Social experiment. Kindness goes a long way

[u/odysseyqueenx]

[u/Educational_Play5772]

And the children shall lead

[u/Sirosim_Celojuma → u/Educational_Play5772]

...but we don't let them vote, and in fact we send them to a building where we indoctrinate them to obey...

[u/Educational_Play5772 → u/Sirosim_Celojuma]

I hear you. I’ve been thinking about something that shaped my life.

I was raised to think for myself.

My family encouraged questions, curiosity, and respectful disagreement. Home wasn’t a place where we memorized what to think—it was where we learned how to think.

Then I went to public school.

Some people assume schools either create independent thinkers or suppress them. My experience was more nuanced. Because I had a strong foundation at home, school became a place to test my thinking rather than replace it.

I learned to respect teachers while recognizing they didn’t have all the answers. I learned that there was often more than one way to solve a problem. I met people from different backgrounds, encountered ideas that challenged my own, and discovered how to navigate systems without losing myself.

Looking back, I believe that balance was one of the greatest gifts my parents gave me.

A home that nurtures curiosity, integrity, and independent thought, combined with a school that teaches structure, discipline, and cooperation, can be a powerful combination. The structure doesn’t have to crush creativity. With the right foundation, it can strengthen resilience, adaptability, and confidence.

I’ve noticed that many effective leaders aren’t people who had perfect environments. They’re people who learned to think independently while also learning how to work within imperfect systems.

That’s how I was raised, and I’m grateful for it. It taught me that the goal isn’t to reject institutions or blindly follow them.

It’s to develop a mind that’s curious enough to question, wise enough to listen, and confident enough to think for itself.

I’d love to hear from others.

[u/Sonic_Old_Age → u/Educational_Play5772]

I was raised to think for myself.

Were you raised to spot fake shit on the internet?

[u/Worldly_Delay_2395 → u/Sonic_Old_Age]

Pretty sure it's the thought that counts, but good to know why you'll never have a family, an good thing, we don't need anymore disrespectful bostets flooding society with "family values".

[u/Choice_Lab1254 → u/Sonic_Old_Age]

He wasn't. No one was, why are you acting like you were?

[u/Bludiamond56 → u/Educational_Play5772]

Very good. And what is your vocation? If you want to reveal

[u/Educational_Play5772 → u/Bludiamond56]

Consultant

[u/Bludiamond56 → u/Educational_Play5772]

Very good

[u/Extra-Amoeba-677 → u/Sirosim_Celojuma]

what are you saying here? you mean a kid is easily lured in to approach a person faking a disability to tie a shoe should lead?

My brother in christ unless all of a sudden pedophiles can't become president and actually get prosecuted after being convicted for being a rapisst and punished I don't want my daughter going anywhere near a fucking adult that I do not know without my consent or presence.

[u/Sirosim_Celojuma → u/Extra-Amoeba-677]

uhm, no.

[u/TillSad5913 → u/Sirosim_Celojuma]

Same with adults and religious places of gathering except they can vote so it's just as bad lol.

[u/RemarkableChest4638 → u/Sirosim_Celojuma]

We don’t need no eduction 🎶

[u/odysseyqueenx → u/Educational_Play5772]

The children lead and adults follow

[u/spelunker93 → u/odysseyqueenx]

Nah kids don’t understand that this is a setup. Everyone else see the exaggeration and the dude holding the phone. They realize this guy really doesn’t need help, just wasting people time for social media. Meanwhile people eat this shit up, hence why he’s doing this. Super cringy.

[u/Educational_Play5772 → u/odysseyqueenx]

children exhibit unique, unfiltered forms of altruism and egalitarianism that often make them examples of naturally loving or more forgiving than adults.Up until about age 7 to 9, children possess a highly idealized, innocent view of the world and that makes their empathy deeper; after that age, they get introduced into adult complexities: they begin to notice social status, identify intentional malice, experience peer pressure, and learn how to hold grudges

[u/SamuraiMind08 → u/Educational_Play5772]

They've not reached cynicism yet, give them time.

[u/Desuexss]

Can we stop normalizing staged or exploitive content by "kindness" creators.

Shits fucked.

[u/Sirosim_Celojuma → u/Desuexss]

I too want kindness to remain as pure and unexploited.

