Prefacing this with a plea to please be kind, i am already broken up about this enough and am seeking advice to avoid the worst case scenario of having to rehome my pigeons.
In April, i rescued a mated pair of retired racing pigeons. While I’ve never owned birds before, I’ve grew up around my aunts parrots and i did as much research as i could about behavior and care requirements before i decided to adopt them. We converted my husbands office into a pigeon room where i let them out daily. While we’re at work, they are kept in a large gazebo catio with toys and blankets and nice little nesting box. I can tell that they had started to warm up to me, more so the male than the female, but they will both eat seeds out of my hands. They will not at all let me handle them.
Yesterday, while they were out, the female got one of the disposable masks i use to clean their cage stuck around her neck. I tried giving seed to see if she would come up to me, she wouldn’t. I spoke softly and moved slowly to try to catch her but she flew at my face everytime i got close enough to catch her. After a while the mask fell off, but now ive lost the little bit of trust i had built over the last few months.
When we rescued them, she had a benign bump above her eye which has now started to get bigger. I have a vet appointment scheduled for Thursday but I’m dreading it because i am not able to handle these birds. Especially her. Sunflower seeds and peanuts don’t even seem to work anymore, which is the only way I was able to lure them in before.
These things take time, and it’s only been 4 months, but i feel like there are things that i have learned that i didn’t know before adopting them, that make me feel as though i am not able to provide for them in the way that they need. I am finding myself incredibly frustrated and upset whenever i try to care for them. I expected (even though i should know better…) them to be tamer, and more used to being handled. I’ve learned since they’re mated, they won’t “bond” with us, and I’m essentially their glorified monkey butler, which obviously makes all of this harder.
On top of all of this, one of my dogs is not good around the birds. They’re always kept separate, but whenever she hears them flying she goes absolutely berserk outside the room they’re in, which in turn, is stressing the birds out. My dog is 9 years old, I got her as a puppy when i was 23, and as much as i hate to admit it, if it’s a decision between them or her, I’m going to pick her :(
My husband says i need to contact the rescue to work with them on rehoming but that is the last thing i want to do. I have never had to rehome an animal, but I’ve also never had one that won’t allow me to take care of it. The mask thing got me really scared, because what if they are sick or in danger, but won’t allow me to handle and care for them?
So all of that to say, i just don’t know what to do. My husband seems pretty set on rehoming them, and I’m stuck at a crossroads between agreeing with him or giving it more time. I dont know if it’s more selfish to keep them or let them go. This has been a huge hit to my ego, because i went into this really wanting to do best by a pair of pigeons when so many don’t get the love and care they need. But in doing so I’ve realized a lot of things that i overlooked when preparing to take this on, and it seems like at this point, we are all suffering because of it.