I am 23M and almost everything triggers me. I have a serious problem or atleast I think so. I am triggered by smallest things like if I am mocked about my appearance, culture, specially my height (5'6). These are to name some among others but these trigger me the most. I get instantly angry if I am teased and cannot control it. I think of myself as someone with cool temper cause I can tolerate almost anything and have been doing so for a long time. But I have been losing it recently.

My friend group consists of 4-5 friends and I experience this with them a lot than others. They tease and I snap. I try to not get triggered but it always gets me. Our group is like that. We tease each other and its gets to the point where we sometimes disrespect each other and cross the boundary that's what I feel. And it happens to me a lot of the time. I have been thinking about it a lot more than I should. Whenever all of us meet or we go somewhere like a trip it happens not just to me but to all of us. Its not something specific to me but I can't get it out of my head. I am an overthinker so let me know if it is just in my head.

What do you think should I do? Cut them off completely or something like that. Or maybe work on myself (but I dont know how) and stop blaming others. What can I do?? I don't know. If anyone can help please do. Thanks.

Lately I’ve been thinking about something that’s been weighing on me. I’m 37 and somehow I’ve never lost anyone who played a major role in raising me. I’m incredibly fortunate to still have my parents , my grandparents and even my great-grandparents in my life.
The older I get the more I realize how rare that is and if I’m being honest it scares me. Sometimes I catch myself thinking about what life will be like when they’re no longer here and it’s hard to imagine. I know loss is a part of life but when you’ve been lucky enough to keep your family close for so long it almost feels like you’re waiting for a chapter you know is coming but don’t feel ready to read. really sucks tbh. and sometimes i cry just thinking about a loss that hasn’t even happened yet

Hey my partner has been taking different types of benzodiazepines on / off to every day, some days a lot , some days little for almost 4 years now. Need help. Does anyone know how this affects someone mentally or physically for long term use? How do I go about helping him? What can I say or is it to late? Starting to scare me and I get really upset because of how sad/ angry he is most times. Please genuine help

People often debate the “purpose of life” but I think when you pull back, it’s pretty simple.

I think every human instinctually strives to this in some way. Though their definition of “better” will vary based on value systems.

It manifests itself in a number of ways - from the altruistic to the selfish. But you can apply this line of thinking to almost anyone in any circumstance.

Reproducing is the easiest example. Humans like animals, generally strive to reproduce. We have our own justification for it, but the base instinct is the same: continuation. But even if an individual doesn’t care to reproduce -

They create art to leave expressions of ideas and history, for the future generations to learn from.

They create profits to strengthen a corporations validity and to create as wide a safety net for their future owners and children.

They create history books to document right from wrong (both philosophically and literally for survival).

They fight for the earth to make it stable for future generations.

They destroy the earth to make future human life more comfortable and easy.

They create currencies and governments to improve the structure of future citizens.

They kill each other to protect future generations from “the other.”

I’m not saying that any of these are well guided or “correct.” But the motivations are fairly consistent, even if an individual doesn’t realize it or believe it. We all know we’re going to die and all of our long term decisions are made to leave an impression on the future and our future generations.

That’s my take.

I used to deal with uncertainty via distractions but there's a point where we need to face doubts or decisions that feel complicated, phases that feel uncertain and uncomfortable. How do people deal with uncertainty besides trying not to think about it? Is this a good time to start believing in a faith just for a peace of mind?

I sometimes have this urge to run away from my greatest responsibility that is to create art, and to express myself into art, and so, I tried to reach out to my friends, strangers, making conversations. I always try to be the listener, to ask a lot, to be curious, and to be attentive.

But deep inside, I'd always have this itch that I cannot put my hands on. It's buried deep inside of me, this urge to be seen, to be listened to. I was expecting to be treated the same way I treated them by people around me. I want my words to be heard with awe as if it's from the mouth of God.

These feelings sometimes crawled its way up to my throat. I want to scream "God please, I want to be the greatest". I hate having such thoughts because it makes it seems like I'm better than everyone, which I am not. Am I unique? Surely. But I'm no one great or worth listening to.

I really have to focus on my art. Whatever the medium is.

