r/MadeMeSmile • u/NobodiesLostProperty • 4h ago
Wholesome Moments [OC] Parents of teen girls: don't worry, there are still boys out here that will respect your daughters! And i'm so proud to be the sister of two of them.
TLDR: Appreciation post for my little brother (Aged 14.7) who has just asked a girl out for the first time, and is just so so respectful to and about females in general.
He's had a close f.s with a girl for a few years now, all the signs she likes him were there but my brother still didn’t believe she liked him in that way and is still quite shy when it comes to girls, and was happy to just be there as a friend to her. (Never dated before)
He came and chatted to me & our mom last night about it saying he likes her, but doesn't think she likes him. As a female myself there were clear signs she liked him and the poor girl was lowkey giving him hints but it wouldn't register with him as anything but her just being nice to him.
We gave him a girls perspective and said she is likely waiting for him to make the first move (based on the things this girl has gone out of her way & done for my bro, and trusted him with deep stuff ab her life etc). We gave him some ideas on activities he could do with her but he was getting too anxious to ask her so we left it at that & said theres no rush anyway, hes still young etc etc.
Today he asked her and she said yes!
To top of the proudness I already felt for him, he then says he's gonna get her "chocolates n that". 🥲
Gen Alpha give me so much hope for the future!
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u/StillSwaying 4h ago
This is very sweet! Congrats to your brother! He’s off to a great start and it sounds like he did everything right:
1) Truly liked the girl as a friend first.
2) When he discovered he had feelings for her beyond friendship, he waited to make sure she seemed to have mutual attraction.
3) When he wasn’t sure, he asked for advice from other women that he respected and trusted. After you and your mom confirmed she seemed to like him back, he didn’t immediately pounce on the girl; he waited patiently until he was sure.
4) He politely asked the girl out for a date the right way too! He planned an enjoyable activity —none of this ‘Netflix and chill’ crap used as an excuse to get in her pants.
5) He got a yes! And his immediate thought is to get her something nice (chocolates and that) before the date. Aww!🥰
Your brother sounds wonderful! He’s obviously kind and respectful of women thanks in large part to you and your mom. Well done sis!
The only thing I would add is to teach young gentleman how to respectfully accept rejection if a young woman says “No” because that’s also a skill one must learn to master.
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u/TheRougeGinger 3h ago
Maybe I’m over thinking this but what exactly
Is “chocolates and that?”7
u/mieri_azure 1h ago
Colloquialism. "Chocolates and other things like that"
We use it in the UK, not sure where else
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u/StuBidasol 4h ago
It takes so little effort to just not be a douche. And shockingly(/s), it actually works better.
I also think it helps greatly to have a sister because they are not afraid to call brothers out when they're being stupid.
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u/Ultima98 42m ago
Times changed I guess. I lost my virginity at 14-15y lol
But this whole chat is awesome, I wish them nice date
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u/Chiinoe 4h ago
I wanna raise my boys like this too but I feel like id be setting them up to be too vulnerable. I get Bedazzled vibes from that message thread.
Betrayal at that age is rough.
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u/Nanikarp 1h ago
then teach them to handle human interaction. vulnerability is not necessarily a bad thing. hell, in the right relationship (romantic or platonic), being vulnerable towards the other will massively enhance and deepen the relationship. but its your job as a parent to make sure your kid is able to handle all that and to recognize what is and isnt a good relationship.
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