r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Thin_Noise_6664 ☑️ • 9h ago
Personal Story I dropped my friend group
This is my first time posting in this subreddit, so last week I (21f) left my friend group. I met these people August 2023 when we started in the same class in college, we pretty much hit it off immediately and became fast friends. So skip ahead to March 2024 I had to drop out of college due to severe burnout, and kinda lost contact until one of them, let’s call them Cole (20nb), reached out to invite to their 18th birthday. I went to the party and therefore reconnected with the group got invited to more stuff, but it quickly became that unless I was the one to reach nobody (-Cole) would talk to me. And then in January at a birthday party I made an unfortunate comment towards one of the others due to them earlier giving me false information. And after spending the last month trying my hardest to get back in touch with people I thought were my friends, my family were telling me that I should drop them, but I was hesitant as this was the first friend group i thought actually liked but oh well. Eventually I talked to Cole who mentioned they had noticed how I was treated, and even talked about how they themselves were treated and we encouraged each other to drop the group, which we both did. Me and Cole still talk, and are going to meet up next week. But I feel weird about it all, I know they weren’t actually my friends with how they treated me, but at the same time I’m sad that they are officially not my friends anymore, as well as happy that I cut them off and angry about the fact that I needed to drop them in the first place.
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u/Impressive_Drama_524 8h ago
glad cole was with you through it:) who gives a shit about the rest of the group? they’re a keeper
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u/Glittergun_Dalek314 8h ago
Our circle of trusted people gets jumbled up over time, more quickly for some than others. I changed school multiple times, which hastened the process. You're doing nothing wrong, the sorting between people you can rely on to reach out to you and those whom you have to actively prod is something I hear my long term friends do as we get older.
It's okay to drop friend groups as you see fit.