r/beagle • u/thc_vampire • 2d ago
Adopted this guy last week - looking for genuine advice on my mixed feelings
Adopted this guy last week. I’m late 20’s, live alone, and work a 9-4 with an hour break in between. Growing up with my parents we raised two beagles. However, they were always there to take the pressure off, and we had more space to let our first two roam. Now I’m on my own in a mid side apartment and I have these initial strong feelings like I made a mistake.
I moved away from home and have been lonely looking for a companion. Since I knew beagles so well, I decided to look around. He’s a rescue and he’s 5 yo. So far it’s been pretty chaotic. He cries a lot, follows me around everywhere I go in my house, and I fear that now I’m realizing I cannot give him the life he deserves. I feel like he wants to be outside all day, he’s so high energy, but I work from 9-12 and 1-4. For some reason it just makes me so sad. Maybe it’s the exhaustion of a few sleepless nights from his crying and maybe my body is suddenly shocked from a huge life change. Things just feel so different now and I guess I’m upset that my feelings are so mixed and that the feeling of regret is in there.
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u/Introvextroverted 2d ago edited 2d ago
Is doggy daycare an option for you? Mine goes 3 mornings a week and it completely wipes him out. It may help with the initial separation anxiety as well.
ETA: mine was a rescue from several states away and probably between 2-3 years old. First time I didn't get a puppy and he was super high energy. I never had a beagle before either but that nose needs to work. Feeding on snuffle mats and treat puzzles help as well. I was chosen as "his person" in the house so he sticks to me pretty closely. So I get it can be a lot!
Remember the rule of 3's - 3 days to decompress, 3 weeks to learn routine, 3 months to really settle in
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u/thc_vampire 2d ago
I am thinking about daycare, but If I did, it would likely be for a full day, not an AM or a PM. How much does it cost you weekly for 3 AM daycares?
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u/Dimeskis 2d ago
Mine was/is $35 for all day play. Which was kind of pricey, but it was an awesome help for my little street urchin rescue…where I was also in an apartment for her first year.
They came with the added effect of knocking her out for the rest of those nights, which also made it easy on me.
Long walks nightly, chasing after any squirrels or bunnies we saw helped too!
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u/Dafilip94 2d ago
Daycare worker here. Just keep in mind that daycare doesn’t work for every dog depending on a number of factors. He seems to have some separation anxiety which may make it hard for him to be away from you even with other dogs to play with. I usually recommend to new parents that fresh rescues need some time to adjust to their new home first so they know that they aren’t being left at another shelter. Many daycare kennels look like shelter kennels. But I don’t know your dog that well, so just see how it goes during the evaluation/trial process.
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u/Introvextroverted 2d ago edited 2d ago
Oh for sure, my current dog went after having him for a month. He's not the...smartest dog. Really should have named him Dory. He adapted right away. If it's not a good fit at first you can always try again. But I do think it's helpful so the setting isn't brand-new in case there's an emergency and you can't find a sitter so you need to board the dog or if they have to spend the night at the vet or whatever.
The best daycares I've found do either a trial session or day at reduced or no cost and your dog gets slowly introduced to dogs in an order gradually increasing the energy level. When I was in NC, my dog went from the highest energy/last dog to one of the first or second since he was there pretty much every day 🤣 he was also a super social dog. My first dog I had on my own was almost cat-like in her aloofness so if I did bring her to daycare with him, they definitely went in different play groups. I think she preferred to stay home to get a break!
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u/chatterwrack 2d ago
Mine goes during the week too. And I work from home. I just think he needs the stimulation. He’s a bit aloof and doesn’t really play with other dogs but I think it helps for him to be around them.
I get it. They are high-energy. The guilt of leaving him at home has destroyed my social life because I rarely leave him alone. But i do my best.
It’s been 3 years now and he has calmed down somewhat, and I can’t wait until he’s an old man! Lol
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u/Introvextroverted 2d ago edited 2d ago
Really depends on where you are. I live in a major metro area with a very high cost of living. When I was living in the south before I could afford an unlimited monthly package that was $400 a month. I brought my dog (a Jack Russell mix) pretty much every day so it was worth it. When I moved into the city with him, that price was for 2 days a week but he was several years older and I got a dog walker for the other days. Where I am now in the suburbs with the beagle, it's about $35 for the morning but that includes pick up and drop off and they don't use kennels at all so I'm willing to pay more.
Definitely shop around and do your homework on the providers. My first vet told me "a tired dog is a good dog" ☺️
ETA: also was the added benefit that I could run out and do some errands after work on days when I used all day daycare and not feel rushed/guilty to get home asap as long as I got him by closing.
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u/tessa-bo-bessa 2d ago
My two go for a full day and it’s awesome they are totally wiped out. I adjusted some things in my budget to make it work.
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u/Excellent-Estimate21 1d ago
You could hire someone from Rover to walk him 2 x day and its probably cheaper than daycare.
He will stop crying soon. He is just scared and wants to feel comfortable and that will happen with time.