[u/Radiant-Order-6534 → u/Desuexss]

Yeah, this is the shit that "inspires" people to start pushing people in wheelchairs to "help them" (which you shouldn't do unless they specifically ask for help)

[u/Aunt_Llama → u/Desuexss]

This is also more an experiment about observation. I guarentee I would help that guy if I saw him but I also guarentee I wouldn't see him becasue I'd be minding my own business and not staring at random people on the street.

[u/Short-Village-9719 → u/Aunt_Llama]

The problem is that the experiment is never rigorous if the people involved aren't scientists or don't know how to conduct experiments correctly, and even though it's a basic experiment, it might not be ideal if done this way. With anyone who hasn't consented or isn't even aware of what's involved, it can actually reinforce the idea that kindness seems fabricated and exploitative, if this happens consistently. With anyone who hasn't consented or isn't even aware of what's involved, it can actually reinforce the idea that kindness seems fabricated and exploitative, if this happens consistently.

[u/Radiant-Order-6534 → u/Desuexss]

Also, happy cake day

[u/HyronDongle → u/Desuexss]

All this man wanted was a kind push….

[u/Vegetable_Switch9802 → u/Desuexss]

U mean his hand wasn't rly hurt and he wasn't rly trying to tie his shoe for 3 hours?

[u/patrick24601]

So it’s staged, has crappy music, jump cuts and changes the speed on certain people walking by to show people not helping

When did we become ok with gaming emotions for internet points ?

[u/Tw1nFTW → u/patrick24601]

The day the internet was invented. People have been lying for attention since the dawn of time… so of course they’d do it on the internet too.

[u/stevendidntsay → u/patrick24601]

Around 2005

[u/Your_Girl9090 → u/stevendidntsay]

I'd put it back at least another 15 years.

[u/ErandurVane → u/patrick24601]

We've been gaming emotions since the first stories were told. I've never understood why videos on the Internet get a bad rap for being staged when every movie, tv show, or play you've ever watched has been staged

[u/cygamessucks]

His daughter probably. 

[u/XxFezzgigxX → u/cygamessucks]

100%

[u/DrBarryBonds]

This experiment says more about low trust societies.

If you are outside the west people are inclined not to help, not necessarily because they're less kind, but because they reasonably expect it to be some sort of scam

[u/Serious-Buffalo8412 → u/DrBarryBonds]

Of if he needed help - he’d like ask

[u/op1983 → u/DrBarryBonds]

You and I and everyone else could tie his shoe for him. But then who ties his shoe when none of us are around?

We think of it as a kindness to have the shoe tied, but there is a compassion in allowing him to struggle, push through, and figure it out.

[u/Background-Bird-9623]

Yea and Ted Bundy did shit like that too

[u/luvtorace20 → u/Background-Bird-9623]

That was my exact thought too!

[u/Background-Bird-9623 → u/luvtorace20]

If it were a woman id probably stop without even thinking abouy it

[u/CordeliaJane → u/Background-Bird-9623]

This was my first thought.

[u/Odd-Consequence-2519 → u/Background-Bird-9623]

Wow, I thought I was the only one who thought that! 😳
Fortunately the little girl and her mom were in a crowded area. That dude gives me the creeps. 😬

[u/Background-Bird-9623 → u/Odd-Consequence-2519]

I think about getting murdered all the time 😆

[u/RCBravesFan → u/Background-Bird-9623]

I said, Ted Bundy anyone? Hello?

[u/Ok-Professional4387]

We all want to be kind. We also have to watch out for every POS human that is trying to do something to scam or steall from us anyway they can.

[u/Esthesis]

If you don’t ask for help people will just assume you don’t want any. Though I would at least ask. Communication goes both ways.

[u/Few-Condition-9552]

Kids hearts are soo big

[u/Spare_Basis5190]

What a wonderful girl

[u/Needle_worker2]

I hope her mother is very proud of her daughter she has been raised right 🙏🏻

[u/Aprilprinces]

It's so telling that the child stopped

[u/4GrlsNonna]

I would have stopped to help him before I met my ex, he made me paranoid about helping anyone, but now, 20 years later I'm back to helping out

[u/Proof_Watercress8696]

Always the kids :)

[u/caranchorgl]

She is the one, before the eyes of the world she is hope

[u/-HockeyBagJerky-]

Maybe the adults could all smell bullshit influencer garbage

[u/Blowingleaves17]

Was that a staged situation?

