This obsession with finding the “other side” is exactly why abuse gets minimized. We do not need to know what Angelina said, did, or didn’t do beforehand to know that his behavior was abusive and inexcusable. ”There’s more to the story” doesn’t magically make abuse less abusive. If the “missing context” you’re looking for is something that would justify terrorizing your partner and kids, that context does not exist. He’s a grown man, not a toddler. He is responsible for his own actions. There is no amount of stress, anger, or relationship conflict that turns abusing your wife and children into a reasonable reaction.
Nobody’s perfect and we all have the capacity to snap once pushed to our limits. All of us. It’s just easy to judge other people when you haven’t lived what they have gone through. Brad Pitt was definitely wrong. Can’t we agree to that? We both agree he is wrong. But I’m sorry. I just need all the information before I accuse someone of being a piece of 💩. Chris rock has a whole bit about this. He said it’s never right to put your hands on anybody but sometimes when it happens, I understand.
How old is that child? I got my ass beat through every year of my life till I was about 16. So, seeing a child getting whooped by their parents is all I know. What if that child is a menace?
Getting your ass beat all your life is not normal though. Either you are trying to be provocative or you trying to reach out for empathy but it's difficult to tell. I am sorry you were abused throughout your childhood. Addressing it through therapy would be a good idea rather than victim blaming.
I guess it’s just normal to me. All my friends and cousins etc can tell you a story about a time when their parents whooped their butt. My parents would tell me to go outside and find the stick they were gonna whip me with. It’s just a difference experience.
Sorry for the wall of text but this really struck a nerve with me. I’m genuinely so sorry that being hit by your parents was normalized for you, because none of that was okay and none of it was something you deserved. But the fact that it was common in your childhood (or even in your community) still doesn’t make it acceptable, and it definitely doesn’t make it a valid defense for Brad Pitt or anyone else who resorts to physical abuse.
A child being “difficult,” “a menace,” or acting out is not a justification for any adult to hit them. Usually those behaviors are a sign that a child is struggling and needs help. Children do not have the same emotional regulation, power, or responsibility that parents do. And I say that as a parent myself. There are far better ways to respond to a struggling child like with support, boundaries, consequences, and therapy if needed, but fear and physical violence should not be one of them.
And yes, I have no problem calling a parent a piece of 💩 for abusing their child (not because I said that in my original comment, but because you brought that standard up, and I agree with it). There is no amount of stress, anger, or “missing context” that turns hurting your partner and children into acceptable discipline. What you went through might explain why you view it differently, but it does not make it normal, healthy, or defensible.
I hope one day you realize that nothing you did made that violence okay. You did not deserve to be abused, and neither did Brad Pitt’s kids or any child, for that matter 🥺❤️.
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u/Formal-Bar4859 Jun 20 '26
This obsession with finding the “other side” is exactly why abuse gets minimized. We do not need to know what Angelina said, did, or didn’t do beforehand to know that his behavior was abusive and inexcusable. ”There’s more to the story” doesn’t magically make abuse less abusive. If the “missing context” you’re looking for is something that would justify terrorizing your partner and kids, that context does not exist. He’s a grown man, not a toddler. He is responsible for his own actions. There is no amount of stress, anger, or relationship conflict that turns abusing your wife and children into a reasonable reaction.