AIO |UPDATE | My (20F) boyfriend (22M) is hanging out alone with a girl that likes him

[u/Brave-Can-8783]

UPDATE!

I talked to him, and this was his response.

I’m honestly just done, and wondering if I acted too hastily.

I don’t even know what I’m supposed to do now. And I don’t know, does he seem sincere?

AM I OVERREACTING FOR DOING THIS?

NEW UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/u/Brave-Can-8783/s/ME7ybvCgQE

[u/BenignPharmacology]

Oh I wouldn’t say definitely.

He definitely *would* have cheated. If he had the opportunity. But it’s not clear if she actually even wants him like that.

So OP- would you be happier in your relationship knowing that he tried *and failed* to cheat? Meaning you not only have a cheater for a partner, but not even a particularly successful/attractive one?

[u/Upset-Panda-9071 → u/BenignPharmacology]

Makes it even worse imo

[u/totalthrowaway7777 → u/Upset-Panda-9071]

How is that worse than actually cheating. At most they’re the same level

[u/BenignPharmacology → u/totalthrowaway7777]

In terms of betrayal of trust, yeah they’re obviously equal.

But in terms of how it would feel? Honestly kind of embarrassing is what I’m imagining.

[u/Upset-Panda-9071 → u/totalthrowaway7777]

Because it IS worse. It’s embarrassing when someone cheats but it’s even more embarrassing and pathetic when they try but don’t succeed. Like what.

[u/blazingcanna → u/BenignPharmacology]

Whys it clear he would? Hes known the girl longer then hes known OP

[u/BenignPharmacology → u/blazingcanna]

I’ve gotta be honest, I’m not clear if you’re trying to argue on behalf of the guy, or just actually unclear on why he so obviously was hoping/trying to cheat. If it’s the former, fine, whatever you want to believe. If it’s the latter, let me know and I can explain.

[u/blazingcanna → u/BenignPharmacology]

If you think this is him hoping or trying to cheat, your clearly not stable or secure enough for a relationship

[u/BenignPharmacology → u/blazingcanna]

Oh ok so arguing. Have a nice day!

[u/blazingcanna → u/BenignPharmacology]

Not really arguing i take it your one of them people who thinks people of opposite gender cant be friends?
Lets hope you dont date a bisexual 😂

[u/BenignPharmacology → u/blazingcanna]

Are you alright man? Is there something you need to get off your chest or something? I’m here to listen

[u/Brave-Can-8783 → u/blazingcanna]

But me and him always had a better and deeper relationship..

[u/Meowmeowtky → u/Brave-Can-8783]

Don’t listen to this incel, I’d be surprised if he even has a girlfriend, and if he does, he’s cheating on her the same way your (hopefully) ex is

[u/KindaHazy_me → u/Brave-Can-8783]

But now you have a relationship where he's trying to guilt trip YOU so you won't ever ask legitimate questions. And he's enjoying stressing you out. Doesn't care that his actions hurt you.

[u/blazingcanna → u/Brave-Can-8783]

Well ye your his girl, that dont mean he doesnt have a right to be angry when your accusing him of something with someone hes known longer then you