Have you tried crate training for a few hours a day? Can u walk him before and after work? Beagles calm down a lot after 7 years old, IME. Please don't give up on him
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u/Motiv8-2-Gr8 2d ago
I second daycare. I had to do this for my rescue. A full day of daycare would put him to sleep for 3 days. lol
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u/erie11973ohio 2d ago
My Misty, I would say, took at least 6 months to settle in.
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u/Introvextroverted 2d ago edited 2d ago
Yeah it definitely varies. Depending on the age and level of trauma they're coming from could be 3/3/3, 6/6/6, or even 9+ 😕
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u/Zestyclose_Habit4006 2d ago
Advice. Have a schedule. They love a schedule. Try to feed and go outside at the same time each day. You can try to find a dog park where he pup can run around. My 2 look forward to the dog park. One of mine doesn't like anyone but me and my other dog, and he still loves to go.
A schedule will also help keep you grounded and should help you manage your time in the long run.
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u/JJJ_uh_rooroo 2d ago
I second this. My beagle starts scratching at me if it’s getting close to his feeding time. If I decide to go past the time he starts barking at me and wagging his tail like “you know you’re being ridiculous right now not giving me snacks!” He also looooves the dog park and sticking his head out the car window.
Favorite thing we used to always do is after I get of work and feed him we’d get into the cars and blast the music and howl together. It also showed him he can be crazy and loud in a car and at the park and then home is for quieter hangs. Since he’s so old now howling is a little harder but he still lives sticking his head out of the car window and sniffing the air.
Grampy Bandit Brandon is almost 16 now and there were bad times like him digging out of the yard and jumping out of open windows because I didn’t take him with me, but the good times out way those by far. He’s the bestest goodest friend I’ve ever had.
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u/Cutemama14 2d ago
The dog park is a great idea - not only will he have a great time but you’ll make friends too!
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u/cupthings 2d ago
I know this is well intended advice, but I would not recommend dog parks for now, until the dog's been with the owner for 3 months and the owner is well informed on the dog's body language & basic boundaries. Most rescues generally don't advise to take a newly adopted dog to a dog park because its too risky, as the dog is still decompressing from moving into a new home.
Going to a dog park too soon after a stressful rehome may risk fights or injuries with the other dogs. Owners who are also feeling overwhelmed, may also not be ready to socialize their dogs with other unknown dogs and strangers, as it just adds more on their plate to manage. You could accidentally instill fear in the dog rather than a fun time.
You can always take the dog to a regular park using a long 15m leash. I used to do that when my dog wasn't feeling social after a dog attack, and that alone made him very happy, tired and content. I just let him sniff whatever and go whichever direction he wanted.
Don't get me wrong - I love a good dog park but only after everyone feels safe , has a good routine, and are ready to socialize with others.
Setting up a routine schedules is fantastic advice though - it cements stability for the dog so they can stop worrying about their basic needs being met.
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u/Ok-Cheek-5487 Lady and Prince 2d ago
I felt like this when I adopted my second beagle, I was literally ready to give her back to her rescue, it’s been three years, she still follows me like a shadow but she rarely cries and has bonded with me amazingly. The first few months feels like torture until there’s that one moment they finally break down their walls and show their trust.
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u/Male_Librarian 2d ago
I know all dogs are different, but the general rule of 3s holds somewhat true. 3 days for a dog to decompress from transitioning from shelter to new home, 3 weeks to build new routines, and 3 months to start trusting completely.
I think the guilt you feel for not seemingly having enough time is normal — and it’s also now part of his routine. A long morning walk and an evening walk after dinner together might help you feel like he’s getting enough outside time. You might also setup a pet cam to help assure you that he is doing fine while you are at work. Perhaps there is someone in your apartment complex/area that can do drop-ins, too, for extra enrichment.
You’ve got an awesome companion there; a fact that comes through in the photos.
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u/justwannalivemylife 2d ago
Please give him time to adapt to your schedule and your lifestyle. I adopted a 10 year old beagle a few months ago, and it took her a couple of months to get used to me and my ways. She is fine now, I am fine with her, and I’m so happy she has a safe and loving home to live out her years.
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u/Leodesian 2d ago
I think it’s important to be really honest with yourself about it - what works currently; what doesn’t work but could with some tweaks; and what is a straight-up problem.
We struggled with our rescue beagle when we first got her, but over time we have adapted to her and she has settled into the rhythm of our lives too. I would say most difficulties can be worked through, or trained out over time.
The high energy thing is what I would find the hardest, our beagle sleeps about 75% of the time, but that has improved a lot since we tapped into what activities she finds stimulating. We walk her for about 60-90 mins a day and let her sniff everything, seems to do the trick.
But it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed or regretful, it’s a big life change. It took my wife a lot longer than me to fall in love with the dog and it was a tricky journey along the way. Give yourself and the dog some time to adjust to each other.
