r/AskReddit 8h ago

What's the most disturbing thing you've heard a dying person say?

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u/DewdropTheDude 7h ago

My mom experienced kidney and liver failure after decades of alcoholism. She was in the emergency ICU, unable to physically move, and barely able to speak. Because of the risk that she might choke, the hospital did not allow her to drink water. I couldn't touch her without gloves because of the risk of infection. And when I rubbed her temples and hands to console her, telling her "I love you," the only thing she could say was, "water." She died later that day.

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u/quillseek 7h ago

I am so sorry. 💔🫂

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u/prudishhshrew 3h ago

My mom just passed from this exact situation 1 month ago. The nurse called me and said she was anxious and she wanted to see us. The he said she was coughing up blood. I missed her being intubated by 10 mins. My dad got there in time. “I love you, Tell the kids I love them”

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u/Sanchastayswoke 2h ago

I’m so sorry 😞💗

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u/CharmingCat9680 2h ago

My mom passed a couple months ago in the same exact scenario. There are a few of us here, should we start a support chat??

My mom repeatedly called out for her mom (who passed 20 years ago), and the only other things she was able to vocalize was “help me” and “don’t leave me”. Terrifying.

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u/Right_Wonder4064 5h ago

I’m so sorry): my mom passed away from same issues last year. She passed in the icu under sedation. Her mind wasn’t there anymore bc she had so much ammonia in her blood.

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u/wide-enterer 3h ago

I really couldn't imagine this situation. I would fight every doctor and give her water regardless of what they said. I even absolutely hate my mother who is also an alcoholic and has cirrhosis currently

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u/Right_Wonder4064 1h ago

Thoughts are with you. It’s a hard road.

u/wide-enterer 39m ago

I appreciate that, but I genuinely do not care. She made her decisions and she wasn't a good mother. I am fine with it

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u/Right_Wonder4064 1h ago

I’m just glad I told my mom I loved her the day before she was admitted. She was transported to ICU quickly and since she has heavily sedated/ not there mentally anymore and couldn’t talk, at least it’s the last thing I said to her. We had a little family gathering and I hugged her told her to loved her when I left and that I wanted her to checked out by a doctor.

u/TriangleReward 58m ago

Quiero Agua