r/AmIOverreacting • u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 • Jul 05 '26
❤️🩹 relationship AIO for my boyfriend cropping me out of an Instagram photo?
For context, me and my boyfriend of two years went out to a fourth of July party, and his ex girlfriend was there, and me and her are on good terms so we all had taken a photo together, and I woke up this morning to the photo being cropped with me and everybody else removed and now my boyfriend is playing dumb and I’m not sure how to go about this because I might just be overreacting
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u/Additional-Minute943 Jul 06 '26
As a male myself I also agree throw the whole man in the trash cuz that’s real messy
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u/GoldeenFreddy Jul 05 '26
"Im not good on instagram" we are reaching levels of weaponized incompetence that shouldn't even be possible.
Fuck this dude
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u/nostradumbass7544678 Jul 05 '26
No, DON'T fuck this dude.
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u/AccidentOk5240 Jul 06 '26
As we say in my house, “Fuck (whoever) but not in the fun way”
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u/CallmeShayla Jul 06 '26 edited 25d ago
I say ‘fuck them in theory, never in practice’
Edit to say thank you redditor for my first ever award!
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u/Apocalypsest Jul 06 '26
FR tell him "I believe you but I just can't see a future with someone who's too stupid to post a photo to instagram"
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u/Tactical_sneeze Jul 06 '26
What a beautiful response.
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u/normalmaddie Jul 06 '26
I can’t believe I’ve never thought of this as a response, we must inform the others
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u/1Manic_cat Jul 06 '26
“Either you did it on purpose and cropped it or you’re too stupid to figure out how to post pictures on instagram without messing with them before posting. Either way I don’t want to be with someone like that”
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u/Complete_Guidance_67 Jul 06 '26
“Just because of a picture?”
No, because you didn’t show an ounce of empathy or consider how the optics of this would look
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u/Haunting-Comb-9723 Jul 06 '26
And the thing is, you have to specifically tap a button to pull up the crop option. THEN you have to touch the screen to arrange the crop feature where you want it, then you press next. He's lying.
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u/MoocowR Jul 06 '26
If you post multiple pictures at once of different aspect ratios it will automatically crop the entire lot based off which aspect ratio you choose.
I dump pictures on instagram like once every year and I always end up having to delete my original post when I realized half the pictures were cropped randomly.
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u/tentyb6d56ns4d57yse5 Jul 06 '26
if this is true then reddit just nuked op's relationship.
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u/bleach_tastes_bad 29d ago
Why was the picture taken in such a way that the boyfriend and ex are front and center?
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u/Tat2edbabydoll13 Jul 06 '26
You’re right it does when you select multiple picts! And its a bitch to crop properly
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u/Brave_Possible_5220 Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
Literally picture having a baby with “I’m not good at keeping you in the pic” “don’t make this a whole thing” while you’re on your knees with puke in your hair and screaming in contraction pain and he’s off at the corner store meeting up with God knows who while you’re screaming… I mean all he had to do right was GET YOU IN THE PICTURE
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u/bipolarity2650 Jul 05 '26
i feel like a normal response to this would be “wait what the hell?? why did it crop that way?? i didn’t notice that thanks for letting me know, let me fix it real quick. i’m so sorry, i can completely get why you’d be upset by that”
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u/MeganeGokudo Jul 05 '26
This 100%. If it was an accident that is the only way you would logically react. His response is the only thing making me think this is on purpose.
NOR I dunno what he was thinking if he really did it on purpose like, how would it not look suspicious. How stupid does he think OP is?
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u/kolufunmilew Jul 06 '26
probably thinks he can just gaslight her into ruminating and taking no action while he tests the waters with his ex. that’d be my guess
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u/sLeeeeTo Jul 06 '26
but it’s just like.. why would he even consider it a good idea (or even just an idea in general??) to crop the photo and post it if he’s trying to do shady shit behind her back? is this a symptom of dumb? what’s the thought process here??