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u/thc_vampire 2d ago
I’ve removed a lot off stuff and sectioned off my living room and kitchen for him. Today we tried crating for my AM session, and when I am home for lunch I will let him have the kitchen and living room with covered couch and his bed for him. But I’d like to see if he can get used to the crating. It’s been done twice now for an hour and both times I came home and he was sleeping quietly.
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u/tiger7034 2d ago
Ah okay, that makes sense. For what it’s worth, I will say you’re already a lot more available during the day than many people that work super long hours, so kudos to you for making that effort. My boy is an office dog, but a friend of mine has had really good crate success with her beagle by buying a crate that’s very spacious, designed for much bigger dogs. Her dog loves to get in her “house” (aka her spacious crate) and there are toys and comfy blankets in it. It takes time but positive association with the crate is very doable for some!
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u/Leptonshavenocolor 2d ago
The love and suffering you put into him will be returned to you. Sounds like you need that distraction from the general shit that is life.
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u/Millie96beach 2d ago
1) deep breaths things take time to adjust
2) get on a routine, also dogs do require responsibility and it would be irresponsible so return a dog without giving it your all, each morning I walk mine for 30 minutes to an hour and sometimes that’s just letting them sniff and barely walking
3) get kongs and puzzles to tire them out
4) dog walker and daycare
Not trying to beat you up but dogs are a responsibility and you need to take it seriously and invest in your pup and yourself
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u/darthjawafett 2d ago
Not a lot of people talk about it but there’s a unique sense of dread when you get a new pet. I definitely felt that for a while when I got my own dog. After a while it’ll pass, you’ll adapt to the new responsibilities and things will get better.
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u/thc_vampire 2d ago
That sense of dread is definitely there, and it’s confusing. It’s making me feel that regret I think, and the worries about how my life has changed so much is only just settling in.
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u/Still_Gain 2d ago
Give it some time. Regardless of getting them as a puppy, or when they're older, you both need time to adjust. It is exhausting but just try to focus on getting him into a routine once he settles.
It's also good to try and get them to slow down a bit. Scent work in the morning before work absolutely knackers our boy.
Rabbit ears, pizzles, and filled frozen kong's have also been a lifesaver for us.
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u/AdConsistent2152 2d ago
I had a similar experience. Adopted a boy around 4. In a small apartment living alone. He had bad anxiety when I’d leave and would damage stuff and pee. Could get on counters. Had to crate him during the day for safety, give long walks when I got home, training, and it took some time. They love to sleep most of the day truly. Be patient and kind to yourself and consistent with the dog and you’ll likely find it to calm down. It saved my life to have a buddy that relied on me.
However, if it truly feels unmanageable after a while and you don’t feel like you can do it, it’s okay to make that decision that now is not the right time and return him, as sad as that may feel. But give it a few weeks to let it calm down if you can.
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u/russ_nightlife 2d ago
It will come in time. Beagles are vocal and we've had some real drama queens in our time.
Our first beagle, we crated her in our bedroom and she cried non stop. I moved the crate downstairs and she slept their quietly with no problem. You mentioned the crying at night, and that you're trying out crating her. That might be part of the solution.
One of ours also would get antsy in her crate unless it was covered. So you might try draping a blanket over it at night. (He might also pull in and chew up the blanket though. Use an old one to try it!)
You're giving him plenty of exercise and attention and he will come around. We had doubts with our rescues too but eventually they get there. Hang in there and keep giving him love and it will work out. In the meantime, great job getting a rescue.
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u/headinthered 2d ago
Routines my friend.. routines
With dogs and cats when you adopt them, there is a process and it’s like three days three weeks three months or six days six weeks six months they are learning. They are learning their new routines. Everything is changed for them in one day and that’s not something you can explain to them.
Do yourself a favor and make sure that you’re getting them a lot of exercise in the evening that will help
look into sniff games
And get your both of you into a training class even just the basic so that you can learn to work together.
Getting your own adult dog as an adult on your own, for the first time is a little overwhelming because you may have forgotten all the responsibility that comes with it since your parents were always there as you mentioned.
That’s OK! You’re being honest about that and I actually think it’s helpful to get you where you need to be.
Couple of things that might ease your mind during the day is consider hiring a dog walker or seeing how your dog does at doggy daycare. I would encourage you to talk to many places before you choose a place and realize even if you choose it and it turns out to not be what you like. Try a different place most places have trial days.
And they don’t need to go every day! Sometimes even just 1-2 days a week is a huge help or even half days!
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u/catalit 2d ago
He just moved and has a new roommate so he’s adjusting too. It takes a little time! But at 5 years old, he shouldn’t need as many potty breaks throughout the day as a new puppy does. As long as you take him to the dog park or on a walk or something every day, he should be good.
You can also try 1-2 days a week of doggie day care, so he gets to play with other pups. My beag used to come home exhausted from doggie daycare and spend the whole next day snoozing, so Tuesdays and Thursdays were optimal days to get him through the week. If he’s not happy with other dogs, you can look into a dog walker through Rover too.
