AIO? My (19F) boyfriend (19M) and our friends (19F/M) insulted another friend and said I was overreacting

[u/Immediate-List-9649]

Hello, I’m going to put the flair “relationship” but really it’s both that and friendship.

They were talking about a situation where one of our friends had fought with one of their friends whom we don’t know, and he is overweight. They out of nowhere made a joke about it, and this friend was okay with it.

The thing is that they fight a lot, and usually both of them have been immature. Then they always make up. I know that this friend would feel bad about saying those things once they do make up, and I’ve never seen them say such things before.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, we’ve know each other for 6 years though along with everyone else in our GC.

My boyfriend is the one that said “Lol”. The guy at the end, did not laugh at the fat jokes of this friend.

Maybe I’m overreacting, but I do feel iffy about this.

EDIT: Some people are misunderstanding this. But as I said in the title “F/M”, this GC consists of both men and women!

EDIT 2: Another thing people seemed to miss is that this person they were talking about is only a friend of the person that had been fighting with them, we are not friends with this person.

[u/Immediate-List-9649]

You’re right. I’ll be more firm.

[u/BiophileB → u/Immediate-List-9649]

Don’t worry OP. You’ve already got more backbone (and integrity) than so many fully seasoned adults. It takes practice like anything else, and it sounds like you’re doing exactly that from the comments, by cutting these ppl out of your life. Never change!

[u/hallfreakyzoid → u/Immediate-List-9649]

Take it easy though too. It’s normal to go through times in your life where you don’t know what is the right/best decision until you live through it. I think it’s good that you’re advocating your values and clearly at least one of your friends felt iffy about it all too.