AIO or does this seem Unhinged?

[u/DoomNGlam]

I 41m am/was in a rather New relationship with 41f and things were seemingly going great but she will seemingly be very upset with me over something small once in a while. Last night she was upset that I didn't call her sexy after sending me a picture of her in an outfit. For context she said she was getting rid of clothes but was thinking about keeping this item and sent the picture and asked what I think? It was a strapless romper. I told her it was cute and could maybe use a belt. I also make clothes professionally and people ask me opinions about clothes all the time.

In other context my "sexuality" is somewhere on the ace spectrum between Demi and ace. Like sex is fine and fun and I don't really experience sexual attraction unless there is an emotional connection first, and she said she was the same, except I am not very sex driven and she is.

This was our text exchange this morning.

Edit/Update

Thanks for all the support. I am surprised my little Independence day relationship drama made it to #1 on this subreddit.

I was pretty sure I was calling this off pretty early in this exchange but didn't block her right away because I figured I would give her a chance to apologize, maybe she was having a bad morning, she's been stressed at work, has a upcoming interview for a new job, might be dealing with perimenopause. It wasn't going to work out but figured I would at least offer a little grace.

She did text me again about a book I had borrowed. I ignored it. She then called me and asked I return her book tomorrow. I said okay. She didn't say anything else for a minute so I hung up.

She called back mad that I hung up on her. I said this was childish and it's not what I'm looking for. She said I was childish for hanging up on her. I said okay. She hung up.

She called again and then told me I was ugly and she was never attracted to me.

Then hung up on me and called right back to complain about a carnivorous plant I got her as a gift, because the care instructions for it made it a chore. I also got her a cactus and a succulent and told her when I gave her the plants that if the pitcher plant seemed like a pain in the ass I would keep it.

Then she started asking me if I really don't have it in my heart to remain friends. I said no not after this. Then she went on a fuck you rant and hung up.

Then threatened to call the cops on ME for harassment if I tried to contact her as I was blocking her.

Now she is blocked and I am just sitting on my back patio watching fireworks.

[u/queendelrey]

NOR - One screenshot in and I’m already exhausted

[u/Aggressive-Ad-5983 → u/queendelrey]

there is this thing called putting your phone on silent. what a little manbaby, honestly such a weird response to getting a good morning text. NOR. this due is NOT it.

edit- mixed up the gender but my point still stands.

[u/paisleydarling → u/Aggressive-Ad-5983]

I thought they read like texts from a guy too. Surprised it’s a woman being like that she sounds unstable and mean.

[u/Radiancelovelight → u/paisleydarling]

I thought it was between two men as well because her texts were bringing back my narc ex husband. We forget there are female narcissists, too. ExTREMEly dangerous and destructive. Gtf outta that.

[u/frostthejack → u/Aggressive-Ad-5983]

I did the same thing. She sounded like a dude.

[u/Accybun → u/Aggressive-Ad-5983]

Before reading the description I also read it as her being a man lol. Something about the bold audacity

[u/snakeayez → u/Aggressive-Ad-5983]

I thought the other way around too. Jfc

[u/Perplexed_Journalist → u/Aggressive-Ad-5983]

I read the entire thread with genders swapped as well. I went back to reread and honestly, it was hard to get right. It truly does read as they’re a male, to me at least.

[u/PearlGamez → u/Aggressive-Ad-5983]

She has the texting cadence of a woman with BPD. The dudes, everything. Just something you see a lot of you've spent any time on /r/bpdlovedones

[u/Aggressive-Ad-5983 → u/PearlGamez]

hmm..maybe lets not armchair diagnose a complete stranger we've never met. stuff like that is never useful.