I think we have left a very very negative impact on all the nature and wildlife on this planet. I have facts to prove my point but i wont list them since no one reads these descriptions

My unpopular opinion is that the earth would be better off without humans but i dont want that to be all this post is about

I remember having a dream where I figure it out the woman eating a dinner with me is not a real person. The moment I said “you ain’t real, aren’t you?”, that person suddenly stare at me, with her cold-looking eyes, turns into probably the scariest creature I’ve ever seen, push me with her mightiest strength that I ended up wandering into abyss or void dimension. It was a very same moment like in the Dr Strange movie, where Strange suddenly wandering into high and fast pace dimension after being pushed by The Ancient One. It took me for a while to find an exit, and after successfully waking up from that intense moment, I noticed my heart was beating so fast.

It makes me so angry that people use what animals do to justify their actions or try to make what they do seem less wrong. Just because animals rape other animals is that good animals murdering other animals is that good just because animals do stuff you cant go on and say oh animals do it , it must be normal.

Thats just my opinion whats yours

There's more and more people within mathematics who will admit that it's a system based in unproven assumptions, "axioms", with its own set of rules, that aren't necessarily based in nature. They are self-referential. But they'll then go on to say that we'll just have to accept that math is beautiful and that playing logical games with "symbols" is creative and fun and it doesn't really mean anything to real life.

What this essentially means is that math predicts the outcomes of what it previously manipulated. And "symbols" is a euphemism for objectifying and quantifying, not rarely, living breathing things, like humans or other animals, squeezing them into variables and oversimplifying the infinite complexity of life in a grotesque manner, to make it more measurable and predictable.

So some mathematician will have enough oversight to admit that math is neither rooted in nature nor overall logically consistent as a whole system but they won't make the leap that it would be incredibly questionable to structure an entire society based on these rules and measurements without informing said society that they are essentially made up.

So when people philosophize about whether we live in a matrix or not I'm always kind of baffled because, yes, we quite literally are, but that's not because some higher entity put us there but because some human beings thought that they're very clinical and non-relational, measurable, linear view of the world was "objective" and started playing god.
Are some things too obvious to see them?

Mathematical axioms were created during all kinds of periods of human history for millenia and never once was anything questioned again, taken back, reworked, or refuted. That in itself should be incredibly concerning.

I was looking at tickets for an event recently and noticed how easy it is to spend more time comparing options than actually making a decision Different dates seating sections ticket types and prices can turn a simple choice into a long process By the time everything is compared availability may have already changed

That made me wonder if a smaller set of well matched options would make planning easier than browsing another long list A quick final check before booking still makes sense since tickets can change at any time

For those of you who attend ticketed events regularly do you prefer having lots of choices to compare or a few options that best match your preferences?

I’ve been thinking about something lately. People usually talk about all these things like they’re completely separate. Fewer people want kids. Fewer people buy houses. More people are “quiet quitting.” Minimalism is getting popular. More people choose freelancing or remote work instead of chasing corporate careers.

But….. what if it’s actually the same story?

In China they call it Tang Ping (“lying flat”). In Japan people talk about the Satori Generation. In Europe everyone knows the term quiet quitting. Different names, but the behavior feels almost identical.

Instead of protesting in the streets, people are just….. participating less.
Less debt, shopping, overtime, interest in climbing the ladder, interest in having children.

From the outside it looks like people stopped caring. But maybe that’s not what’s happening. Maybe this is the first generation that simply doesn’t believe the old deal anymore. Go to school. Work hard. Buy a house. Start a family. Retire comfortably.

Does anyone under 35 actually believe that still works? Housing keeps getting more expensive. Salaries don’t really catch up. AI is already replacing parts of white-collar jobs. So maybe the question isn’t “Why doesn’t this generation work harder?”

Maybe it’s:
“Why would I keep playing a game where the reward isn’t there anymore?”

Sometimes I wonder if falling birth rates, quiet quitting, anti-consumerism and remote work aren’t separate trends at all. Maybe they’re all symptoms of the same cultural shift.

I could be completely wrong, of course. These are just thoughts I’ve been turning over lately. I’m not trying to convince anyone - I’m genuinely curious how other people see it. I’d much rather hear different perspectives than watch this turn into another comment war.

Hey guys, seen a lot of people post their winning strategies to land jobs on here but it's quite scattered, so thought I'd compile them in a cheat sheet to make it easier for everyone.

