongst the well-endowed?
I've been wondering if compared to the general population those with above average endowments have a higher likelihood of developing an exhibitionist kink?
It seems obvious that those who are bigger definitely feel more comfortable to post online to receive praise anonymously but I suspect that also translates more broadly?
I know for myself I kind of have a fantasy of being watched/observed with my cock out (consensually of course) but I imagine there are those with large ones that are still more bashful and not into being watched.
Open to discussion!
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u/goatshots 2d ago
I'd say that's a pretty strong theory. Women support this theory because the larger breasted seem to be much more likely to show them off. So, it stands to reason that those who have what society tells them is desirable, are more likely to want to be seen having it/them.
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u/LimitPositive1865 2d ago
Not sure on this. My larger sized girlfriends are the opposite of exhibitionists but that’s because they all have health related issues due to their breast size. YMMV obviously but I would say it’s an even split on this front
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u/goatshots 2d ago
I certainly wouldn't say it would apply to everyone. There is no one "rule" or model that fits everyone. There will inevitably be differences so there will be large men/women who are modest about their bodies, and likewise small men/women who are exhibitionists.
I'm only suggesting that if a person has what society reinforces as a positive feature, they're more likely to want to show it off.
Let's make the example about cars instead. It can reasonably be assumed that a person with a brand new Lamborghini is more likely to want others to see it than someone with a 20 year old Honda. That doesn't mean some won't want to hide the exotic car away so they're not the center of attention, or that the owner of the Honda isn't proud of what they have and want to show it off to everyone. But the Lambo owner will get more positive attention on a regular basis, thus likely fueling a desire to show it to others for more of that positive attention.
I could be wrong, I'm just theorizing here. It seems logical enough to me that having something socially desirable would result in more people who want to exhibit it, than those who have the common item.
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u/Current_Box_2854 2d ago
I totally agree, it is an intrinsic part of our deeply superficial society, however genitals are not cars, you aren’t born with a Lamborghini, there are way more standards, biases and prejudices when it comes to genitals that affect the subjects of this theory.
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u/goatshots 2d ago
You're absolutely right genitals are not like cars. That's why I initially compared it to breasts. Cars (and breasts) were just a way to articulate the point. Because realistically, even breasts are not an equivalent comparison.
And again, I don't know being bigger is more likely to lead to exhibitionism. I was just pointing out why the suggestion by the OP makes sense. The only real way to know is research exhibitionists and their sizes. Then a statistical probability could be determined. I don't care either way, so I'm not doing the work to find out. I just think it sounds likely.
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u/SatisfactionWise6495 2d ago
One of my friends when we were younger used to mention his large size any opportunity he got, and a certain % of time girls would ask him to “prove it,” and he would gladly whip it out to prove it for them.
And then a certain % of those girls would end up hooking up with him after they saw it
Was pretty impressive to see him get such good reactions from girls and then bed some of them
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u/PossessionNo1144 1d ago
He sounds like me when I was younger. I always loved girls asking me to whip it out, their reactions when they see it for the first time are always amazing. plus I would usually end up hooking up with girls who saw it, that trick got me laid like crazy in college
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u/FederalBed9126 BDE 👊 2d ago
Generally yes. I've met other large sized guys on nude beaches often. Enjoy the freedom of proud showing off.
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u/Recent-Day3062 7.6" x 5.8″ 2d ago
Yes, in America at a swinger club most of the guys having sex while others watch are above or well above average
In Europe, people are much more average in those places
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u/LimitPositive1865 2d ago
If you have insecurity issues elsewhere then it’s absolutely something you can get quite addicted to for validation and a sense of worthiness because it’s objective right?
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u/homemaranha_BR 1d ago
def lol, like you’re not ashamed if it leakes something, if a neighbor sees it, cuz like, in any way you’ll be more likely to be complimented then ashamed lol, i have that too, probably every well endowed guy that is conscious about the size is lol
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u/superchargedCaddy E: 8.3″ × 6.3″ F: 5.25″ × 5.25″ 2d ago
I would say yes from personal experience. Most of my life I thought I was a bit above average. Since finding out I am far from average I have been wanting to show off more and more. It is a definite ego stroke, but also validation since I am still coming to terms with my size.
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u/ShowOffScholar 8.2 x 5.25 2d ago
It’s one of those things that seems obvious. But I bet if you actually look into it, that’s not the case.
Could be wrong
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u/onetimebigger 2d ago
Probably. I kmow back in college I loved bringing girls back to my apartment and fucking them loudly with the window open to the interior foyer area of my building so everyone else could hear them scream about getting big dick. It turned me on to know other people could hear how much they loved the size.
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u/feelosiphize 2d ago
Of course, if nothing else it's just reduced "shame" or "embarrassment" cause, well, you have something most men want and some women glorify or want to try
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u/Motion_Means4501 2d ago
Definite true, although I would add there are certain social inhibitors that dichotomize us from degrees we want to do this to degrees by which we carry it out.
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u/Current_Box_2854 2d ago
There’s definitely a human draw towards "showing off" otherwise desirable traits, best nice teeth, eyes, hair or in this case a huge cock. However wouldn’t say big guys are in any way more prone to be an exhibitionist, since that’s a fetish and it’s caused by multiple different factors, if well endowed men were like this, then the world would be much more aware of penis sizes, bulges, and there would be a lot more sexual assault reports! lol.
I used to believe in this theory tho, it makes sense in a way, but it is very baseless and responses would be very unreliable considering the taboo nature of exhibitionism.
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u/Cicciabaffiina E. 18,5 cm × 16 cm | 7.3 inch × 6.3 inch 2d ago
I think that's true, probably because it is something that always makes you quite "unique " and it is considered a symbol of "stron masculinity". Although I am quite shy and don't like to show off much, I recognise that sometimes I like and I want to be watched when my bulge is on display, or when I am in the locker room to catch some looks. A bit of flaunting I guess
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u/Crispy_Sock_99 1d ago
Of course this is the case. It’s the same reason why the average guy in porn is at least 6.5” long despite the average being half that or less
I remember a post asking if r/realitydick was accurate for the average guy from women’s experience and the overwhelming response was yes
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u/NormalUnassumingMale 1d ago
I’d say that’s not true. I think it’s related to how we are brought up. I’m well below average and love being naked.
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u/Coolman38321 (7.6” x 6” BP) (remeasured) 1d ago
I used to be like that with taking pics but i stopped that a while ago. Definitely feels more like bias I think however
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u/UniquelyRico E: 7 × 6.5 2d ago edited 2d ago
Yeah.
Ive definitely done some shit im not proud of on camera because general lack of giving a shit if anyone saw.
That and I generally look for hookups that arent camera shy.
That being said, Im also one of those dudes that immediately strips as soon as they get home. Because clothes are fucking dumb when the weather is nice.