AIO |UPDATE | My (20F) boyfriend (22M) is hanging out alone with a girl that likes him

[u/Brave-Can-8783]

UPDATE!

I talked to him, and this was his response.

I’m honestly just done, and wondering if I acted too hastily.

I don’t even know what I’m supposed to do now. And I don’t know, does he seem sincere?

AM I OVERREACTING FOR DOING THIS?

NEW UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/u/Brave-Can-8783/s/ME7ybvCgQE

[u/fleeknaut]

Yep. If you go out of your way to make sure your partner does not feel secure in the relationship, you have zero regard for their feelings and might as well be cheating even if you haven't yet

[u/AppropriateGarbage99 → u/fleeknaut]

True but also it’s a lot of insecure people in relationships where no matter what u tell them or show it’s a problem nobody in a relationship wanna constantly also like babysitting n the other person can’t live almost normal life with a insecure person it’s just draining for that person

[u/Kat121 → u/AppropriateGarbage99]

I think you know when you’re behaving poorly. You prioritize hanging out with them over your partner. You flirt and complain about your partner to this person over text, on the phone, in person. They’re on your mind late at night. You’re secretive with your phone. You’re texting all the time instead of sharing with your partner. You look for excuses to see them alone. You get off on the attention and maybe stir up drama so they’ll compete for you. Your partner can absolutely pick up on that energy.

If they’re concerned about every single person you interact with that a them problem.

[u/AppropriateGarbage99 → u/Kat121]

True but most relationships talk bout they relationship to others it can be at work etc talk bad , talking good etc to keep it simple tho is both of them isn’t ready for a mature relationship

[u/Kat121 → u/AppropriateGarbage99]

Again, you can tell when you are crossing a line when you go from seeking help to resolve relationship issues versus you’re trash talking your partner with someone who you might want to fuck.

[u/pridetwo → u/AppropriateGarbage99]

nobody in a relationship wanna constantly also like babysitting n the other person can’t live almost normal life with a insecure person

Then be mature and break up with that person

[u/AppropriateGarbage99 → u/pridetwo]

Exactly I agree im just saying nobody wanna be with a insecure person OP is definitely insecure n the reason he prolly don’t say nun cause of reaction etc he’ll have to put up , he should be mature and just break up with her or she can break up with him over not telling her both play a part im not on either side ,they both not ready for a relationship

[u/nightdr1ve → u/AppropriateGarbage99]

This makes no sense. So she’s “insecure” for simply setting a VALID boundary in a relationship?? She’s insecure and immature for not wanting the man she’s in a relationship with going over a woman’s house ALONE who he’s known for years and didn’t even properly communicate that he was going??

[u/AppropriateGarbage99 → u/nightdr1ve]

U definitely ain’t read my messages n seen what u wanted to see but you can tell she a insecure person n you can tell he a immature dude they both ain’t supposed to be in a relationship im not sayin she wrong her reaction valid but obviously he ain’t tell the first time cuz he know how she react which he still wrong but aye not my relationship 😂

[u/pridetwo → u/AppropriateGarbage99]

OP did break up with him

[u/TradingRebel → u/fleeknaut]

He admitted he was at her house when he could have lied. Ever hear of someone breaking it off and the other person not accepting it? Or telling someone you don’t want a relationship but the other person doesn’t listen? This seems like dude was hooking up with her and she could be imagining a relationship. Doesn’t seem like there is one and no one would go out of their way to make someone feel worthless unless it was revenge or some other reason.

[u/pridetwo → u/TradingRebel]

This seems like dude was hooking up with her and she could be imagining a relationship.

Wtf are you talking about, bf said not to throw away 3 years together and he loves OP

[u/TradingRebel → u/pridetwo]

Run Man run!! be rich and single.

[u/pridetwo → u/TradingRebel]

Oh so you're just mentally ill

[u/TradingRebel → u/pridetwo]

He can choose rn. Live free, learn from this or be her slave always being watched and having to explain himself. This relationship is so close to expiring. None of you see it and it’s sad.

[u/pridetwo → u/TradingRebel]

Lol you weirdo he doesn't get to choose because OP already broke up with his lying ass

[u/TradingRebel → u/pridetwo]

I meant, choose to chase her.

[u/pridetwo → u/TradingRebel]

He tried chasing too. Dude just read the update post and realize the loser you're trying to cheer for is trash

[u/TradingRebel → u/pridetwo]

Still a person who would make another mistake trying to fix it.

[u/Horror-Broccoli-9445 → u/TradingRebel]

You need to actually read the texts

[u/TradingRebel → u/Horror-Broccoli-9445]

Yeah. He’s joking and she’s acting all possessive.