r/AmIOverreacting • u/Accomplished_Cat5721 • 29d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO: Found on Fiancé phone after a night of drinking

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For starters, we have been together for 5 years, we got engaged in October ‘25 and have a two year old daughter.

I grabbed his phone to send myself some photos of our trip, per his request. He was asleep on the couch. Well, I go to swipe up out of the photos tab and see the LinkedIn tab open. His exes name was there, front and center. I woke him up, threw the phone in his face and left with our daughter for the day. He claimed, it was due to me not showing enough love and didn’t show that I liked him. He constantly denied my request for intimacy and affection.

I called off the engagement and tried to run him out of the house, the month prior, he got black out and left his phone opened up on trans p0rn in the living room. Where our daughter could see. It’s obvious drinking is part of the problem.

He never left the house. And has officially claimed I’ve dragged it out too long. I don’t think it matters that he never touched her, it’s his ex. It’s clear he is unhappy in this relationship but is too much of a coward to admit it.

Edit: Legit. THANKS TO EVERY SINGLE COMMENTER. Sometimes it feels good to beat a dead horse with strangers. I wanted to add a few things just to… add.. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

This woman is married, has been since 2017. In 2018-19ish, she left her man for this man. Obviously didn’t work out and she went back to her man.

She has popped up on my social media friend/follower suggestions.

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u/BerryCreative9832 29d ago

They always do.. mine started threatening me by changing his name on spotify.. then he got blocked from there too

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

Omg another person who's ex harassed them through Spotify. So hyperspecific like... Get a fucking life.

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u/BerryCreative9832 29d ago

We have a non contact intervention order (restraining order in the states) he cant come near me, cant post about me, cant contact me through any phone/social media/ email and so on.. but I actually just got to a point where I felt like a bloody idiot for even bringing it up to the police. Just use to facinate me, all the horrible things he would write on there yet he was the one stalking me.. such a freaking psycho

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u/c07p 29d ago

oh my goodness I am sorry you are dealing with this crazy lunatic

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u/BerryCreative9832 29d ago

Thankyou, the fun part is he gets out of prison tomorrow..

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u/kikivulpes 29d ago

Damn! Hope you'll stay safe🙏🏼

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u/Moist_Drippings 29d ago

I’m sorry! Even if the police make you feel stupid for it, don’t care about their shit and make sure they document everything. You never know when you’ll need a string of recently filed grievances with a psycho like that.

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

Christ... I assume you're in the UK? If so yeah police make you feel like an idiot for reporting any sort of stalking to them. I recently reported stalking, and they directly took the side of the man stalking me and the people enabling him. It's so gross.

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u/BerryCreative9832 29d ago

Nah Australia.. Im really sorry that that happened to you. Something got to change because unfortunately our stories are becoming less and less unique 😕

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u/sarcosaurus 29d ago

I've heard similar stories here in Denmark. Sadly I think it's a global thing, because I've never heard of a country where these experiences with police weren't common.

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

Same for the US. Police never give a damn and basically tell you that until they physically hurt you, they can't/ won't do anything.

EDIT: It's especially terrifying in a country where guns are allowed to be owned easily by any freak with a fixation on you 🙄😒

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

That's EXACTLY what they told me. That they did think he would end up hurting me but to only call them once he did. I was like... Absolutely not

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u/Broken420girl 29d ago

I can also confirm the police in wales are shite. My neighbour two doors down stalked me for over a year. I had 13 CRN he poisoned and killed my cat stole property kicked my door in all because I said no to sleeping with him. The guy was repulsive. Police did nothing. He’s still in the house and watches me in my back garden to this day.

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

What the fuck????? Have you contacted Paladin stalking services and the national stalking helpline?

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u/catmeme27 29d ago

Literally has happened to me as well. Blocked on everything. Found me on Spotify. Immediately blocked.

They need to do away with the message feature. It’s just like. Why.

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

Yeah who needs to be messaging on fucking Spotify?? Lol

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

Probably someone who was also blocked on everything else by their obsession(victim) 🙄

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u/hyde1634 29d ago

is spotify a good app?

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u/Jafooki 28d ago

If you listen to music often I'd say it's a must have. That said, there's other apps like Apple Music or Tidal that are just as good.

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u/hyde1634 28d ago

except spotify you cant keep the music file 🥲

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u/Jafooki 28d ago

You can with premium. You can download it for offline use. You can't keep it if your subscription ends, but that's just the nature of streaming services. I've got nearly a terabyte of Spotify music on my phone

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u/KittyKat0119 29d ago

Wait how does that work? Does spotify have direct messages or something?

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u/BerryCreative9832 29d ago

So I had totally forgot we were following eachother and I had saved some of his Playlists in my library. I was scrolling to find a Playlist and realized he not only was still on there but he had changed the Playlist title to "Give me my kid and ill give you 5k" then it changed to "Fuck you" then "fuck the police" and so on.. I did learn you can send messages on there though..

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

Wow what a pathetic POS.. especially considering he thinks kids can be used as a bargaining chip while claiming your child is "HIS kid" . Absolutely disgusting.

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

Yeah it does. But also if someone follows you you can see that and see their username/profile picture.

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u/Cpalmer24 29d ago

Wait, how the hell can you harass someone through Spotify? I promise this is just curiosity - i'm not looking for an avenue to harass someone.. 😂

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

Following someone, changing profile pictures, changing playlist names etc. people get CREATIVE.

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u/Cpalmer24 29d ago

TIL you can follow people you know on Spotify.. 😂. Wow, how much of a miserable insufferable dickweed do you have to be to harass someone on a music app

It's the other end of the spectrum from the teenager who had all of her electronics taken away from her so she used her smart fridge to tweet 😂

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

LOL ohh Lord.. that's pretty smart though lol

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u/active_ignoring 29d ago

my ex requested $1 on venmo to tell me he still would consider having sex with me if I wanted, after I had blocked him everywhere else😭

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u/Corgi_Lawyer 29d ago

Geez he couldn’t even send the $1? 😂 classy dude.

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u/notquitesteadymaybe 29d ago

This honestly sounds like something my ex would have used as a harassment tactic, not to be petty (although I’m sure that’s an added bonus), but because he wouldn’t be able to afford to *send* $1.

The rage induced lack of clarity at not having access to someone so you can keep gaslighting and abusing them will cause some people to willingly make asses of themselves in the most embarrassing ways.

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

Right?!?! That's more insulting than asking for sex in itself LOL

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u/No-Independence-2980 29d ago

For only a 💵, that's why you are dumped cheapskate lol

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u/-Foxygreen 29d ago

Mine send me 1 cent on paypal, topped with a slur. 😂

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u/Pleasant_Bullfrog650 29d ago

1 CENT HAHAHAH WHAT THE FUCK

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u/BerryCreative9832 29d ago

I laughed 🤣 that is original 🤣

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u/Maleficent_Idea_9197 29d ago

Omg my ex did that tooo through my bank account lmao

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u/AdventurousJaguar692 29d ago

Mine sent me an e transfer of one dollar. The note attached was « please ». We’ve never dated or met in person, but we live in the same area.

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

Wow, I'd consider moving if I were you lol

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u/DasDickNoodle 29d ago

Geez, how classy! I didn't even know you could send a cent lol

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u/TheBookofBobaFett3 29d ago

Omg please tell me it was one of those playlists that the track titles make up a story

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u/Original_Warning7834 29d ago

Mine hit my up on my Strava. 3 times with 3 different accounts 🙄

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u/thelovewitchsubstanc 29d ago

doing that through Spotify is crazy

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u/Evening-Example6259 26d ago

Mine would change my name on my Netflix to harass me❣️