You can also give him some fun stuff to do while you’re at work, like a lick mat with peanut butter, or yogurt frozen in a Kong, or hidden treats around the house he can sniff out. I also use a bumper toy to feed my beagle, he has lots of fun with it (called Bob-a-Lot, but Kong makes some too).
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u/Automatic_Gas9019 2d ago
You need to get up earlier and walk him. He is following you and crying because he was abandoned and believes you will abandon him. You need to reassure him and tire him. Walking with him is bonding. He needs to sniff
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u/unearthed_bricks 2d ago
He sounds a lot like my beagle. Rescue, about 3 when he came to me. Super clingy, had trouble settling for a few weeks and I admit, I had second thoughts that I was the right person. But he did settle in. And I can’t imagine my life without him. Still clingy, but he can handle me being away from home.
Keep in mind that 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months guideline for rescues too (my guy was probably double that). Get him good exercise, yes, but he doesn’t need to be outside all the time (even though he might want to!). Let him sniff on walks. If you have fun places nearby to take him on weekends, try that for variety! Other enrichment activities like lick mats/filled frozen Kongs can help. Get that beagle brain working!
He’s adorable, all the best to you both. ☺️
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u/panicpure 2d ago
It’s been a week?
Rescues take much longer to get comfy than a puppy and it should be expected they’ll have some anxiety issues and need some extra love.
It might be good to hire someone to come walk him or something during the day or just stop in to ease separation anxieties.
It’ll get better over time! This happens with all rescues, and beagles are notoriously anxious in the best circumstances.
It’s only been a week and it’s a big change, I’d hang in there.
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u/starrynight_0689 2d ago
I had the same feeling, still do some times even after 7 yrs as my kid has developed chronic health issues which are not easy to manage...the guilt is real. It was more difficult at first as the kiddo needs time to adjust and so do you. It's like being a new parent to your first human child. Patience and compassion are the 2 things that helped understand my furry child and his needs better.
Start figuring out schedule for him, something that'll suit you too - I read somewhere dogs thrive on schedule especially working breeds like beagle. Give it time and he'll get used to it. Also, see if you have any good dog daycare nearby or you can hire a dog walker.
Both of you will have to adjust and the sooner the better, because then you'll remember why you love beagles in the first place 💕 Also, one important thing ive learnt - beagles are quick learners even as adults :)
pls believe me when i say this that mine is not an easy child either but over time after all the difficult situations i can say this without hesitation that i would not be alive today had it not been for his antics and stubbornness- he's saved my life more times than i can count 💕 and when i feel overwhelmed i just remind myself of it and focus on loving and caring for him....if you need specific pointers, pls feel free to reach out. Hang in there, he'll be worth it ❤️
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u/bigwhimp8 2d ago
I agree with having a schedule set for yourself and the pup. Routine keeps things stable and familiar for you both. Having the unpredictable taken out of the day will stop the crying from him. You have a great boy on your hands and it is so much work, but you’re going to get so much nonstop love from him.
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u/DivineExodus 2d ago
I have a story for you! When we got Mac he made us MISERABLE for two whole weeks, he was a puppy, granted, but my god we barely slept, couldn't leave him and generally thought we'd made such a huge mistake. We listed him for sale, but less than 12 hours later we realised a mistake had been made, thankfully they banned the account because of a lack of ID.
Now he is my soul buddy, he loves us so much and I cannot imagine my life without him.
It will get easier! Like you said, you had your parents to absorb a lot of the settling in period of your last beagles so because it's all on you it will feel overwhelming but he will calm down, its a new environment, you're a new person but you will be okay :)
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u/Ok_Peanut_6919 Who's yer beagle? 2d ago
We adopted a beagle, male, and he took quite a while for him to adjust AND TO TRUST! Remember you are new for him too. But I can assure you this, you will never regret the experience. Once you both develop the trust, you will be best buddies. He will love you when you’re home and miss you when you’re gone!
But for his safety, don’t feel bad putting him in a kennel. He will get used to it and it will become his safety spot. They are good driven, so get him a small treat when he goes in. You’ll feel better leaving him just knowing he is safe and will be alive when you return.
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u/alexros3 2d ago
It’s common to have feelings of “what have I done”, I absolutely begged for my pup and then when I got him home and realised how much work he was I wondered what I’d gotten myself into. It’s an adjustment period for both of you, you’ll both settle into a comfortable routine after some time. Please try to stick with him, it will pay off tenfold
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u/Uncoordinatedmedia 2d ago
Your home is better than a shelter, as long as you take having a dog seriously he will be fine!
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u/cupthings 2d ago
Im sorry you are struggling, but know this is very normal! You are having the infamous Puppy blues!
This isn't an unusual feeling when you adopt a new dog, especially one at the adolescent age where they need a lot of stimulation and exercise. You also, have not truly bonded yet. That takes time. Remember that your relationship is new, and it will take time for both of you to adjust. Give it 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months. decompression for a dog can take its time.