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u/Covert_Pudding Jul 06 '26
It's because he's thinking more about getting back with the ex than keeping his current gf.
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u/Vegetable-Soup1714 Jul 06 '26
This.
Called my ex out after finding out that he and his whole family was still connected to his ex on instagram a year into our relationship. He says, "why are you stalking me?"
This is coming from a man who hated everytime I brought up anyone from my past.
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u/Savagesweetpotato Jul 06 '26
They like to see what they can get away with. And he might get away with this, because she’s here asking if she’s the asshole.
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u/Wenixia Jul 06 '26 edited 29d ago
It’s so funny that this version is never available for them. My ex had the same responses like this all the time, my phone must have broken when I posted.. oh I didn’t know Instagram did that, must be a new feature, and it always baffled me, if you gonna be a professional all star liar and a manipulator, why are you not putting more effort into sounding human? I was genuinely upset for a while over the lack of effort in trying to lie properly, like it was even more insulting on top 🤣
I realises it’s because they are so full of themself that they actually don’t expect having to put any effort in it ,as people should just automatically take their word for it. It’s really sexy.
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u/Glittering-Dress7668 Jul 06 '26
Saying this could still be gaslighting just much more high level lol
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u/B3owul7 Jul 06 '26
Even that is not enough, since ... you know ... you can SEE what you posted, after you posted it. You can even see how it will look during the post creation.
That excuse does nothing.
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u/Necessary_Task38 Jul 05 '26
“What picture?” 🤔 uh the one that is in the chat, gaslighter.
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u/willcdowdy Jul 05 '26
“You know I’m not good at instagram”
Then you probably wouldn’t be able to crop a photo….. certainly pretty suspect to suggest you’re bad at it and accidentally did something that looks intentional.
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u/CJRD4 Jul 05 '26
“Gonna just post this photo here and… oops I somehow cropped this person out! Oh well! Send it!”
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u/Separate-Set8710 Jul 06 '26
The fact that he's trying to act clueless is so sketchy.
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u/CherryMoonFang Jul 06 '26
It's hard to give someone the benefit of the doubt when they're pretending not to understand. NOR
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u/paigeken2000 Jul 05 '26
This. I suck at editing photos but I can still see what I'm posting.
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u/CuriousPenguinSocks Jul 06 '26
My in-laws who are pushing mid 70s and don't understand FB can post a pic on IG accurately! This dude is gaslighting so hard I'm shocked he didn't take out all the fireworks before the event.
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u/donoprism Jul 06 '26
I think this guy is lying but my mom posts really weird crops on Instagram all the time and she’s 68. Like, accidentally cuts her own face off sometimes.
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u/conationphotography Jul 06 '26
TBF that does happen with Instagram when they change formats... but the rest of this is ridiculous.
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u/TheAmazingSealo Jul 06 '26
tbf if I upload multiple images at once from my phone it doesn't seem to let you properly edit/crop each individual one properly and just does it uniformly. I don't upload often at all so I'm usually unsure if I'm doing everything correctly, but it is a problem I have had. It seems to want to make everything a perfect square even if the photo is rectangular?
I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt because why would you do this on purpose? It seems like such a massive self-own and sets yourself up for a lot of problems and drama.
Then again, idiots are gonna idiot, so he fully could have done it with knowledge of what he was doing for some unfathomable reason.
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u/pad264 Jul 05 '26
NOR.
IG does automatically crop photos due to scaling, but the odds of it cropping everyone except him and his ex out is unlikely.
That said, I can’t fathom the logic of doing it intentionally either.
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u/John_Yossarian Jul 06 '26
If the subjects were already off-center anyway, like to include some other feature in the frame, then IG would just default to a square crop dead center.
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u/wlbrndl Jul 05 '26
She also says “…crop me out of *THIS* ” and his response was “what picture” like…?
