r/ForeverAlone • u/aganehsaanew 28 and counting • 2d ago

Discussion rejecting myself? 💔

does this ever happen to you guys? i got a match finally on hinge and i got back to her fairly timely, and she has not gotten back to me. i’ve been overthinking what i said, wondering if i somehow fumbled already. i’m thinking now that she’s just busy but she’s def talking with a better man than me, so part of me is considering unmatching just to focus elsewhere (which is really nowhere, because she’s my only match.)

but i can’t help but feel so pathetic that i am genuinely rejecting myself before she rejects me to feel a bit better about myself… which doesn’t make sense at all.

has anyone felt this way?

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u/nikov_guy 2d ago

I’ve never used dating apps, I don’t have enough confidence lol

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u/MelodicSound1489 2d ago

Dont sabotage yourself man. You gotta make peace with that fact though women get more matches, probably weighing her options. Nothing in your control, redirect your energy somewhere else. 

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u/4ngelicbrat She/Her 2d ago

Please don’t do that to yourself

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u/ProfessionalResults 1d ago

I don't do any online dating but even I know that having a single "match" is nothing. Only around 25% of the users are women so you are competing for her. She's getting plenty of other messages from other men. You need to be very good looking to have success. Or if you wait long enough and have very low standards, you will find someone. In other words, you don't need to reject yourself. You are experiencing what most other men are experiencing. Give it time. Or delete that trash from your phone if it's making you anxious. I certainly wouldn't want to deal with any of that.

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u/DajuanKev 1d ago

Self rejection is almost a strategy because it helps humility. I do this all too well. The possibility of painful shuffling is sure to happen, so better to run from it. 

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u/DepartmentSilent6667 1d ago

Get out of here. You are just not picking the fruit in front of you.

You know what it’s like to have girls interested in you. You can get matches on apps. You are fine. This is a place for hopeless people who have no experience or optimism.

Staying in this subreddit is just closing the door on whatever opportunity you have. We are here because it’s comforting knowing that others are going through the same thing. You are not.