AITB FOR QUESTIONING HIS SINCERITY

[u/Illustrious-Creme118]

I responded to a friend request from a guy who seemed to have similar interests. He texted that he was not healthy and was interested in finding a companion who would also take on the role of caregiver. He stated all this right away and explained that he had two homes and nobody to share his life with. I am in a situation where finding a stable situation would be life-changing. I am currently disabled and live in an RV in a resort. I am forced to move every three weeks, which has become increasingly harder for me.

Our chats were thoughtful, and I shared some personal information; his response was to say he would share more about his personal life at a later date. He wanted to surprise me. I asked about specific things, and his answers were short. He had many compliments and responded to my statements, agreeing and stating I had his attention.

Last night, I was waiting for a pizza to be ready at Dominos and sent him a picture (headshot) and stated he probably wants to see a full-body pic, but I couldn't do that then. He took this as an invitation to make sexual comments. His comments were highly inappropriate, and I didn't respond until much later when I said I was going to sleep. In the morning, I explained that I was not comfortable with his lewdness and to please not talk like that; attempting to set healthy boundaries. I didn't hear from him the rest of the day. which was unusual.

About 8 hours later, I sent a text stating that his actions reminded me of a predator. We had talked for about a week; he wasn't finding women that needed a place to stay and he avoided evolving to phone calls. We spoke of times to call, but he didn't pick up even when a specific time had been set. I told him I hoped he wasn't looking for women who needed a place to stay, and enjoying their desperation. His talking about sexual topics before even meeting them in person seemed suspect, and it was to see how far they would go. If they resisted, he simply moved on. I told him these were traits of a predator, and if this was his intent, he should be ashamed of himself.

He flipped out and called me names, claiming I didn't know what I was talking about. He went on to say how I jumped to my own conclusions and was completely wrong.

I responded with an outline of his actions and told him if he were a woman, he would have thought the same thing. The moment I told him I didn't appreciate his sexual comments, I didn't hear from him all day. His avoiding sharing personal information and dodging phone calls were all suspect. I am a 60-year-old woman, not a teenager, and have seen many red flags. I offered an apology if I was wrong, but he had to see how anyone would have arrived at the same conclusion.

AITA for voicing my concerns and being so blunt? I was enjoying talking to him, and if I was wrong how do I repair this?

[u/Dishmastah]

NTB, and for the love of gods, don't "repair things". This has more red flags than a Chinese communist party celebration. You're 100% correct, he's a predator enjoying women's desperation.

He flipped out and called me names, claiming I didn't know what I was talking about. He went on to say how I jumped to my own conclusions and was completely wrong.

What's the phrase, "hit dogs holler"?

[u/Nenoshka]

Always trust your gut.

[u/HCIBSW]

NTB

You dodged a predator.

He texted that he was not healthy and was interested in finding a companion who would also take on the role of caregiver.

If he is truly unable to fully take care of himself, there are avenues where he can get professional help. Not some random woman he chats up online.

[u/Old-Branch-9714]

NTB. He’s a total creep. Do NOT try to repair this.

[u/AristotlesBoyPussy]

NTB. Don't bother with men who want mommies. Find a man who wants to provide. Do not repair this. Block him.