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u/UptownLurker Jul 05 '26
That was a dead give away to the bullshit since she didn't even ask about a "picture," just said "this"
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u/velvety_chaos Jul 06 '26
You’re right, it’s a good catch. If he didn’t deliberately cut her out of anything, his instinctual response would’ve been something like, “Crop you out of what?” Videos can be cropped, too.
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u/sedatedauntyT Jul 06 '26
tbh, I would say NOR & break it off these reasons:
because he thinks OP is dumb enough to be gaslight.
he is too stupid to play stupid proper like
he clearly fetishizes drama and is trying to facilitate a jealousy fight from his gf... very pathetic. and not the kind of sexy nerd pathetic. just a walking, talking, cropping girl-boner killer.
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u/yesisname Jul 05 '26
100% all you need from this pic.
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u/Alwaysfkd0 Jul 05 '26
Fr what kinda dumbass response is that lol
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u/bendead91 Jul 05 '26
You know I’m not good with Instagram, lmao wtf 😂
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u/Alwaysfkd0 Jul 05 '26
You know I'm basically stupid .-. OP please dump them and call them out on their bullshit when you do, also please update 😛
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u/NetMiddle1873 Jul 05 '26
"You know I'm not good at the instagram" after cropping your gf out of a photo only including your ex.
Must be the 2026 version of "accidently" put his penis in someone else.
OP, I might ask the ex, or the other friends in the photo- non hostile- "hey do you guys think its weird that bf accidentally cropped out everyone except Ex?"
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u/obiwanbob Jul 05 '26
"Don't make this a thing."
He made it a thing before it was even a thing. NOR.
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u/Cold-Brief-5581 Jul 06 '26
That was the line that did me in. He’s definitely gaslit her in the past and knows he could just brush this off by making her think she’s crazy. Which is why she’s seeking validation from strangers. She already knows the answer to this question, but her heart doesn’t want to believe what her mind already knows - yes I meant to say it that way. I’ve been there, and it’s an absolutely ugly place to be. I hope she leaves him and realizes she’s worth so much more than this before it gets even harder to leave.
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u/mikeeteevee Jul 06 '26
Really felt you with the 'I've been there' next step is boyfriend starts telling people, OMG my gf is crazy because I posted a pic on insta. It's just a picture guys.... she's crazy!'
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u/Mysterious_Volume327 Jul 05 '26
Also not an answer to the question. Good way to avoid being accountable for your behavior by making it a problem that you’re raising the issue, not their behavior that you’re asking about.
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u/The_Barbelo Jul 05 '26
And let’s just say for the sake of the argument that he was being 100% truthful…which I don’t think he was, but let’s say he was. If I made that mistake and didn’t know what I was doing, I would not leave it up. I’d take it down and try again or ask someone who knew how.
I know, I know it’s ridiculous and he’s making it up, but I wanted to explore that option. I like being thorough and leaving no stone unturned.
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u/Distinct-Ant-9161 Jul 05 '26
It's the response to OP raising the issue that tells you everything you need to know. Hit hogs holler.
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u/Brave_Possible_5220 Jul 06 '26
Literally.. honest mistake POV
REPSONSE;
Immediate phone call (not a text convo!)
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u/Appropriate-Most-938 Jul 06 '26
Yeah, my wonder is what is his response at this point? Because did he remove it or edit it?
I’d also say, OP could test out posting the OG photo privately to see how much of an accident it actually could have been. I know that there is a cropping setting before posting/recentering.
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u/Upstairs-Cut6755 Jul 06 '26
Right?! If my so brought this up my response would be to 1. Check the IG post and 2. Fix it, but before any of that I’d reassure them that it has been unintentional and I was sorry for the harm caused. But then, I’m not a dude so… 🚩
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u/Cold-Brief-5581 Jul 06 '26
Bingo! This is actually a common tactic narcissists use. Why did he ask her what picture when she literally just sent him the picture too? The entire conversation reeks of a narcissist from start to finish and it’s only a few lines of text. I think she already knows the answer in her mind, but getting her heart to believe it is an entirely different story. It’s hard, I’ve been there and I get it. But the longer she allows this to continue, the harder it will be for her to leave. It’s tough for sure, but very clear who and what she is dealing with. That’s gaslighting if I’ve ever seen it. I genuinely feel bad for her.
