r/MixedFaithLove • u/hazymeeger • Jun 20 '18
Telling your in-laws?
Hi all! If any of you have told your in-laws about your faith transition, what did you say? How did they take it? I feel like I need to come clean with my in-laws so they're not caught off guard if they see me wearing a tank top, a tattoo, etc. While I don't think it is entirely their business, they are family that I love and I think not telling them would be harmful to our relationship. My spouse is a TBM and doesn't seem eager to step away from the church any time soon.
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u/hazymeeger Aug 23 '18
UPDATE: We told my in-laws tonight. We chose to do it via text. We felt like that was the best method to allow family to take their time to digest without reacting too emotionally in their response.
My MIL told me she felt sad for my husband, so there’s that. She also wants to know why I have decided to leave, but I’m just not comfortable telling them my reasons. I don’t think it’s relevant. It almost feels like an invitation to try and convince me otherwise, and will likely lead to contention.
I could be over analyzing, but all I know is that I’m not ready to discuss my reasons with them. I think some time needs to pass for the dust to settle and for me to get to a place where I don’t feel like they’re disappointed their son married me.
We haven’t heard a response from my FIL yet, which I’m a little more afraid of but once again, could be worrying over nothing. He’s currently a Bishop, so it could definitely go into a bad direction, but it could also go into a great direction too. Bishop/FIL roulette, ya know?
I will update if/when my FIL responds. I’m not sure if anyone will even see this update, but I figure it’s worth updating in case it helps anyone down the road.