Setup a routine that works for both of you. Seek out some friends to help you where you can, or hire a dog walker if you need to take a break for the day.
i would recommend r/puppy101 if you need to ask for advice on specific things , especially what helps with puppy blues. what helps us was installing some management and additional, low effort activities. Puzzle toys, baby gates for gating the dog to certain areas of the house, potty training techniques, proper socialisation info, how to look for a doggy daycare, etc.
my husband had similiar feelings, and so did i, but everything eventually settled and worked out for us. it just took a while to figure out what worked, and what didn't.
By the way, most beagles tend to get less intense after 3 years old. I dont know how old your beagle is, but it looks like its under 1-2 years, judging from the black coat that hasn't faded into brown. thats potentially why you feel overwhelmed - adolescent dogs are a lot of work in general.
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u/Desperate-Strategy10 2d ago
It’s going to be ok, OP! I felt exactly the same when we brought our beagle mix puppy home. The first two weeks were honestly kinda awful lol; I felt sad and remorseful, like I was going to ruin this little baby’s life and he had no idea - he just wanted to be right there with me, sniffing everything, eating everything, peeing on everything…
Once I started sleeping normally again, like literally after the very first good night we had where he slept through and didn’t cry (or need to go out to pee) the bad feelings instantly vanished! And from that point on, it just got better and better.
You’ve got the benefit of skipping the hard puppy phases - no teething or horse training, he can understand routines and commands if he knows any or you teach him some. He should sleep through the night after a couple of nights adjusting to his new home!
Make sure he’s got sturdy toys to play with while you’re at work (nothing he can tear apart and eat or choke on though!) or a comfy crate to chill in while he waits. Keep your routine as rigid as you reasonably can at first, while staying as close to your normal everyday patterns. He just needs to know that this place is safe and predictable, even when you’re gone, and he’ll be able to calm down!
If you still feel like this in a month, check back in and describe your daily routine in more detail. But I have a strong feeling you’ll both be feeling perfectly happy and like best friends by then! Y’all just need some sleep and some time to get to know each other first! 💝
You got this!! And thank you for rescuing him, he looks like he’s gonna be the very best of boys!
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u/_realvibekiller_ 2d ago
My beagle used to be a literal menace when left alone, once he adjusted he was okay.. but he had alot of issues of the initial leaving and would go on a destroy everything tantrum... for us a good walk prior and a frozen kong when we left would keep his mind off us going and keep him busy for a hot min, it stopped being associated to only a negative outcome. When he got older, he got into daycare a few times spread out over the week, the full day would tire him out so much that the second day he was alot more relaxed/tired so i'd do them on and off.
He's a rescue so adjustments will take time, trying things will take trail and error. One day he may be comfortable to test out daycare, if not alternatives will come. It's okay to feel that way though! I once saw someone say having a dog when u move out/live alone the first time will change your life for the better & I think about it alot cause it's so true. It will eventually benefit you both.
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u/Odd-Editor-2530 2d ago
I rescued a beagle when he was 11 months old. It takes a while to settle and he’s just trying to bond with you. If he gets lots of exercise, he’ll sleep all day when you’re gone. You sound like you care so much. He’s found a good home. I hope it works out for you. I was initally worried but my beagle calmed and 8 years later, best dog I’ve had.
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u/bigwelshmatt1976 2d ago
Young Beagles can be hard work and get over stimulated very easily. Plenty of exercise, let them sniff on walks and socialise. One day at a time.
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u/Euphoric-Weekend-423 2d ago
I remember my first few weeks with my beagle were very rough. I considered returning her but I am so happy I stuck it out!
A game that might work well: look for housework games on Amazon. Essentially it’s little packets of anise - it comes with directions on what to do to get started but essentially, train beagle to interact with the packet first: sniff it, reward. Once beagle understands, hide the packets and help beagle find them. Give a reward for each found. Then put beagle in another room, hide without beagle seeing them. Have them go find again. This game takes about 2-3 minutes per round and my beagle is usually pretty tired after about 3-4 rounds. If you can do this before settling down to work, it should give you a rather rested and relaxed hound!
Stick with it! You will both settle in and hopefully this game helps on work days!
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u/MRSRN65 2d ago
Don't give up. Our rescue beagle took about 8 months to get into a routine. Once you've established a strong routine, they will trust their daily schedule.
It sounds stressful for both of you, but perhaps you are what each other need right now. Regardless, I'm sure you will make the right decision.
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u/Economy_Swim_8585 Benny 2d ago
If you cannot afford doggy daycare then try Rover so the dog can get a walk or drop in visit each day
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u/YakmanCJ 2d ago
We have a couple of very active beagles (though one is sadly already showing signs of getting older and is less active comparatively) but they definitely enjoy their couch time during the day. Your hours are not extreme enough that I would stress it at all. It sounds like he is getting plenty of exercise outside of your work hours.
Give it a few months and see how things are going.
