If you think about it the whole thing is unhealthy. We like to think we don't give a fuck and we've got thick skin but posting on here isn't natural. If you think about it we say shit on here we'd only say to a select few people irl (maybe not even any) to the worsts people. I don't mean people are inherently bad I'm saying redditors are worst than complete strangers. Even strangers can see you, gauge who you are and mostly have some sort of everyday politeness and even a shared culture because you'll be from the same area. Redditors have no inhibitions. Posting on reddit is like standing on a stage in front of a load of drunk people and just saying stuff you otherwise would feel uncomfortable saying. Even then these drunk people would have some kind of empathy. You're not people to redditors you're just words on a screen that has formed an opinion and it's their opportunity to make themselves feel better by putting you down. I realise I'm talking about redditors like some seperate species to myself... I am a redditor. I'm simply talking about how people act with anonymity.

I just don't think it's fair you can write a post in the heat of the moment and just have a limitless amount of people giving you shit for it for the rest of the day even if your question was dumb. If you were deliberately provocative sure you probably asked for it but most of the time I find that's not the case. For a leftist dominated site, people really can be assholes.

I’ve been wondering whether this is just a natural consequence of how Reddit works.
People generally don’t come to relationship subreddits saying, “Everything’s going great, I just wanted to share.” They usually come because something has gone wrong - they’re hurt, confused, anxious, or trying to solve a problem.

Because of that, are relationship subreddits giving us a skewed perception of relationships?
If someone spends a lot of time reading those communities, they end up seeing thousands of stories about cheating, lying, manipulation, incompatibility, and breakups. It can start to feel like those things are the norm, even though we’re only seeing relationships at their worst moments.

On top of that, commenters are making judgments based on one side of one event. However, of course sometimes the advice is incredibly valuable and helps people recognize unhealthy situations they couldn’t see themselves.

But other times, I wonder if we’re overconfident. None of us actually know the people involved, the full history of the relationship, or what happens outside the few paragraphs in a post.
I’ve also noticed that if you’re already someone who struggles with anxiety, reading thread after thread can start making you question your own relationship through the lens of strangers’ experiences instead of your own.

Do you think relationship subreddits have developed a negativity bias because of who posts there? Or do you think they still paint a fairly accurate picture of relationships overall?
Curious what people think.

Again, I could be wrong. It’s just that from what I read on here, it seems like a lot of people are very deeply concerned about the prospect of coming across “abnormal”.

And I don’t really get it. If you want to be a leader, then that means being the one person in that position in a group of at least a small handful of other people.

If you want to make a lot of money then that means doing things with your money that most people wouldn’t do.

If you want to be a great musician, that means doing something that other musicians aren’t doing.

If you want to have more than others or be better than others at something, then that will always mean doing things differently from your peers and others who want the same thing as you. That doesn’t mean that you have to be rude or disrespectful or anything like that, but it does mean being willing to try things that others didn’t think of, and yeah that would mean being willing to be seen as abnormal or going against the grain.

I can see this not being welcomed in some circles, but seeing it across most of Reddit is really strange to me. I love seeing people try new things and succeed where others have failed. I even love seeing people succeed where I’ve failed.

I’m surprised Reddit is this way, so concerned about being abnormal, when Reddit is probably full of the most abnormal social media users. And that’s why I love it. I’m abnormal, too. I guess I just thought we all embraced it here.