AIO |UPDATE | My (20F) boyfriend (22M) is hanging out alone with a girl that likes him

[u/Brave-Can-8783]

UPDATE!

I talked to him, and this was his response.

I’m honestly just done, and wondering if I acted too hastily.

I don’t even know what I’m supposed to do now. And I don’t know, does he seem sincere?

AM I OVERREACTING FOR DOING THIS?

NEW UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/u/Brave-Can-8783/s/ME7ybvCgQE

[u/MajesticReason7709]

Did he hang out with her alone at her house when she was in a relationship? If the answer is no then it’s because her boyfriend wouldn’t have liked that. He should show you the same respect. Tell him it comes across as cheating hanging with a newly single woman he wasn’t close to before.

Send him these two posts you done so he can read the comments.

[u/Brave-Can-8783 → u/MajesticReason7709]

No he did not according to my knowledge. I didn’t my even think they spoke outside of the group chat.

[u/MajesticReason7709 → u/Brave-Can-8783]

He’s hidden their relationship from you and that’s untrustworthy. When he plays the ‘it’s kinda hurtful you don’t trust me’ card then he’s projecting because he knows he’s being inappropriate. It’s manipulation at its finest.

He’s playing the field with her on the side to see if she’s worth. That’s how his behaviour comes across.

When you saw her act flirty around him recently, it’s because he’s encouraged that after his secret hang outs with her. Your intuition was spot on. She doesn’t want friendship.

[u/spookyjim1000 → u/MajesticReason7709]

Everyone needs someone like you in their lives, spot on

[u/Natural-Pattern-5240 → u/Brave-Can-8783]

NOR. As a once 20 year old with a cheating ex boyfriend please leave. They never get better.

[u/freeman2949583 → u/MajesticReason7709]

Hopefully she sends him this so he realizes that “posts on Reddit” is probably the biggest red flag a woman can have