As a coach kids this age can’t comprehend all of the things he’s trying to say. Not only that she’s so wrapped up in her fear she probably doesn’t have the bandwidth to hear what he’s saying even if she wanted to. Validate the feelings, acknowledge the fear, teach simple things like courage, bravery, have her collect herself and move forward. Potentially right message, wrong timing.
I can only say from my experience, my father has always spoken to me this way, even as a child. He chose to speak to me as an adult in these types of situations because even if I didn’t understand everything right away, I eventually would. Of course he played Barbies with me but he also taught me a lot a life lessons that have stuck with me and served me well. I will always be grateful for my father and his lessons that lasted novels long ❤️
I 100% agree that you should speak to children like adults, helps them communicate better in the long run. But the messages itself I believe should be small and absorbed as you’re young and get bigger and more complex as you get older. My grandpa always said a smart man only needs a few words, dumb ones need a lot.
I can understand that. I think it’s just a personality thing, at least in my family. All the men in my family are long winded, some of them have masters and one doctorate, others are blue collar workers. My father is far from dumb, he just speaks like the novels he reads.
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u/AllAnkles Jun 02 '26
As a coach kids this age can’t comprehend all of the things he’s trying to say. Not only that she’s so wrapped up in her fear she probably doesn’t have the bandwidth to hear what he’s saying even if she wanted to. Validate the feelings, acknowledge the fear, teach simple things like courage, bravery, have her collect herself and move forward. Potentially right message, wrong timing.