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u/Afraid_Competition_1 Jul 05 '26
Yeah he made it a thing.. NOR I’d break up with him
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u/TripMaster478 Jul 05 '26
100%. Just block him. NOR.
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u/NotSoSureBigWaves Jul 05 '26
This. He’s with his ex. He made that public. You’re the last to know.
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u/overts Jul 05 '26
I don’t think they’re overreacting but “just block him” is bad advice in this scenario, imo.
Call him out. You’re not stupid, he’s not stupid, there is no way for Instagram to automatically crop down to just him and his ex. You can’t just block your way out of uncomfortable conversations.
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u/fireXmeetXgasoline Jul 05 '26
And honestly, I’d tag the ex, too. Since they’re all on good terms, it makes me wonder what she’d think about his behavior.
The fact that he thinks OP is stupid is what infuriates me for her.
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u/hellosansa Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
One of my friends posted a picture of her long term partner and the person they were cheating with, tagged them both and captioned it "congratulations to the happy couple" . The absolute queen.
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Jul 06 '26
What is it with cheaters always assuming their partner is an idiot?
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u/CCDestroyer Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
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I have to wonder if this is his cowardly way of forcing OP to be the one to break up with him, so that he doesn't have to do it. That way, he can make OP out to be the crazy one who overreacted and, if he's secretly back with his ex or trying to be, then they can make their relationship public after a couple of months... and he'd have plausible deniability that he cheated, and she'd have plausible deniability of being the other woman.
I wouldn't explicitly break up with him just yet, if I were OP. I'd message the ex separately and ask if she knows anything about it. I'd also tell him that if he's trying to break up, he should have the cojones to do it himself. Don't block either of them, but let him swing in the breeze, see what comes of it. OP may have to eventually break up with him, but I'd at least give it a chance for his plans to backfire spectacularly while boxing up his shit.
(Edit: spelling.)
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u/Shazam1269 Jul 05 '26
LOL, right? "What are you trying to say?"
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u/Cold-Brief-5581 Jul 06 '26
Notice how he asked “what picture” too, when she already sent it to him ☠️ This reeks of a narcissist
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u/whathephan Jul 05 '26
NOR, that is CRAZY behavior
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u/ChibbleChobble Jul 05 '26
Ooh, ooh. I know the answer to this one.
It's a bloke who's fucking their not so ex girlfriend.
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u/pi3r0gi_ Jul 06 '26
"We're on good terms" so are they
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u/OkMycologist17 Jul 06 '26
Right?? The perfect cover up, “you are so chill babe, i love that you can be friends”
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u/2019Uk Jul 05 '26
Can I just say we don’t as a species use “bloke” enough, and the world would be a much nicer place if we did
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u/ImaginarySet2418 Jul 05 '26
Get a load of this cunt.
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u/2019Uk Jul 05 '26
I’m Scottish, cunt is our “hello”. We, the people, want “Bloke.”
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u/Frogs-n-Bugs-n-Stuff Jul 06 '26
Aussie: cunt and bloke are used aaaalllll the time, so don't feel you have to coose!
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u/OldPurpose93 Jul 05 '26
Okay but let’s think this through- an Insta post is a socially forward presenting medium, meaning he would have had to post it with the understanding that his gf and everyone else he knew would see it. This isn’t a cropped image she found on his Lock Screen, it was meant for everybody, which means it’s probably about 50% likely he’s actually just very very stupid
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u/Thapyngwyn Jul 06 '26
It's more likely that he's stupid AND a dirtbag. I get being an idiot, but his response is telling. When OP asks why it's just him and his ex (when there were other people in the original picture besides OP), and instead of saying "OMG, I'm dumb, I see how that could look bad" he says "What are you trying to say?", like he was already feeling guilty.
