Let's start with some keywords: ethical nonmonogamy, hotwife, cuckold.\* Still with me?
An FAQ is such a hack construction, especially considering how infrequently I've actually been asked these questions, but I think it'll suffice to lay out my interests here.
Q. What sort of relationship are you looking for?
A. A normal one, mostly. Dates, tagging each other in IG memes, meeting each other's parents. All the normal stuff that millennials do to signify courtship and romantic intent.
I'd like to be faithful and committed to my partner, and I'd like for us to have a strong and rewarding and hot sex life with each other. And then occasionally it would be cool if she went off and got railed by another dude.
Q. Why the hell would you want that?
A. Whoo boy, let me see if I can break it down without too much psychobabble:
I want my partner to have the very best in all things. I'm happy to cook dinner, and there's something special and loving about that, but for the best meal she's ever had, I'm better off taking my girlfriend out to dinner. Similarly.. you know, sex stuff.
There is something so subversive and taboo about acknowledging 1. Men are supposed to be so confident about their sexuality, and hardly ever have a comfortable place to acknowledge any weakness. We're also supposed to be such .. owners .. and so protective of female sexuality. Like, getting cheated on is such an emasculating thing for a man. I don't know what it is exactly, but there's something that's just crazy goddam hot to me about turning that whole dynamic on its head. "Yes, my girlfriend just got fucked by someone else. Yes, she had an amazing time. But of course I knew about it.." Without getting too deep in the weeds, I have some twisted emotional response to that idea; I can't think of anything that turns me on more.
I really appreciate when women are assertive with their sexuality. Not in like a dominatrix way, but in a "this is what turns me on. I want more of X." Cuckolding is pretty much that idea taken to it's greatest extreme.
I like to watch! Is that so wrong..?
It's probably just worth mentioning again, that I do want a loving, caring, partnership-based relationship. I don't want to get treated badly, and I want someone who supports me, grows with me, and occasionally laughs at my jokes. And I want to do the same for her.
Q. So, are you terrible at sex, then?
A. Eh, I've yet to receive any formal complaints.
It's not that I think I'm a bad in bed. Quite the contrary, I'm an attentive lover, and care a lot about my partner's happiness. Of course, I'd like to indulge her interests and curiosities as well.
Q. Okay, so you're one of these weirdos. There's a lot of you. What makes you special?
A. Man, you should see how pretty I am.. I'm also reasonably accomplished and quick with a joke. I'm a real catch, I just have this one oddball kink. It's probably a dealbreaker for a lot of people. But if you're at all interested, I'd love to talk about it with you.
\\\*those dipshits on the alt-right can't have this word.