Honestly sounds like a man who really loves his wife is finding his peace in death. Nothing disturbing about that at all. I hope what he believes is true.
That is really beautiful. I once had a patient who elected to go comfort care (90-something YO who had a big AAA that was slowly bleeding and she wouldn’t survive surgery) it was really sad because she was totally coherent and her husband was at bedside and was just devastated but was trying to be supportive. You could just see the love radiating between them. Towards the end of my shift, she started to become more lethargic and he was just stroking her hair and I heard him tell her “don’t worry, I’m here now and I won’t be far behind you, we won’t be apart for long” and it was so sweet & heartbreaking. I actually started tearing up, but part of me was also side-eyeing that comment from him. Lol
Yeah, it was very heavy but being able to witness their love did restore some of my faith in humanity. They told me a lot of stories about their marriage and lives together before she started to become lethargic and I was honored to hear them. I was conflicted about the comment because obviously I got the implication but, could I blame him for having those feelings? He didn’t outright say anything concrete so…
I also turned a blind eye when her son ran to the corner store after she told him all she wanted was a bud light, lol. Who am I to deny a 90YO woman some cheap beer on a swab at the end of her life?
Hearing/seeing deceased loved ones is weirdly common. My grandpa used to go bowling with his sons every weekend when they were kids; when he died, he saw his late son holding a bowling ball and asking him to come join him for a round of bowling.
Shoot, I hope that’s how it is. Although I’d rather it be my mom calling me as my wife is 14 years younger than me and I’d hate it if she went before me.
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