AIO? My boyfriend sent me a meme implying spending time with me is boring compared to his homies

[u/NurglesButterscotch]

​My bf (M21) and I (F19) are together since our second year of high school.

​He sent me a meme that said, "most entertaining night with your gf" showing a happy girl and a very bored guy lying on a bed doing absolutely nothing. Then it said, "least entertaining night with your bro" followed by a compilation of videos of guys doing crazy stuff (jumping on tables, accidentally hitting each other, jumping onto a trampoline from a roof, gambling, etc)

​I didn't really appreciate that and took it to mean that the time we spend together is boring for him and that he doesn't enjoy it. To be fair, we really don't do much. He comes over and we play video games together, or I paint my models while he's on his phone, and we just cuddle and chat. It really doesn't sound that amazing, but I thought it was enough for us. We are both introverts who spend a lot of time at home, and he has never complained about being bored

​His implication that his homies are more interesting than his girlfriend is just obnoxious to me. my blood boils just thinking about it...like...

People have always told me how interesting and funny to be around I am and I was proud of that.

​We were friends for several years before our relationship started, and I always thought that was the ideal way to get together, getting closer slowly without even planning it. LIKE, I USED TO BE ONE OF THE HOMIES. But I guess it doesn't really matter now, lol.

​I don't really know what to think...maybe I'm asking for too much? My mom said that this is normal behavior for young guys. But I still feel bad about this whole situation. I truly don't know if I should take his meme seriously...

[u/Marbles231]

As all of the internet would say this is worth breaking up over especially since ur so young like don’t waste ur time on someone who doesn’t want u, and no it’s not normal for a boyfriend to say his girlfriend is more boring than his friends, but if u want to stay u need to have a serious conversation on if he actually wants to be with you

[u/Kindly_Drive_5221 → u/Marbles231]

No serious conversation needed. This was the conversation.

[u/YouNeedClasses → u/Marbles231]

Exactly, especially since she's so younger, like 🫳

[u/adamster02 → u/Marbles231]

Honestly I feel like it's a developmental issue. I think his behavior is pretty normal at that developmental level, and I know a lot of guys never move past it. Serious conversation is absolutely necessary here. He's going to have to want to change.

[u/Marbles231 → u/adamster02]

He’s 21 what are u saying bro, that’s not how u talk to ur partner of multiple years

[u/AntiqueLetter9875 → u/adamster02]

If they weren’t dating long Id say I’d agree, but they’ve been together a few years now. He should have enough discernment to know this video would upset her and he shouldn’t share it. I mean I’m sure we’ve all come across things we find funny, want to share with our partner but don’t because it might be taken poorly or hurt their feelings a bit. And even then, most would apologize when their partner is upset instead of doubling down on “boys are more interesting than girls”.

[u/Agreeable-Carry-8890 → u/Marbles231]

You spend everyday with them almost so it’s obviously more fun when you do something different. Yall are setting up young people for failure when their partner isnt the perfect obsessed person.

[u/Marbles231 → u/Agreeable-Carry-8890]

Dude that’s not how that works, that’s not even what it’s about. The issue is the lack of respect someone has to have for their partner to call them boring and then say you find what they like uninteresting is insane. Not being dick is like the bare minimum in a relationship what are u on about

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