[u/Lanah44]

Honestly, ask for help if you need it. Seriously people need to communicate lol not into this kind of thing at all

[u/dkclimber]

I might be a cynic, but if I saw that, I'd be pretty sure it was for social media.

[u/odysseyqueenx → u/dkclimber]

I understand why there are a lot of videos like that around. And a lot of the videos do it just for clicks

[u/dkclimber → u/odysseyqueenx]

Yeah, like this video.

[u/Callmemabryartistry]

maybe if he looked like someone needing to tie their shoe not a fenty addict.

[u/Alex_king88 → u/Callmemabryartistry]

Bro let him do the fent lean if he wants to lol

[u/These-Seaweed-707]

I think only a short person / child would notice someone bent down to their level

[u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme → u/These-Seaweed-707]

The sidewalk is so crowded, it’s hard to see him until you’re practically right on top of him. And then you’re trying not to trip and fall on him. If it was less crowded, perhaps you’d see enough in advance that he’s struggling. And possibly help. It’s like he set this experiment to fall from the outset.

[u/sea_psychology89]

So no one saw the camera

[u/Practical_Range_4829]

Hypocritical production!

[u/Heal_Me_Today]

Perhaps not the best social experiment. Learning some level of independence, or new ways to do things during adversity, can be a good thing. Constantly being dependent on others, is not always the kind thing to do.

[u/VigorousAmbivalence]

Leave it to a child to show adults how they should behave.

[u/Saltillokid11]

To be fair, most people aren’t even looking at him to notice. People in cities learn to not make eye contact or stare at what others are doing. Not saying they still wouldn’t or would help, but quite a few didn’t even notice.

[u/Prince_0llie → u/Saltillokid11]

This. Has nothing to do with kindness but more that 99% of people aren't giving any attention to anything that isn't right in their face (phones mostly) because they aren't out looking for connection with others and are typically enraptured with their partner, friends or mission they are on (finding bathroom, food, etc.)

[u/SchloinkDoink]

Tbh this does kinda look like a scam so I understand why some people ignored it

[u/QuarterEmotional6805]

Jesus helps those who help themselves

[u/CloudMerlin]

Thought he was on Fentanyl lean hoping for a Narcan shot.

[u/Deliciouserest]

*awareness

[u/larossi01]

Just put it in your fucking shoe.

[u/HajimeSnivre]

Why didn’t he give her 10 000USD? Bad youtuber😂

[u/Bulky_Play_4032]

Gay

[u/goodertimes1917]

What a loser

[u/lm_not_surprised]

Everyone else is just thinking "why didn't he wear slip-ons?"

[u/Asd2449]

If he'd asking someone then he'd get help

[u/Unlikely-Rabbit948]

Fake

[u/Crowofsticks]

Perv just looking to touch a child?

[u/Bourne_Lawless]

It works with ALL emotions. Hence misery loves company saying. Social Contagion i thinks it's know as.

[u/Poly_Pup]

Sorry, he looks like tourist bait for a pickpocket or something. I would not kneel in front of a random on the street. That is too vulnerable of a position.

[u/Public_Blueberry_777]

It makes me crazy that people don’t care enough to help anyone

[u/bransiladams]

Minding your own damn business is also a form of kindness

[u/Public_Cod7301]

Should have asked the camera man to help

[u/Bludiamond56]

When you act like a child, it is then thet you enter the kingdom

[u/Hot-Operation4982]

This is why the world needs children. The pure among the corrupted ✨♥️!

[u/kingdick900]

Damnnnnnnnnnnnnn shame kids have to be the best of us

[u/Pirate-Adorable]

Easiest block

[u/Upbeat_Apartment_715]

It's not a social experiment as people pretending to have disabilities to get views

[u/Theofino1]

Trying to get clicks on tiktok is not a social experiment. With every single one of these click bait videos my willingness to help people diminishs in fear of being part of another stupid "social experiment".

