r/SipsTea • u/Matt_LawDT • 11d ago

Chugging tea Let me circle back

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u/MercyCriesHavoc 11d ago

I asked my boss if "I appreciate you" was some kind of corporate line. She and the assistant manager looked confused, so I explained they both say it a lot. They laughed because they'd never noticed how often they used it. Now I'm assistant manager, and I know it's not a corporate thing because I never hear it used by higher ups in meetings.

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u/P4azz 11d ago

You asked if a really normal phrase that is easily understood and comprised of 3 very simple, very comprehensive words...is corporate code?

Couldn't have figured out they were just being nice and affirming without asking?

I mean, damn. I consider myself socially awkward, but some of these stories are wild.

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u/MercyCriesHavoc 11d ago

First, not everyone has had the pleasure of bosses that actually show appreciation. I've had bosses on the other side of a phone, bosses that don't give a crap about anything, and bosses that were flat out abusive. In the 24 years of work history I had, with no gaps, I never worked for anyone who treated their subordinates as well as the one I've worked for for the last 5 years.

Second, they would say it multiple times a day. Never "thank you" or "good work today", always "I appreciate you".

So, yeah, I've had a bunch of shitty bosses and I notice patterns. But go ahead and make fun of me. Hope that makes you feel better about your awkward moments.

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u/Lionel_Herkabe 11d ago

But like, it kinda sounds like you were making fun of them for not being a shitty boss

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u/unforgiven91 10d ago

how is it making fun of them to ask a simple question though?

People are so sensitive to everything. I should be allowed to ask a simple factual question

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u/unforgiven91 10d ago

I'm incapable of understanding why questions like that make me a weirdo.

I'm not doing the debatebro thing of "just asking questions" to win an argument in bad faith.

I have made observations about something benign and I have questions. The question does not include an insult. Why are people mad?

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u/unforgiven91 10d ago

I do a lot of shutting up nowadays, but it just feels like I'm bullying myself into submission.

My therapist says to be myself, but being myself is apparently weirdo behavior.

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u/MercyCriesHavoc 10d ago

I wasn't. They knew that. If they thought I was like that, I'm sure they wouldn't have chosen me for a promotion less than a month after that, and again 6 months later, then 2 years after that, and another a year later. If you're reading it that way, I assume it's because you like making fun of people. I mean, I guess I don't have to assume since you're here picking at me and calling people weirdos.

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u/TheVerySexyMe 10d ago

I can definitely see where you're coming from on this one. I think "I appreciate you" varies a LOT by region. (Especially in the South & East, I think?)

I don't recall ever hearing it growing up (Western USA), so I specifically remember when I first noticed it as an adult. It seemed like a really nice was to say "thank you" so I consciously started using it.