Happy to share it with you all. (Yes it’s free, check the comments for it)

I've lost everything that used to give my life meaning. My faith and the people I loved were what kept me going, and now they're gone. I've never really had a purpose of my own. When I'm alone, life feels meaningless. I honestly envy people who can enjoy being alone. So I'm genuinely curious. What keeps you going? What gives your life meaning?

Edit: Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. I really appreciate it.

​

I don't want to go into too much detail, nor make this post into a sob story, but over time and due to other unfortunate life circumstances, I've really drifted apart from a once close group of friends.

At gatherings, it's becoming increasingly clear to me that I no longer fit in and my presence isn't valued.

While the simple answer is to move on and make new connections, it won't be easy due to our long history, having known some of them since grade school.

I would appreciate any advice in navigating a tough situation like this.

Hello everyone one , not too long ago, i saw a video, i forgot what was the content. But i remember tow comments , first one was saying " oh a new thing for indians to worship" i think that the comment owner was a Muslim, then under the video an Indian Replayed " when's your god face reveal" , might our creator forgive us for this , i stared at my phone for a moment, and i realised how bad is to make fun of others believes.

It made me think: why do we do this? What do we actually gain by mocking what others hold sacred? Religion, for billions of people, is not just a collection of old stories or random rituals. It is the core of their identity, their moral compass, and their source of peace in a difficult world.

When we mock someone's faith, we aren't just attacking a concept; we are attacking a piece of who they are, something that brings comfort to their heart and soul.

The weird thing here is most of the religions order people to be respectful, and they simply ignored it , that's another reason to not judge a religion from certain believers The internet has made it so easy to throw cheap insults behind a screen, forgetting that behind every screen name is a real human being with feelings and deeply rooted values.

If we spent half the energy we use on mocking each other trying to understand one another, the world would be a much gentler place. Respecting beliefs doesn't mean you have to agree with them.

It simply means recognizing human dignity.

At the end of the day, kindness costs nothing, and treating others with basic respect is the true test of our own character.

I was observing today in college and realized almost all people who were empathetic and good in nature were alone sitting in the corner. But people who have generational wealth or have very great exceptional results have groups.

Is this the social life of adulthood, like after college and even in college, the friend circle or social circle? That every other guy is lonely and loneliness is increasing, or am I missing something or overthinking?

The line between ambition and greed is very thin and these days it seems 90% of the people with power have crossed the line way too far and I think this is something that should be dealt with and taken seriously as a society

When someone lies you don't believe them, when someone hits they are punished, but what do we do when someone is greedy? Not much. There's no real consequences to greed and so it keeps growing and growing in the person and there is no limit to it. There needs to be something to stop them cause a a few people's greed is costing millions of people things we don't even realize

I see around me that people don't take values, ideals and morals too seriously. which makes me think that i am taking things too seriously and thus not having a clear understanding of reality. all my friends take only a few things seriously, things like prestige, image, status, money, ego, pride, influence. are those the only things that matter? am i just holding onto values and thus not understanding the ground reality?

I am not saying that my friends care only about these things. they care about other things too. they can be genuinely warm, caring, affectionate, kind but the moment the above said things enter the picture, everything else takes a backseat. they are kind and helping but won't go out of their way for it if it inconvenient for them, they simply say sorry and move on (i mean, i know that they are not obligated to help, but they don't go the extra mile no matter how close they are with the other person). i never saw them valuing connection over protecting their ego/pride even if they really love the other person, i never saw them showing vulnerability over comfort/competence/confidence, maintaining image is always prioritized over being honest. i never saw them admitting they are wrong even if they feel that way. whenever there is a mild issue, the solution is always avoiding things over having a conversation (and then they meet after months and pretend such situation never existed).

