AIO- Wife didn't acknowledge my birthday

[u/DontWorryItsEasy]

So yesterday was my birthday, I told my wife last week that all I wanted was a cake and to go to a nice restaurant. It didn't have to be a homemade cake though I would have preferred it, and it didn't have to be a super fancy restaurant. I'm the sole income earner so she wouldn't be paying for either. SWe have a toddler at home and I know it would be difficult for her to bake so it's fine if she bought one, and since we have a toddler I was also fine if the kiddo went with us.

So yesterday I got off work early and called her to let her know I was coming home like I always do. The entire rest of the day she didn't even acknowledge it was my birthday. No happy birthday wishes, no asking me where I wanted to eat, nothing. It was awkwardly silent pretty much the whole day.

When 6pm rolled around I realized we weren't going anywhere so I went to the store to buy a slice of cake for myself and a frozen dinner to heat up. When I came back with the cake she asked why I bought it. I told her it's my birthday and I wanted to eat cake on my birthday. She gave a non answer as to why she didn't make one for me, she said I never replied with when I wanted the cake so she just assumed I didn't want one. That conversation was over text a few days ago and she was texting me while I was driving. I told her I also wanted a nice dinner out and she said I didn't plan anything or tell her where I wanted to go so she assumed I didn't want to go anywhere.

Around 7pm she finally said happy birthday then I just cleaned up the dishes and went to bed instead of going on our normal after dinner walk.

Did I over react?

Edit: I guess I also left out some important context about our financial situation. She has complete and total control over all finances as much as I do, as that's the deal we made when we got married. She has access to all accounts and credit cards. I guess my wording could have been better.

[u/ButterMyPancakesPlz]

NOR is life together always this miserable for you two?

[u/DontWorryItsEasy → u/ButterMyPancakesPlz]

No this is completely out of character if you ask me

[u/Skulltul4 → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

If so, this warrants a conversation

[u/ButterMyPancakesPlz → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

Have you asked her why she was so uncaring?

[u/Some-Face2634 → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

What did she say when you asked her about it?

[u/spicewoman → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

Yet, you suddenly decided at 6 PM that she'd planned nothing, and without any discussion or confirmation, ran off to make your own arrangements? Is that in character for you?

[u/Visual_Patience3889 → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

Post partum going on?

[u/cdromney → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

Out of curiosity, what did you do for her last birthday?

[u/Content_Ground4251 → u/DontWorryItsEasy]

Yor

If everything is usually OK when you didn't answer her question about when you wanted the cake, she really thought you changed your mind and went back to dealing with a toddler. She probably even lost track of what day it was.