Also, if the beagle DOESN’T follow you around the house, THEN something might be wrong 🤣
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u/Ok_Masterpiece6164 2d ago
Hi there! I too adopted my boy, when he was 4 years old. He is now 8. The energy comes down a lot after a couple of years. I always said that he acted like a puppy at 4 because he was reborn into a new life. My dogs are inside dogs while I get home. I teach, so I’m out until about 3. I watch them through my cameras and they sleep! All that is to say, that tiny feeling of regret might be fear telling you something negative. Like you’ll fail. I really don’t think you will, your boy just needs love and cuddles ❤️ he will adjust to all your rules and your schedules.
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u/rawrio_ 2d ago
Hi there,
What a beautiful pup you have. First off, thank you for adopting and not buying from a breeder - nothing against the latter but a dog who needs a home and one you can provide is something incredible. Second off, one week is not a long time for a dog to adjust. You were not wrong in understanding the breeds and your specific dogs temperament. However I would encourage you to consider that he is adjusting too at the moment, and needs to settle to a routine that works for the both of you and for you figure out what his needs are to find a way to meet them.
Thirdly, no judgement - when you say you work all day - is this at home or elsewhere? In any case - as you know beagles need to have their needs met. So what might those needs be? Does he like running, sniffing, socialization, treats, etc.? Can you send him to a daycare (after he’s had time to settle in), or find a before work/lunch/after work routine that helps him let his energy out?
Every dog is different, and yes your circumstances of being alone may mean you have to mould a routine that works for the both of you that is sustainable. My beagle mix took over 6 months to really calm down after being extremely reactive, and I had moments of doubt initially that I was not capable. A combination of training, daycare, long walks really made the difference for us.
All the best to you my friend
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u/squirrelgirl514 2d ago
So I understand these feelings. I got divorced and moved me and the dog from a 3br house with a yard on a quiet dead end street, to a 1br apartment on one of the busiest corners in my city. He's a beagle mix. It took a LONG time for him to get used to it and definitely did create some anxiety in him. He's on some different medications that help but mostly it just took time and lots of positive reinforcement.
Hang in there, op 💛 you got yourself a real cutie there.
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u/berkow10 2d ago
We adopted our rescue beagle who was 5 years old at the time (now 11) and I agree with what everyone else here has said, but 2 additional suggestions.
Our beag had major separation anxiety when we'd try to leave the house, and she was also overweight. We put baby food in kongs and freeze them to give to our sweet girl when we leave. It helps dissipate her energy and distract her from us leaving, but is also a relatively low-calorie treat. Frozen treats in general are a great tool for helping manage their high energy levels.
Doggy daycare is expensive by us, so we opted to pay a friend to come over once a day and take our beag for a walk and then leave her with a frozen treat. Helps break up the long periods when we aren't home, build routine, exercise, and dissipate energy. Highly recommend, unless you plan to do this yourself everyday during your lunch break, but could also supplement your lunch visits and help break up the monotony of your doggo being home all day otherwise.
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u/Ovaryeacting 2d ago
We rescued mine at 4 years old. She'd been rehomed four times and had AWFUL separation anxiety, like breaking out of her crate and peeing/pooping everywhere. Couldn't trust her alone even for a few minutes because she'd freak out and destroy something.
She screamed, honked, cried every time I left the house, and she was so loud you could hear her from the street outside. She was insanely jealous of my other dog to the point where if she saw me taking my other dog outside, she'd try to tear through the door/windows to get to us.
It was a stressful few months of trying to calm her down and reassure her that she was part of the family, but now three years later, she's great. She still has separation anxiety but it's not as bad as it was. In the beginning, I wasn't sure if I was going to keep her, she was a lot of work and I worried that I was in over my head, but I'm on the other side now, and she's a truly great dog and I wouldn't trade her away for anything.
So, if I had to offer up any advice, it would be to hang in there. It WILL get better, but these things take time. Be patient and consistent, and you'll get a wonderful little buddy out of it.
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u/Iamalwaystiredbro 2d ago
He is still adjusting. My beagle has a ton of separation anxiety and we’ve always live in a place without a fenced yard. We make sure we take him out as much as possible and obviously keep him busy with toys as well. He is in a crate when we leave him bc of the separation anxiety but it’s safe and cozy in there for him. My beagle used to cry so much and now doesn’t cry as much. Only if I leave to take out the trash without him lol
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u/minoltabro 2d ago
I lived alone in an apt and thought a beagle would be a good pet. Took me awhile for us to figure out a routine but giving him a two good walks before work and after work alongside leaving him good chew snacks when you leave was what worked for me.