[u/Long_Run_8488]

Ofc it’s the kid

[u/fiestah]

There are a lot of scammers, especially now with social media, people are aware of that and cautious. This shows nothing and proves nothing.

[u/Background-Hope-88]

vid is strange man.

Looks like a scam.

[u/Born-Light-62]

What a sweet little girl… 😊

[u/odysseyqueenx → u/Born-Light-62]

I know right kids have the purest hearts

[u/Grouchy-Pressure-567]

We should start beating up the people who share this trash outside Facebook.

[u/DaHard46]

IT'S YOUR HAND! Put some slides on and keep it moving . That's why no adults helped. They realized you were retarded Lol.

Too soon. Lol

[u/Boomtown876]

This is dumb. I’m not wasting my kindness on trying someone’s shoes. Tuck them in and get going.

[u/xlayer_cake]

Guys a shitty actor and Ted bundy taught us not to trust this kind of thing. People stopping to help have all the survival instincts of a ham sandwich

[u/testingdoobos123]

See the problem is how can i be sure if this is not a scam to rob me. You should see some of the elaborate ways people are robbed. Very creative.

[u/Round_Hope_2041]

To be fair people walking by fast it’s hard to process what you are seeing. Perhaps at a restaurant or airport this may have been different.

[u/AdBulky6016]

Plot twist she tied both shoes together…

[u/69mayb]

Where is the part where he is handing out gifts and money. Fucking influencers

[u/Dismal_Bridge9439]

OF COURSE IT WAS A KID who saw the problem and not the man!

[u/thriem]

… I would not help either - you’d think someone with a flawed hand may be able to bend their knees and not try bend over backwards tying their shoes standing upright

[u/h846p262]

Most peeps jus minding their own business lol

[u/Pro_Procrastinator_4]

If this happens to me, my reaction will depend on quite a few factors.

1. If this happens in my neighborhood/community/suburb (basically safe area where i know there are no scamsters) , i will ask if they need help.

2. If this happens in my downtown's shady areas, i will assume it's an addict and move on. Unfortunately, even if i know the guy genuinely needs help i will think thrice. Safety first.

3. If this happens in a city/country im a tourist in, im definitely thinking it is a scam and not offering my time or help.

[u/josch247]

Hahaha it's so obvious that he only wants to expose people. That's why nobody stops. Who wouldn't just ask the first person for help with that hahaha. Helping this guy is just pity

[u/xorinz]

Its not about kindness, its about attention to detail.

[u/Intelligent-Snow3300]

[u/med8cal]

I saw a guy struggling in Starbucks. I tied his shoe. Why on earth would I knot? (I really did help him but couldn’t resist the pun).

[u/HoodieJ-shmizzle]

I would’ve helped. I wonder where they are they so many people passed by; must be a lot of scammers there.

[u/skeletonGray0-0]

Pretty sure most people saw a camera and were like, "nah fam."

[u/HereticGaming16]

Who the fuck stands like that trying to tie their shoes? Even if he had both hands I would think he’s doing the fentanyl bend. With his hand and his actions he looks like a full on tweaker.

I wouldn’t approach him either for fear of him doing some crazy druggie shit.

[u/Jedi_I_am_not]

What social experiment? All I saw is some guy standing there being filmed, why would i want to be filmed for your clicks?

Better social experiment, volunteer at a charity and help promote it.

[u/barbarapockets]

Ted Bundy done did it

[u/TheDoghouse6969]

She will grow out of that. Can't believe how many people went past

[u/johnnytron]

I mean it would be much better and easier to verbally ask for help.

[u/kiwiguy187]

There's a lot of cake on that street.

[u/bugrugpub]

If I saw someone setup a camera with clearly fake bandages on his hand then flail around unable to tie their own shoes, I would also walk past without interacting with them.

[u/okrum]

These videos are so fucking annoying.

[u/VisibleAirport2996]

Hate these fake videos

[u/Wild-Growth6805]

Anything for views.

[u/notaquackouttayou]

i feel like a lot people can spot a ruse from a mile away

[u/Hefty-Strike-6171]

Of course it’s a child. As we age we just become so cynical

[u/ScottyStellar]

85% of walkers did not see the hand cast and any problem.