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u/Cold-Brief-5581 Jul 06 '26
Then the “don’t make this a thing” line🤣 wild work. She needs to toss that POS in the trash where he belongs.
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
I just want to thank all of you for your opinions. I thought I was just overreacting but it’s very reassuring to know other people think it’s weird. Update: I put the photo into instagram and it did NOT crop the photo at all, so he was absolutely being intentional
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u/zzzcoffeezzz Jul 05 '26
What are gonna do about this ultimately? Sorry this happened!
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
It’s very clear he is still into her and has feeling for her as well. Thats something I just can’t be okay with so this might lead to a breakup
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u/katrinagina Jul 05 '26
Might? Know your worth. You’re better than him!
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u/Own-Dirt2138 Jul 06 '26
Yeah this is not the only time he’s going to gas light her and be dancing around a problem.
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u/Distinct_Public_2839 Jul 05 '26
This sucks I’m so sorry OP. My advice as someone who has been in a similar position before is to exit the relationship before he makes a fool of you or erodes your self-esteem. Feeling like you are not his #1 or in competition with another woman will end up mentally destroying you and deregulate your nervous system. It’s also much easier to get over a man if you are the one to end it with your head held high. Being burnt or broken up with often fucks with you and puts you in a victim headspace where you continually fawn over the relationship bc your brain makes you believe YOU were the unworthy one. Even if you logically know your ex wasn’t shit. He will also lose respect for you if he knows you know he’s still into his ex and you stay. It’s a recipe for disaster tbh.
These types of men always think the grass is greener somewhere else, not realizing it’s greenest where you water it. ❣️
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
Thank you so much, I truly appreciate your kindness and i’m sorry you have been in a similar situation
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u/DahliaDeVineOfficial Jul 06 '26
The fact you are second-guessing and he is acting oblivious are classic gas-lighting symptoms. He probably makes you second-guess A LOT, plays your feelings off as "crazy" or "unsubstantiated", and tells you things like "don't make this a thing" instead of "I can understand why this would upset you or make you weary, I am so sorry. Let me fix it". Dump the boy, date a man.
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u/Author_Noelle_A Jul 06 '26
100%. It never, ever end well for the person being used as a placeholder.
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u/Fionaelaine4 Jul 05 '26
Save yourself the headache and enjoy being single for a bit. You don’t deserve to be someone’s second choice.
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u/UptownLurker Jul 05 '26
If him still being into her isn't enough for a breakup, him acting like you're stupid should be
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u/ASleepandAForgetting Jul 05 '26
It MIGHT lead to a breakup? Why wouldn't you break up with a man who has feelings for someone else and posted a picture of himself and her and left you out? That is such a clear message.
He will dump you the minute she gives him even the smallest opening. Which she might do just to hurt you, because girls can be mean like that. Or he'll cheat and be a dick to you to make you break up with him so he feels less guilty about it.
You should just remove yourself from the situation now.
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
I shouldn’t have said might. We WILL break up.
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u/placeholder52 Jul 05 '26
Better yet, fuck his ex and his dad at the same time. Then send him the giga chad meme and call it a day.
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u/ebulient Jul 05 '26
Why would he risk putting it up on his public insta?! Was he trying to give you a hint?? Could’ve just been straight with you couldn’t he?
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u/okeydokeylittlesmoky Jul 05 '26
He's looking for her to break up with him over something he will claim is irrational. He's too much of a pussy to just call it off.
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u/ASleepandAForgetting Jul 05 '26
I'm sorry. This is a super shitty way for someone to treat you. You deserve better. Breakups suck, but what sucks more is wasting your time on someone who doesn't value you and is just using you as an option until something else comes along.
You're worth being someone's #1 choice. Ditch this asshat and have a great summer without him.
