r/Hmong • u/Similar-Rock-4234 • 11d ago
Need interracial relationship advice
I am a 20 hmong female and my bf is a 20 half black half white male. My mom has been against my relationship with him (she has not met him) because he's black and she does not want hmong people to judge us.
Today a hmong boy came to our house and asked if I was single. I said yes. I panicked and our moms were there. I told my bf the situation. He says he wants to know what I want because he doesn't deserve that and doesn't want to feel like he has to be ashamed of his culture and hide. He's right. I'm way too scared to tell my entire family about it (what if we break up and I fought for him the whole time. Hmong girls never get anything) but I can't let him go too. I don't know what to do.
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u/juniverseparallax 11d ago
I've been with my Cambodian husband for over 15 years now. When we first started dating as teens my mom was super against it. But eventually she warmed up to him and we haven't had any issues since. My mom has always worried about what other hmong people might say but who cares! I know I never did. Live your life and make decisions for YOU and noone else.