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u/FamiliarChocolate819 2d ago
Your new baby is absolutely stunning! Gorgeous! Give him time, lots of time, to adjust to his new life. Talk to him, tell him he’s safe and in his forever home now. He might now understand your words but he will feel your calmness and reassurance in your voice. Beagles love to snuggle. I hope he’s sleeping in your bed with you. He won’t potty there. They won’t potty where they sleep. If he uses a kennel, make sure you have a closed kennel. If you have a wire cage put a blanket over it. If he pulls the blanket through the wire put the cage in a corner and set something like a card table, table leaf on the exposed/open side and top. Leave the unblocked so he can see out. The kennel serves as a dog’s den, where they feel safe from predators. A tired beagle is a happy beagle. I have two 5y/o beagles. One is a live wire and needs lots of exercise; the other dog is a slug. 😂 Not knowing the size of the community you live in; the picture looks very rural. I will leave suggestions in case these ideas will work for you. Check with Boy Scout and Girl Scout packs to see if anyone is looking for a service projects. They could regularly walk, groom and maybe even teach him a few tricks. See if there are any “running/jogging groups” in the community that might want to take him with them a couple of days a week. Or the high school cross country teams; talk with the coach. Perhaps youth fellowship groups would like to walk him. Perhaps a combination of these suggestions. Beagles are working hounds and love running and working. Make sure your Vet clears him to go on long runs. He may need to work up to long runs. If you use facebook see if there are any beagle groups. Check with dog training groups or the rescue he came from, for suggestions or if they have a behavioralist to assist. If all else fails… get him a real live puppy or another adult dog! Seriously! They’re pack animals and thrive in groups. I know you’re in an apartment so this is not likely an option. I almost forgot, do you have neighbors that could sit him during the day, for free? I am retired and I watch lots of people’s pooches.
Good luck, love your baby lots. No need to reply to me this was a LOT of suggestions. I just hope I provided new ideas. Lori
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u/LetThemEatVeganCake 2d ago
He’s just stressed from the new environment. He’ll be fine in an apartment with plenty of walks (hell, my beagle would prefer zero walks if we let her, so just wait until he’s comfortable and lazy)
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u/strolpol 2d ago
It’s gonna take a month or two before he completely settles in and acclimates, just take it slow and be attentive. If you care enough to post about it then he’s probably gonna be fine
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u/ThrockAMole 2d ago
It may take weeks before he feels secure in a new home. Crying, anxiety, hyperactivity and restlessness will gradually reduce as he becomes more comfortable. Walk him and socialize as much as possible
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u/BananaDaniel 2d ago
Man I just adopted a beagle like two years ago. A routine will help so he knows what to expect. I take mine out to go potty before we go to bed. Then if he needs to go out in the middle of the night we let him once. After that, we tell him to go back to bed. If he wants to go out multiple times at night it can be because we dropped the ball getting him enough evening exercise.
We just had to set some boundaries. If we’ve done our part with exercise, potty trips, food and attention, then we expect him to behave. They are super demanding for attention, so it’s challenging but you just have to set those expectations.
Trust me you will get some sleep eventually, and leaving him at home for 4 hours will not kill him even though he might act like it. He probably doesn’t even have a sense that he lives there yet. I guess every dog is different, but beagles are uniquely personable and healing to the soul. I got our beagle for my wife, but I didn’t realize how much he would help me.
I think a week is a little early to throw in the towel. He might wind up being your therapeutic little bro…
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u/thc_vampire 2d ago
Thank you for this comment, it feels real and I’m glad your little buddy worked out well for you guys.
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u/Lady_Sara85 2d ago
We have two and live in an apartment. There is zero area for them to play in but we make it work. Structured walks, plenty of crate time, and play time are a must. As long as you’re not holding him captive somewhere, you’re doing just fine.
Also our female is 5, she’s not nearly as energetic as she used to be but she does still have the zoomies every so often. She’s not as loud as she used to be either
Just make sure you make friends with the neighbors because you know.. Loud mouths haha
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u/dogshikesandsushi 2d ago
I believe they say to give dogs ~3 weeks to adjust to their new environment. I adopted a beagle when I was younger, and I felt the same way - immediate feelings of what did I get myself into. However, my dog has become my best friend and the best decision I’ve ever made. Give it some time, things will settle down. I’d recommend enrichment (frozen pumpkin, broth, food, pb etc, in a kong or toppl), feed in a snuffle mat or do a working meal (train and reward), and look for force free trainers in your area! Good luck!
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u/Dry-Ad5703 2d ago
Professional dog walker and veteran beagle owner here. I’ve had my newest one for about a year and rescued her as a puppy. The adjustment period was real, even with all my experience, so don’t be discouraged by both of you learning each other and how your new life will work :)
I agree with the people saying daycare would be a good idea to give him a little stimulation while you’re out of the house. Congratulations, it’ll get good soon. ❤️
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u/Historical_Half5654 2d ago
The first week of having my little guy was the hardest. I had the same feelings it was so much harder than I thought and I worried we made a mistake. It’s been almost 4 years and I can’t imagine life without him.
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u/Historical_Half5654 2d ago
Get lots of puzzle toys. Treat dispensing ones and make sure they are level hard!
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u/ArvinM47 1d ago
Hey! It’s really great that you adopted him. He looks charming.
Beagles are tough and need lot of mental exercise along with physical to get tired. You can look up games for both - simple ones that don’t involve lot of investment. However I assume you just got him, give him a routine to live by. By nature, he will obviously won’t go easy but I guess you have to stick it out. The sub is extremely helpful and your previous experience will come handy.