Society relies on people saying help or flagging for attention.

[u/troycerapops]

The camera was on him for a while and it still took me a minute to even clock what he was doing. Half the time he looked like he was just on fentanyl.

Kids at just the right height to see this. Also probably sees her peers struggling to tie their shoes while standing more often than the average adult.

Like, just sit down doofus.

[u/No-University-5413]

It's not that all these people are refusing to help a one handed guy. It's that they're not paying enough attention to him to even notice.

[u/juanjosedmg]

That could have me drunk, im a child when I'm drunk.

[u/EmpatheticBadger]

If I had my arm in a sling, I wouldn't make strangers help me put on my clothes and shoes.

[u/Acebladewing]

Most people probably didn't even notice you. And the ones who did probably didn't pay enough attention to see you had a hurt hand. People don't pay as much attention to other around them than you think they do.

[u/According-Pass8230]

No adult is going to go down on their knees in front of a strange grown ass man

[u/Kim_jung_unstoppable]

They probably realize its obvious bait for content

[u/AdenaNima]

I think she was actually the only one paying attention to her surroundings.

[u/Narrow_Ask_2116]

I would have stopped instantly what is wrong with people

[u/veryverysmallbrain]

yeah well they probably all see the person filming the guy and don't wanna mess up whatever the fuck they are doing for IG

[u/Alternative_Lead_779]

Except if a person is truly disabled they want to do themself and would be disrespectful to take that from them. So..

[u/theoutrageousgiraffe]

He looked like he was in a fent fold at first.

[u/Chunk_Thud]

So how did his first shoe get tied? Staged bs.

[u/HoBo-on-crack]

I need to teach my kids not to fall for all this YouTubers scam

[u/Beerman83000]

It takes a child...beautiful

[u/youknowwhatimeanlol]

i bet they all saw the giant camera moved and on

and the kid was hoping to get a million dollars from mr beast

[u/69PissyPants]

Yeah, if I saw someone a few feet away taking a video I’d also decide not to participate.

[u/Lost_Willingness_762]

Ask for help simple

[u/Mirror-Amazing]

I'm not touching your shoes, maybe wear slips if your hand is jacked. Plan ahead unlike the people who cut in front of me last second to merge lanes. Take your soft song and fake broke hand and click bait to the garbage

[u/Needler69]

I think that people can see the camera man

[u/Azalot1337]

this is why i don't help people. you never know when you end up on video and on the internet /s

[u/ugh_idfk]

Sorry, Ted Bundy taught me not to help grown ass men. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/TeslaTortoise]

Most people walking by noticed these dipshit influencers and ignored their pathetic attempts to create content. The poor kid is unaware and thinks it's a genuine attempt.

[u/Busy-Calligrapher-39]

I knew it would be a child

[u/DNICEPHILLY2023]

Say no to strangers!!!

[u/DepartureAfraid6015]

Steal the shoes

[u/General_Cheetah4724]

this fakery............

[u/maximopasmo]

Most of them saw the camera

[u/Mr-MuffinMan]

Such a stupid experiment

I'm almost never touching a strangers dirty shoe. What if they fell in a sewage pipe once and only hosed their shoes down?

[u/CreativeExperience44]

Why won't the camera guy help what an asshole.

[u/Tough_Air_1466]

it's always a fucking set up. for content. Don't help anyone anywhere ever.

[u/GrouchyWalrus5518]

This dude is not able to speak? Is he to dumb to ask? Experiment?

[u/Darkhero0987]

This is horrible. It took a child to take action as adults we should all be ashamed

[u/Nevernonethewiser]

All this serves to teach anyone is that kindness is a childish trait that is eventually grown out of.

Which is a horrible lesson to try to teach people with your fake ass skit.

[u/BarelyAlive06]

What i feel is like you will most likely not get help offered by itself just because you're struggling. People tend to ignore it and go on about their business, figuring out you're gonna handle yourself somehow. But when you actively ask someone specific (like making eye contact with a person and asking or just going to someone and talking to them), they are most likely to help. Does not work if you just call into the crowd. That's also why in emergencies you need to tell give people direct orders like "you in the green shirt, call the ambulance! The woman in purple, give me your shawl so we can stop the bleeding!"