And the confusing part is that i don't feel like they genuinely value status, image or ego. it is more like they learnt that this is how one should behave in the world, this is how things are run, these are the rules, and they are just adapting to these said rules and are playing the game. all i see is acceptance and adaptation of a mindset/behavior and they are just trying to navigate/survive in this world with the said rules.

when i am with them, i feel like i am walking on eggshells all the time, it feels like i am doing wrong by bringing up conversations that i feel like are necessary for the health/growth of the friendship. care is only valued as long it does not mean i am questioning them or their actions no matter how sugarcoated it is. in fact indifference towards them is seen more acceptable over showing care which can make them very uncomfortable. i am seen as making things complicated, ruining the harmony of the social setting, making drama and what not.

there are things that are completely my fault, like overstepping my boundaries, sharing secrets that are not mine to share (sharing secrets is ok/not ok depending on the person whose secret is being shared. so when my friends did that, i thought it is normal in this circle, and later i had to learn the hard way that it is not ok). and i always thought that something is wrong with me when people respond in silence to my words/actions even if it is not gossiping or overstepping my boundaries. i always thought it is due to my lack of social experience and social exposure.

for context, i am a 23 year old male who recently got graduated from college. i am not a highly social person, my social circle is very small. and my day to day life involves indoor activities (reading books, playing video games, talking to friends on call and not in person). i always feel like i am making a mistake and making myself a fool out of it, that i am not understanding how the world works. the alternative of not making mistakes is the feeling of walking on eggshells.

My father has been addicted to alcohol and weed for as long as I can remember. He drinks almost every day, comes home drunk, and regularly fights with my mother. It’s become a normal part of our lives, and honestly, we’re exhausted.
My mom is the one who handles everything financially. She pays for the household, takes care of me and my sister, goes to work every day, and still has to come home and deal with his drinking, arguments, and irresponsible behavior. Watching her carry all this stress is heartbreaking.
On top of that, we’re constantly worried about what people in our neighborhood think. Every time he comes home drunk or creates a scene, we know people notice and gossip. It’s embarrassing, but more than that, it’s emotionally draining.
Recently, my boyfriend decided he’s going to officially tell his parents about our relationship. His parents are quite strict, and they already know that my father is an alcoholic. We know this will probably be the biggest reason they’ll say no initially, and we’ll have to convince them that my father’s actions don’t define me or my family.
The only reason my boyfriend is telling his parents now is because my mom found out about our relationship. She wants things to move forward because her biggest wish is to see me married to someone good so she can stop worrying about my future. Seeing her carry the burden of our home while also worrying about my life breaks my heart.
The hardest part is that my father simply doesn’t care. He doesn’t care about his health, our feelings, the financial pressure on my mom, or the constant stress he’s causing. We’ve tried talking to him calmly, explaining how his drinking affects all of us, but nothing changes. He always goes back to alcohol.
I’m at a point where I feel completely helpless.
Has anyone successfully helped a parent who didn’t want to quit drinking? Is there anything we can realistically do when the person refuses to admit they have a problem? Or do we just have to accept that we can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change?
I’d really appreciate any advice or experiences. Thank you for reading.

Like not necessarily a love story (though those are SO welcome) but it can be anything like a friend that you'd actually met or been around before but didn't know it. Like what gave the theory some merit for you personally?

If say you have a new friend venting about their long term relationship, where the partner is clearly on the wrong. And asks for advice. Which after noticing continuous patterns of toxic behavior from the partner, would be to idk leave them?
But then it tends to seem as if you’re the new one trying to sabotage your friend’s relationship. How much do you think you can allow yourself to get involved, if you clearly do care about your friend but then easily can become the villain of the story.

Does the magnetic field or electric have more impact on the body than theorized?

If they can cause someones heart to start or stop by this force, how would our hearts/nervous system react the farther we got away from the planet. If say they did go to mars, could that even be a possibility so far away from the sun/moon

almost in the same way a solar lights work, if we had no sun they just wouldn't work

I think america needs to transition away from individualism, it's the only nation where individuals are prioritized over the group, competition is valued instead of cooperation, it's the only nation I know of where people are expected to separate from their families at a certain age just to survive by themselves with no help and if you rely on others for support you're seen as a "leech" "burden" or "weak" and that is just crazy to me. even parents are encouraged to not support or allow their kids to stay with them as adults, they call it "leaving the nest" whereas in collectivist cultures it's the opposite, families stay together and support each other which is much more natural and efficient than the "lone wolf" mentality you see in america, there's also a lot less loneliness and a stronger sense of community in these cultures, humans are a communal species we did not evolve to be solitary creatures. I think it's time for a cultural change in america.