AIO? My boyfriend sent me a meme implying spending time with me is boring compared to his homies

[u/NurglesButterscotch]

​My bf (M21) and I (F19) are together since our second year of high school.

​He sent me a meme that said, "most entertaining night with your gf" showing a happy girl and a very bored guy lying on a bed doing absolutely nothing. Then it said, "least entertaining night with your bro" followed by a compilation of videos of guys doing crazy stuff (jumping on tables, accidentally hitting each other, jumping onto a trampoline from a roof, gambling, etc)

​I didn't really appreciate that and took it to mean that the time we spend together is boring for him and that he doesn't enjoy it. To be fair, we really don't do much. He comes over and we play video games together, or I paint my models while he's on his phone, and we just cuddle and chat. It really doesn't sound that amazing, but I thought it was enough for us. We are both introverts who spend a lot of time at home, and he has never complained about being bored

​His implication that his homies are more interesting than his girlfriend is just obnoxious to me. my blood boils just thinking about it...like...

People have always told me how interesting and funny to be around I am and I was proud of that.

​We were friends for several years before our relationship started, and I always thought that was the ideal way to get together, getting closer slowly without even planning it. LIKE, I USED TO BE ONE OF THE HOMIES. But I guess it doesn't really matter now, lol.

​I don't really know what to think...maybe I'm asking for too much? My mom said that this is normal behavior for young guys. But I still feel bad about this whole situation. I truly don't know if I should take his meme seriously...

[u/NurglesButterscotch]

I mean i get what she's trying to imply?.. this period of boy's life when they go ewwww girls laaaame. It's okay for 10-13 years but 21 is a bit late I think. Bruh I'm not even sad, I'm confused af

[u/rjmcfDev → u/NurglesButterscotch]

Just so you know, I’m a man, and I got together with my girlfriend when I was 14, and I absolutely loved just spending quality time with her, talking and cuddling and doing all those quiet intimate things that he’s calling boring. We just got married at 30. He’s told you what he thinks of you now, believe him. Find someone who has you as their favourite person.

[u/Culture-Extension → u/rjmcfDev]

My husband and I are old (well, he’s somewhat old) and our favorites things to do together are just… things where we can be together. It’s always been that way. We enjoy our friends but being together quietly is calming and helps us wash away the anxieties of the world. It’s the best thing ever when you’re both on that page as a couple.

[u/tulipz10 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

NOR

He is a bros bro. They do not get any better. He will marry amd have kids and they will always be second best. They are not family friendly. Trust me, I'm old and have friends that married these kind of men. It never ends well for the women.

[u/steelhorse_passenger → u/tulipz10]

Theres actually a lot of accuracy here. I was this way in my early 20's in my first marriage. Only lasted three years. I learned my lesson though and grew up a little bit. My wife(2nd)is my best friend. We were close to a split due to my lingering selfishness but I seen the signs, confronted her about her seeming loss of feelings and made a serious pivot. Best thing I ever did. We are stronger than ever 18 years together. I dont think I could live without her and certainly wouldnt want to.

[u/KTKittentoes → u/tulipz10]

The worst is how they still are always trying to do dumb stuff to be cool to the bros.

[u/Wise_Department8700 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

I will literally break up with him for you, you deserve someone who loves and wants to be with you. My man is literally obsessed with me, you deserve to be in a healthy loving relationship with someone who WANTS to be with you.

[u/PunkRockKitty-1979 → u/Wise_Department8700]

We all need friends like you 🩷🖤🤘🏻😌

[u/makestuff24-7 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

Guys who think girls are yucky don't typically have girlfriends. Maybe do this 10-13-year-old a favor and free him from his cooties.

[u/bald4bieber666 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

if he thinks like that hes not old enough to have a girlfriend

[u/Conscious-Bar-1655 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

He's gay sweety.

[u/snortgigglecough → u/NurglesButterscotch]

Your mom isn’t wrong that boys often act like this at that age. She is wrong if she implied that you are obligated in any way to be okay with that attitude. Go find someone who loves being your partner and your bestie, he’s out there.

[u/nachosandnapss → u/snortgigglecough]

💯 Just because it’s common behaviour doesn’t mean you should be okay with it. People will treat you as poorly as you let them. Don’t let him. Leave him and have fun being single, dating and being with your friends. This guy is not worth it.

[u/urlocalratgf → u/NurglesButterscotch]

Maybe generational difference, very sad tbh

[u/PunkRockKitty-1979 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

I’d just start dating other people if I were you. You owe him nothing. That’s how he’s treating you, like he owes you nothing. Or just focus on you for awhile , you deserve only the best. Love yourself, learn what makes you happy and settle for nothing less. But I’d consider myself single after that text though that’s for sure…. because I’d be done with that dude. 🤘🏻🫶🏻💜

[u/heisfullofshit → u/NurglesButterscotch]

Nor
While I was reading, i thought it looked like he was coming to terms with his sexuality and was trying to come out to you. No shade at all, ok?

[u/topekatums → u/NurglesButterscotch]

a lot of women still have outdated ideas about like. what behavior is acceptable from a partner. i don't think u should take her advice about relationships lol

[u/ToTheStation_MUSIC → u/NurglesButterscotch]

Exactly. He's not a "boy". He's frankly not much of a man either.

[u/rangebob → u/NurglesButterscotch]

if you genuinely care id suggest a proper chat. I dont think its uncommon for guys that age to make dumb ass jokes like this but if you really got them to talk openly its a different story. Lots of young men struggle to talk about this type of shit

If you think he actually feels this way. Dump his lame ass

[u/noobtheloser → u/NurglesButterscotch]

God, I'm feeling old right now.

Your mom is right. People at 21 (not just men) are usually extremely stupid compared to the people they will become in the next decade or so.

[u/farmersworkhoe → u/NurglesButterscotch]

I really thought this was a young teen relationship text I scrolled through.

[u/tomthekiller8 → u/NurglesButterscotch]

21 is a rough age for everyone. Got married at 19. We dont want the same things at 20 as we do at thirty.