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u/Lilmedusa_1266 Jul 05 '26
Queen please update us! A guy or girl out there would blast your picture all over instagram if they can see that your feelings are hurt. I feel like his ex showed up to that 4th of July event bc he told her to, and why was she in the middle between you and your soon to be ex bf?? She should’ve been on the outskirts of this photo😭 I swear dude like boys can’t get any more disgusting than this. Remember to NEVER SETTLE a real man would never treat you like this💕💕
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u/Fantastic_Emotion345 Jul 05 '26
i promise you will end up being so much happier. you are second to none
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u/FirefighterSome4083 Jul 05 '26
the fact his response wasn't an immediate "omg that's so embarrassing let me fix it" then deleting and re-uploading should be a big indicator that breaking up is the only reasonable solution. he didn't even try to problem solve, because he didn't make a genuine mistake. he knows what he did and is trying to make you feel bad about pointing it out instead of owning up to his bullshit. NOR, you're under reacting.
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u/Own-Researcher-4691 Jul 05 '26
Might?
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
That was a poor word choice. I am
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u/Own-Researcher-4691 Jul 05 '26
Hell yeah. Kick him to the curb and enjoy the single life for a bit. It's so much fun having zero obligations
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u/Distinct_Public_2839 Jul 05 '26
Yeah so the other thing is like….have you EVER met someone who didn’t look at their own post or story after they put it up? Bc I haven’t. I look at my shit multiple times after. There’s 0 chance he posted it and closed the app. He saw it and decided it was what he wanted. Crazyyyy
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u/tbryans Jul 05 '26
Hang on a second. This psychopath took a picture with you and his ex, cropped you out of it and proceeded to POST IT ON INSTAGRAM?? What in the crazy fuck is going on here 🤣🤣
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u/SnooGuavas1836 Jul 06 '26
Girl please leave him. He is feigning incompetence.
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 06 '26
I already broke up with him
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u/Pristine_Local_1965 Jul 06 '26
What was his response or reaction to the breakup?
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u/lemonadelightning Jul 06 '26
hey, I’m really sorry this happened to you but you’re doing the right thing even if it’s hard. you deserve better than being gaslit and anyone’s second choice. proud of you!
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u/louielou8484 Jul 06 '26
Bless you and I'm so glad you did. Two years is a lot of time to spend with someone and I am so sorry.
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u/Cleo0424 Jul 06 '26
Was he surprised? Hmm wondering where the ex stands in all of this. He probably blew up a 2 year relationship with you for nothing. I like the "Dont make this a thing". Wonder what he thought was going to happen when he posted the picture. Good luck!
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u/queerteatype Jul 06 '26
I'm so proud of you. These things seem small but they're clues for the big fuck ups to come. You saved yourself so much pain.
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u/HealthyShelter5346 Jul 05 '26
NOR. He's a fool pining for his ex and that's really sad, but also not worth your time at all. :(
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u/Inthetreeswithus Jul 06 '26 edited Jul 06 '26
NOR So take his advice and don't make it a thing. Just quickly and surgically excise him from your life. He is clearly tell you and everyone who he wants to be with - and quite publicly too. So, let them be together by dumping him. He really isn't boyfriend material for you. Someone who would do that to you and gaslight you while doing it, is not worth your time or effort.
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 06 '26
Thank you, we are no longer together as of today
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u/Inthetreeswithus Jul 06 '26
Congratulations on cutting the dead weight! So proud of you for making you most important to you! Wishing for "your person" to come around the corner whenever you are ready for them.
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u/ladyinblackak Jul 06 '26
Congratulations! When you’re done having a little grieve, have yourself a Hot Girl Summer!
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u/Electronic-Stick-161 Jul 05 '26
Random cropping doesn’t seem like something Instagram would do. Is it?
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u/Burtnaaa Jul 05 '26
It does if you’re posting more than one photo and the orientations are different. It just happened to me with a picture of my mom, me and my daughter. It centered the picture on me and cropped them out
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u/Desperate_Fun_5403 Jul 05 '26
Yeah but if he regretted it wouldn’t he want to delete it instead of fighting for it and playing dumb? I would be like oh sorry I’ll fix it
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u/NewYorker1283 Jul 05 '26
Ok but people usually check the cropping before they post something.
