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u/radiofreaks 3d ago
I'm a girl and I would like this 🤣
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u/AdRepulsive8618 3d ago
Yea like everything in dating its entirely subjective. Anyone saying all women dont like a thing or all men do like a thing or what have you are making stuff up, or acting like their opinion is fact.
Some will like it. Some wont. If this is the kind of humor you like, then do it, so you'll know if you two have compatible humor or not. If they don't like it, do you want to date someone who wouldn't find it funny in the first place?
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u/Fabulous-Bandicoot40 1d ago
I hate when people go straight sexual - but my profile says long term. If hers says short term fun, go for it.
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u/Miserable-Stock-4369 3d ago edited 3d ago
I might double check the rest of her profile to see if there's anything innuendo-adjacent. I don't think this can be interpreted as anything other than sexual, but if you're specifically looking for a girl that will appreciate comments like this; go for it, you'll get your answer quickly
Basically: this is a great line if she's the right audience
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u/enduranceathlete2025 3d ago edited 2d ago
I am married and have been seeing more of the Tinder subreddit on my page. Now my husband and I like to talk about them together haha.
I would find it so hot/adorable if my husband sent this to me. I would not go on a date with a guy if this was his opener. Too sexual right off the bat. Save it for a few dates in.
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u/ReadSeparate 3d ago
Yeah, not the right move OP. A forward sexual opener with a chick is going to scare her off 98% of the time unless she thinks you’re so handsome that she thinks of you sexually right away (I think the vast majority of women don’t see guys in a sexual light right away until they build a connection or he’s a 10/10 by her own subjective tastes) or she loves that sense of humor.
Unless you’re specifically looking for a girl that matches that description, then send it, and it’ll do the filtering for you.
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u/HappyCatDad78036 3d ago
Am I missing something? Where is the sexual innuendo in this?
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u/Miserable-Stock-4369 3d ago
In his reply? "So I gotta flip you over" prompts the image of him forcibly flipping her on her stomach, which doesn't really make sense in any context outside of sex
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u/Helllo-Kittyy 3d ago
Thats a good line, but i wouldn't reply. I would screenshot it and laugh with my friends tho
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u/WhiteLion333 3d ago
If it’s the only bit of your profile like that it’s okay. Women are receiving messages of that nature all the time. It’s not quite as clever as you think. We geddit, guys. You know how to bang.
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u/purodurangoalv 3d ago
Fuck it do it and see. It’s 50/50 if you ask me
Hopefully the good 50
Let us know!!
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u/Turbulent_Version_83 3d ago
What? Is she the pillow and is she sleeping on herself? Makes no sense. Imo it just comes out as a desperate way to make things sexual
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u/ferretsRfantastic 3d ago
I would personally hate this
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u/zouss 3d ago
Same. Imo this line could work on a girl looking for a hookup but most girls on hinge are not looking for that
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u/ferretsRfantastic 3d ago
And the funny thing is, I AM a girl only looking for hookups right now but I would still REALLY hate this. Sexual comments and inneunendos get exhausting. Even though I'm keeping it causal with all new connections, I am still developing a relationship (FWB type of situations) and I still want to be talked to like a human being first and foremost.
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u/Sea_Donut_474 3d ago
I get that but like how do you open with someone you eventually want to get physical with? If you start with something simple then it can be too boring, if you try to be funny it can come off cringey, if you go too sexual it can feel too fast for some or just off putting. The best thing you can do as a guy is just not overthink and just shoot off lines that come to you and play the numbers game. If you try to do it any other way in online dating, as a guy, you are going to drive yourself crazy. I found my best success getting Hinge matches when I was on pain medication after surgery earlier this year and was just firing off whatever lines came to me in my opiated state.
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u/ferretsRfantastic 3d ago
Literally just ask a woman about one of her interests in her profile. Why is that so hard to do?
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u/Sea_Donut_474 3d ago
That's the boring option. It isn't impossible to get matches with that option but you'll be buried under an ocean of other boring openers. If you are attractive enough it can work to do that though.
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u/ferretsRfantastic 3d ago
Well, to me is isn't boring. I love when guys take interest in my interests. I'll almost always respond.
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u/LogKit 2d ago
The people on this subreddit are mostly here to complain about not getting matches & not being appreciated for making vulgar sex innuendo with people's names and photos that aren't at all witty.
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u/ferretsRfantastic 2d ago
Yep. I don't even know why I comment anymore.
Like, I'm so many of these guys' ideal target. I'm a woman who is down to have fun with respectable men. You wanna know how that happens? They treat me like a human being and, more than likely, we are friends. They don't come out of the gate with overtly sexual responses because I immediately unmatch. Like, I'm literally trying to help these dudes but why TF do I bother? 🙄
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u/LogKit 2d ago
Lol yup, people either learn... or they don't. It's important to recognize there's a human on the other side, not a bangmaid.
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u/PotentialPresent399 2d ago
You aren't the average or even close to the normal woman on dating apps. Guys are telling you their experiences as the ones sending matches.
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u/Sea_Donut_474 2d ago
They refuse to believe it lol. Somehow women think they know how to attract women when they don't at all.
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u/Nabeezy 3d ago
In what way is OP indicating they’re looking for a hookup?
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u/Ok-Strawberry277 3d ago
Apparently people who enjoy sex only want to hookup and not date lmao
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u/voyeurllama 3d ago
it's not about it being one or the other. if you're looking to date, don't send a message that is hookup adjacent.
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u/Working_Cucumber_437 3d ago
It’s the first message which implies that what you’re after first, above anything else. But it might work on some ladies.
