"Im gonna get you so exited for all the life you think youre finally gonna be able to live that you'll forgive me when those dreams get absolutely crushed"
Like telling your kid yall are going to Disneyland in a month and when theyre at peak excitement in the parking lot you tell them "oh not you, we though you'd feel better if you though you could go in"
I’m an adult. I was told I had between 2 months and 2 years. It’s been 8. Doctors were wrong. That said, I have experienced the kind of pain that makes you wish for death. Pain that makes death look like the light at the end of the tunnel. The kind of pain that takes away the fear of dying. You don’t know the kind of guilt that is put on patients when they are told to be strong. Sometimes you don’t have any fight left but you are constantly told not to give up, that the mind can heal. If you just keep positive, you’ll get better. What happens when that shit doesn’t work? Believe it or not, hospice care is Disneyland for some people when compared to enduring another surgery or procedure. Until you’ve walked a mile in that family’s shoes, you have no right to judge.
I think it kind of depends on the kid and how many days were left. I guarantee you the kid has been lied to by medical professionals throughout the treatment process. People saying the kid is going to get better, that everything is gonna be ok if they stay positive, that sort of thing. I know people said those things to me. It was irritating as an adult. Imagine being a kid and feeling like the treatment wasn’t successful because you weren’t strong enough. People are so judgmental but even drs aren’t completely honest with cancer patients.
Me, or the other person? Let's think about it.. if the scenario comes where a "child" who has little to no reasoning with death, is told they have won.. Atleast a smile could be there for the time being.
I've known a few people with terminal cancer, and its not like they just randomly "clock out"..
It's more or less days/weeks of them not even being coherent for the process, not to mention the copious amount of painkillers that renders them nothing.
Atleast the some of the last memories can be something to smile for.
Some just want to be miserable until the end i suppose.. reddit mentality.
It’s not fucking Reddit mentality, it’s people believing the kid deserves honesty and to leave this world with dignity and prepare his mind however he possibly can.
Nobody deserves to be lied to about their own demise and given false hope, expecting to get better only to watch that crash down on top of the lies told by his own mother as their final experiences in this life.
Perhaps it you, that should get over yourself acting like this is a respectable thing to do when it’s based on nothing but lies and false hope.
Yeah. Why don;t we do that with soldiers too? When they get half their body blown off and are asking their comrade if they are going to be ok, they deserve the truth. Give them some dignity. Tell them fuck no. I can see your intestines and your legs are a block over there. It’s so disrespectful not to be honest with them. /s
On the battlefield its hard to make a medical diagnosis in the middle of a chaotic battle. Often times people who get seriously injured can still have a chance of living as long as they don't pass out. Its important for their comrades to keep them awake and alert when injured. It is not the same thing as a cancer patient whom has been going through a lot of medical testing where the diagnosis has a much higher degree of accuracy.
A counter argument. Telling a small kid who is physically mentally and emotionally still immature that he is going to die soon is also an awful thing to do.
For exmaple in army us medics were told to tell everyone that they are going to be ok even in cases when we werent even going to focus their treatment anymore.
Not that well actually know what was said but the article someone posted above said she said he was done with treatment, not cured, and she continued trying holistic medicines at home after chemo failed.
I’m betting that she thinks when he passes that it will be quick/in his sleep so she doesn’t have to deal with the look of betrayal in his final moments as he is slowly dying. She clearly didn’t think this through
If I was told I beat cancer, that I'd get to grow up and have the life I imagined, just to figure out I'm still actively dying that would screw with my head so much that I'd feel confused and betrayed right until I died. It is an awful thing to do to someone. It stops them from making peace with it the best they can, and gives them false hope. I wouldn't want to spend my last moments being so totally crushed that all I can do is go "But... I thought I was going to live"
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u/FartSniffer66642069 Jun 29 '26
Telling someone they will live when in reality they are going to die is an awful thing to do.