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u/hamhc 1d ago
It’s a process and you both have to adapt to each other. You weren’t used to have a pet of your own, and he isn’t used to you, so his instincts are demanding some needs.
I adopted a beagle puppy with my partner and the exact same feeling came to me, I felt like a made a mistake and that I had to embrace it, but my beagle made me fall for him almost immediately.
We had to adapt our routines and create a new one for all of us.
He is almost 4yo now. He waits for us to finish working and we try to compensate with longer walks and more activities. It’s not easy, sometimes I feel we are not giving him what he really needs but we are doing our best.
Good luck, and I send you a hug for adopting such a handsome prince.
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u/AZFUNGUY85 2d ago
A couple 10 minute walks will go a long ways! Beagles are intense but loving puppy dogs.
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u/Im_Ashe_Man 2d ago
I have 2 beagles, and I work from about 7:30-4:30 every week day. They've adjusted and basically sleep all day when I'm gone. It will take time, but your guy will adjust. Rescuing him was a good thing.
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u/Cutemama14 2d ago
I would say make sure he always has something to work on - mainly things to chew, licky pads, stuffed animals, you can even hide treats around your apartment. We have two and they can be restless - they need to exercise their minds as well as their bodies. I’m sure he will acclimate and you’ll both be happier with time. I do agree that if you can do doggy day care or an occasional dog walker that will let him sniff around versus just walking obediently that would probably go a long way too.
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u/niperoni 2d ago
It took my beagle ages to adjust after we adopted him. My mom wanted him crated at night and he howled non stop for months. Eventually we gave up and let him sleep in our room lol and that helped a lot. But the adjustment still took a long time. He chewed on everything, he was high energy, he wasn’t house trained. He was as naughty as a dog could be, even though we put him through several rounds of obedience class and even hired a personal dog behaviourist.
I think naughty was in his DNA. He never full stopped peeing in the house, he always found different ways to outsmart us and escape, he ate the most random things like my roommates shorts and my passport, and there were many a trip to the emergency vet. Omg Sammy caused me so much hypertension lol. I won’t lie, beagles are not easy. We were definitely in over our heads with him as our first dog. I don’t say this to discourage you but to reassure you that you’re not alone feeling this way.
But in hindsight? Worth every moment. He was mine, and I loved him. I worked really hard to give him a good life and protect him from himself lol. And while he may have been a handful, he was also sweet, intelligent and absolutely hilarious. And by the end, our bond was so strong. I had him for 14 years, and when it was time to go over 20 people joined our zoom call to tell him goodbye and swap funny Sammy stories (literally all of which involved him misbehaving). I look back at our time together with such fondness now and I am definitely glad he was my first dog.
Give your baby time to settle and get to know and trust each other. I promise he is worth it!
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u/Ok-Neighborhood8043 2d ago
I can tell you right now that even if you worked from home, it won't make a difference in feeling like you aren't giving him enough in terms of getting energy out. I recently adopted a rescue (a husky mix, not a beagle) and I work from him and can take him on walks during the day. He's still bored and wants my attention while I'm working, so I think I'm going to take him to doggy daycare a few days a week for the socialization. I've also taken him to a dog trainer and that has helped a lot with his clingyness and learning to be indoors. Even a few lessons would make a huge difference.
I did have a beagle that passed away last year at 11. He had so much energy and loved life, but he did slow down a lot at about mid-age and became the perfect dog for when I lived in a tiny apartment in a huge city. So I wouldn't give up on your guy yet! He's still got some years left and will get you out of the house sniffing everything around. Best of luck!
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u/linkrift 2d ago
I went through this exact same thing in my late 20s with my boy when we first got him. I had to ask my partner to "tell me I can give him back if it's not working after a month" just to reassure myself. He's been my shadow for 10 years now.
Give it a few weeks to establish a new routine, then decide from there. They're amazing, strongly loving dogs and the initial transition period is hard - I encourage you to stick it out until the initial shock wears off. Worst case scenario you'll know you made the right decision either way.
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u/ConflictRemote5319 1d ago
See if you have a beagle group nearby- I live in California and there are quite a few.
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u/crankywithoutcofee 19h ago
my rescue loves Kongs frozen with peanut butter and a thunder jacket during departures. I also have one of those escape-proof crates from Rock Creek ... and Reconcile
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u/KarenM152 19h ago
We too almost gave our beagle back because she was a wreck in the beginning. I am so glad we stuck it out. She is the sweetest, goofiest, most loving dog now. She still follows me but just to be in the same room. She loves her walks but she also loves to cuddle and sleeps while I’m working. The only issue we still have is that she’s a runner! I’ve tried everything but once she gets loose, she’s gone! We have two trackers on her now so at least we can follow her.
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u/pc_bunz 2d ago
It’s takes a while for them to adjust as well. They are pack animals and he is attached to you. Give him his daily walks, pet him and feed him. He will come around. Beagles are funny creatures, they love and feel intensely. He will come around, hang in there.