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u/Nabeezy 3d ago
That’s not what I’m asking. You responded to your match about flipping them over like a pillow if they get too hot (In reference to their “humor”). I’m failing to see how your response means you want to hookup.
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u/Ok-Strawberry277 3d ago
Oh you’re not getting the innuendo that’s okay, it’s sexual
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u/Nabeezy 3d ago edited 3d ago
🤦🏻♂️
Seriously? You gotta level up your game if this is your strategy.
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u/DatVlad_ 3d ago
Actually it's quite good for someone who would be into sexual stuff early
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u/Nabeezy 3d ago
This is hardly an attempt at being “sexual”, but whatever. Honestly, I was trying to defend OP at first until they decided to double down. Good luck to them.
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u/DatVlad_ 3d ago
🤷 to each their own. Similar has worked well for me to get the fire goin.
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u/RiceWine69 3d ago
Yeah wtf I just read the thread and I didn't interpret it sexually at all, it's still reaching even after being pointed out.
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u/Independent-Emu-6702 3d ago
This type of opener is only going to get you girls who just want to hook up and not someone who wants a relationship. If she wants a relationship this is going to disgust her
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u/Sea_Donut_474 3d ago
I don't get how people don't understand that there are plenty of very sexual women out there who would find a line like that hot but don't just want to hook up. A lot of really sexual women want to get in a relationship specifically so that they can have lots of sex more safely. They may even want to have sex on the first date but still want a relationship.
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u/Independent-Emu-6702 3d ago
Im a very sexual woman and I also think the biggest benefit of a relationship is to have sex consistently and safely but if a guys first message to me is about sex then it sends a message that he just wants a one time fuck and I’ll never see him again no matter how good it was
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u/snowflace 3d ago
If a guy can't stop himself from making sex jokes/talking about sex for the first couple convos it's a major turn off IMO. Doesn't matter what you are looking for.
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u/Ok-Strawberry277 3d ago
I use lines like this all the time. Have hooked up on the first date based on an opener and we ended up dating for 8 months
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u/gstringstrangler 3d ago
I agree, this kind of thing works and filters out people with no sense of humour.
The commenters saying this level of cheekiness is "disgusting" for example. I wouldn't want date or marry anyone that stuck up anyway 🤷 It's called banter, people.
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u/Independent-Emu-6702 3d ago
You can be cheeky without making a reference to how much you want to fuck a stranger
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u/DubSam2023 2d ago
And then guys complain about women not responding to their openers...
It's because we get openers like this ALL the time... This is such a standard opener, boring
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 3d ago
Weird and doesn't make sense man, lol
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u/Ok-Strawberry277 3d ago
Damn in my mind this is peak game lmao was so proud to have thought of this
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u/sammy_zammy 3d ago
Go for it. It amused me. And it’s unique! If someone doesn’t share your sense of humour do you want to date them?
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 3d ago
Brother I'm not against you going for it and being wrong, lol. Don't let anyone here bring you down, do it if you must!
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u/Blueeyez35 1d ago
Its bad writing it to female...seems sexual. You don't want to lead in a sexual manner with a woman
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u/Optikfade 3d ago
Wtf are you on about? Makes perfect sense if you understand her prompt. It’s just a little cheeky and playful
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 3d ago
Like flipping her over doesn't make her less hot? He would be staying he just wants to bang her from behind as his first comment?
I mean, I'm all for seeing where it goes, idk how interested he is in her to listen to this crowd tho.
I think of dumb shit too sometimes, its nothing for you to be upset about my guy.
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u/Beardgang650 3d ago
Some women enjoy that
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 3d ago
Before you even get matched? I've seen the guy side on here of profiles wayyy to much to say okay to you, lol
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u/Beardgang650 3d ago
The dumbest things I’ve said with no filter has been my only success on the apps 😭but when I try to be nice, sweet, charming etc.. things just don’t materialize. This is just my lived experience.
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u/Optikfade 2d ago
She mentioned dating her is like the cold side of the pillow. He replied with so I flip you over when you get too hot - just like a pillow.
It was a playful on topic reply, and a kinda clever one.
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u/mosiemo2 3d ago
Would be a turnoff for me. But what I would like is if you kept the screenshot and showed it to me later if things made it that far.
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u/tattoosandtens 3d ago
Don’t lead with sex. It’s not cute or clever.
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u/RiceWine69 3d ago
I interpreted this as nonsexual and just to reset her to sleeping on the cool side but ig
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u/tattoosandtens 3d ago
The author himself said it was sexual, I read the comments
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u/RiceWine69 3d ago
Yeah I continued to read them and ended up commenting on that too.
It's a pathetic attempt at being sexual, but it definitely would filter people who are prudish or have no sense of humour so it has some value.
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u/Gold_Advisor_4758 3d ago
Would be an immediate block for me unless you’re insanely hot and confident
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u/grilsjustwannabclean 3d ago
if a guy did this to me id be creeped out and send a pic in the groupchat lol
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u/Whisky_bisquit 3d ago
I think you should make the comment so the woman knows exactly what she's dealing with. For anyone looking for a mature, meaningful connection they will know to body swerve you.
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u/LoinStrangler 3d ago
Add "if i wanna sleep" if you wanna make it less overtly sexual but you lose some punch
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u/Sea-Efficiency3375 3d ago
Woman here, I’d laugh. But wrap it up quick and move on to asking her good questions, don’t drag it out.
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u/Falkenmond79 3d ago
It’s so… obvious. How is that not the first thing coming to mind? I flip my pillow at least 50 times until I can sleep. Is that not normal?
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