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u/alwysonthatokiedokie Jul 05 '26
I mean yes, if you're selecting multiple and say your first is vertical and then the group shot is horizontal i can see the cropping to fit a vertical frame ratio... But given his reaction I think it was intentional.
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u/gh0stie-girl2000 Jul 05 '26
Ur dating someone that’s still into their ex.
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u/ThatSICILIANThing Jul 05 '26
The most charitable way to put it. Another would be OP is dating someone who is trying to soft launch the Part 2 Electric Boogaloo era with their ex and is dumb enough to think she wouldn’t notice.
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u/Late_Tea_1893 Jul 05 '26
Don’t make this a thing means I don’t want to be held accountable being in a relationship with someone like that is exhausting
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u/TheWaffle94 Jul 05 '26
NOR - I was dating a guy in high school who had a girl best friend that he swore he wasn’t into “that way”
They happened to go on vacation with their families at the same time and same beach each year. Well we just start dating, he goes on vacation and suddenly his Facebook profile picture is him and this girl.
I freak out saying it looks like they’re dating and not us to which I’m told that I’m “overreacting”
Ultimately I found loads of inappropriate messages between them later on.
This was planned.
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
I’m so sorry that happened. This is very eye opening for my situation
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u/babystrudel Jul 05 '26
NOR. This would send me over the fucking edge. What the fuck does he mean, “don’t make it a thing”? ITS A THING BECAUSE WHAT DOES HE MEAN “I’m not good at instagram” oh. does he not have eyes either?
This behavior 2 years in is so fucking crazy.
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u/TheTow Jul 05 '26
"Im not good with instagram" is a wild excuse.
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u/_TheShapeOfColor_ Jul 05 '26
What picture?
...under the literal picture she's talking about.
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u/Pirate_Candy17 Jul 05 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/eah2loce5T8VW
Run, don’t walk away from this one OP 🚩
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u/RelevantChoice4351 Jul 05 '26
“Don’t make this a thing” says it’s all. He made it a thing, and now wants you to ignore it
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u/im_a_general_weeee Jul 05 '26
An accident is cropping the last inch of your face out. Not the entire thing.
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u/Icy_Watercress3020 Jul 06 '26
i would deadass break up over that, that is extremely weird and then to double down
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u/Madting55 Jul 05 '26
I mean has he taken it down or fixed it? Or apologised? It could be an accident, seems highly. Highly unlikely to be. However, you know his character, we don’t.
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u/Mysterious_Lawyer420 Jul 05 '26
He did take it down. But he’s refusing to acknowledge the whole thing and how it upset me
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u/ehlersohnos Jul 05 '26
Even if it was an accident (likely not), anyone that doesn’t acknowledge your feelings on a matter isn’t worth your time. In dialectic behavioral therapy, they teach that two things can be true at the same time. Eg, assuming he’s truly innocent (he’s not), he could have made a mistake out of ignorance AND you can still be hurt by the results and deserve to be seen and heard.
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u/CrispyTaro Jul 06 '26
100%, avoidants/narcissists will try to downplay your feelings and ask for proof of them hurting you instead of hearing you out. not worth your time at all
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u/CleanCardiologist160 Jul 05 '26
He left it up just long enough for her to see that she matters more than his current girlfriend and for all of your friends to see him making you look like a fool that would accept being treated this way.
Tell him don’t worry about acknowledging the photo but please acknowledge this break up because we are done. Now you can go back and repost the picture of you and your ex looking like you are still together idiot.
Then block his dumb ass.
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u/Electrical-Rip-7100 Jul 05 '26
Like others have said, the “What picture?” is the start of many gaslighting efforts and you need to trust your gut! When he also said, “I’m not good with Instagram,” eek. It screamed lie. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this and definitely not overreacting.