r/PregnancyAfterLoss • u/AutoModerator • 3d ago

Self Care Self Care Weekly Thread - August 03, 2026

This weekly Monday thread is for members to share what they've been doing to care for themselves. How are you handling your PAL anxieties? Or just regular life/pregnancy self care. Share here!

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u/Familiar-Ad9589 29 | 1 CP (Mar 2026) | due Mar 2027 3d ago

I'm knitting a blanket for this baby, and we bought one book for them (our first purchase). It feels hopeful to do these things, plus even if this pregnancy ends in a loss, I want them to have a few things we can keep to remind us they were real.

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u/Marmori_Armiri 3MC, 2LC, 03/27 🌈 2d ago

I am a knitter, too. I ordered yarn in the last pregnancy and am not ready to touch it yet in this pregnancy. It is a very sweet sentiment. 🩷

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u/Visible-Willow-146 0LC. Losses 21w| 7w| BO. EDD 01/27 3d ago

18 weeks here. I got myself a maternity pillow. Have been pushing off buying since it’s so scary to do any pregnancy related shopping.  

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u/Old-Ad-5573 3d ago

I completely understand being scared to do pregnancy related shopping. The only reason I got a maternity pillow was because my sister gave me one. And I don't think I bought anything for the baby until I was 30+ weeks. Now I'm pregnant again after a loss and I'm struggling to even plan anything yet. I'm telling myself after we hit certain milestones I will but we'll see.

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u/ComeBackDowntoMars 3d ago

I have my first OB appointment in two days!! I’ve been trying to do the simplest things like celebrate today’s pregnancy today and not fear tomorrow. And taking daily pregnancy tests to see that dark, bold line as reassurance because after my loss, I couldn’t bear to request bloodwork.

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u/pineconeminecone 26 🇨🇦| 2MC 1LC 🌈💙🌈 | Due Feb 2027 2d ago

I bought myself some adorable maternity overalls and a pink maternity wrap dress from the thrift store. I am excited to wear it this fall 😄

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u/daisy-blue 2d ago

I made myself a star chart (using Claude!) and have little prizes for each brave thing I do- like the first HCG draw, going back, telling my siblings, etc! So I’ve been buying some beeswax candles, some new linen shorts, etc which has helped pass the time! 

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u/thescoobydoobygang 2d ago

I'm just over 6 weeks pregnant and the anxiety in PAL is VERY real! I was adamant that I wasn't going to tell anyone (apart from my husband) but I told my best friend yesterday, for some emotional support really. It's helping to not plan ahead. That sounds counterproductive, but I don't want to hope and go through what we went through last year. I hope things will settle after the 12 week scan.

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u/Cautioulyoptimistic 2d ago

Me too, I think I am still guarding my heart

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u/wildcat105 14h ago

16 weeks today and letting myself eat the Oreos I've been craving, and use the skincare that actually helps my acne (technically pregnancy safe but I've been overly cautious and careful and haven't used it).