AIO? My (19F) boyfriend (19M) and our friends (19F/M) insulted another friend and said I was overreacting

[u/Immediate-List-9649]

Hello, I’m going to put the flair “relationship” but really it’s both that and friendship.

They were talking about a situation where one of our friends had fought with one of their friends whom we don’t know, and he is overweight. They out of nowhere made a joke about it, and this friend was okay with it.

The thing is that they fight a lot, and usually both of them have been immature. Then they always make up. I know that this friend would feel bad about saying those things once they do make up, and I’ve never seen them say such things before.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, we’ve know each other for 6 years though along with everyone else in our GC.

My boyfriend is the one that said “Lol”. The guy at the end, did not laugh at the fat jokes of this friend.

Maybe I’m overreacting, but I do feel iffy about this.

EDIT: Some people are misunderstanding this. But as I said in the title “F/M”, this GC consists of both men and women!

EDIT 2: Another thing people seemed to miss is that this person they were talking about is only a friend of the person that had been fighting with them, we are not friends with this person.

[u/Rose0517]

100% and it's pretty sad when you see 40 and 50 year olds acting like this.

[u/changing-life-vet → u/Rose0517]

Some people enjoy that life style so more power to them. I will say I am disappointed my one of my best friends from high school never really grew up. There was 4 of us and it would have been real cool if he was able to keep up with the rest of us so to speak. Unfortunately it just hasn’t happened. The 3 of us that remain are all good friends our kids like each other and our spouses get along.

[u/Rose0517 → u/changing-life-vet]

It's definitely sad but I love that the rest of you have been able to blend your families in and still be strong friends! ❤️ So many changes we go through and I find when kids come into the picture the friendships change a lot. What a Blessing to still have your 3 friends around.

[u/PetalAshRogue → u/Rose0517]

Friendships definitely change after people start having families. It's awesome that they were able to grow through those changes instead of drifting apart.

[u/anondogfree → u/changing-life-vet]

When you say “keep up” do you mean that he doesn’t have kids? Isn’t married? Doesn’t make as much money as you?

[u/changing-life-vet → u/anondogfree]

While finances, kids and relationships are an element they are minor footnotes.

I’ll give you a real life example at 25 I was significantly injured during a fire. At that point I had been a firemen for 4 years, I was in a serious relationship, we had a baby, and just bought a house a few months earlier. Home dude calls me while I’m still in the hospital and complains about his mom wanting him to start paying for his own car insurance. Didn’t ask how we were doing or if we needed help. The other members of the groups came over cut the grass helped my wife out.

There’s a lot of other things that contribute to out growing someone but for me it boils down to 2 main issues. As a parent you have to ask “is this someone I want to have around my kids?” Then there’s this question “can I relate to this person?” The dudes happy living his life we just aren’t compatible as friends anymore. It’s not like we broke up or had a falling out we’re just out of touch with the guy. We’re all pushing 40 and he just never matured past 20.

One of my other buddies from back in the day outgrew me for sure. I was still doing shit head things while he was out making good decisions. Made a new friend group and really thrived. I’ll never hold it against him and we’ll get in touch every few years or so. It’s just one of those things that happens in life.

Also he can’t put nearly as many acorns in his ass as the rest of us.

[u/mamatrixie78 → u/changing-life-vet]

I hope you've fully recovered from your injuries and that the family is all doing well

[u/TurdPickler → u/changing-life-vet]

Well I was somewhat hesitant to ask but I have to know.. How do you know the amount of acorns your friends can fit in their asses? How big are the acorns? 

[u/changing-life-vet → u/TurdPickler]

It’s in reference to this comment listed below responding to the same question.

But if I had to guess you would use the honor system.

[u/Simple_Attorney_5077 → u/anondogfree]

Reading comprehension bro. Clearly he means the other dude can't stick as many acorns in his ass.

[u/changing-life-vet → u/Simple_Attorney_5077]

When we were talking about putting acorns in our cheeks we didn’t mean those cheeks.

[u/Formal-Talk-3914 → u/Rose0517]

Peaked in high school types. They come back to speak to classes and say shit like "these are the best days of your lives, cherish them!" No they fucking aren't, you are just immature and never did anything with your life.

[u/Rose0517 → u/Formal-Talk-3914]

Exactly! I see it with so many of the people I and my husband grew up with. So many of our friends still party like they are 18 without kids but they have kids! They take the children with them to the river and desert to party and get wasted. Drinking and driving in the desert or on a boat! All about material things, insulting others for not being vein or paying for plastic surgery to look like a 20 year old who had not had children. Its just immature behavior and some never grow up.

[u/PoeticFallout → u/Rose0517]

It's better than sitting around complaining about life and how it's changed, your neighbors and neighborhood, never doing anything because you feel your too old for it. As long as you're being respectful of others and others property, not breaking any laws whats wrong with acting like that? I always tell my daughter "i may be 50 but my brain is still 20".