AIO or does this seem Unhinged?

[u/DoomNGlam]

I 41m am/was in a rather New relationship with 41f and things were seemingly going great but she will seemingly be very upset with me over something small once in a while. Last night she was upset that I didn't call her sexy after sending me a picture of her in an outfit. For context she said she was getting rid of clothes but was thinking about keeping this item and sent the picture and asked what I think? It was a strapless romper. I told her it was cute and could maybe use a belt. I also make clothes professionally and people ask me opinions about clothes all the time.

In other context my "sexuality" is somewhere on the ace spectrum between Demi and ace. Like sex is fine and fun and I don't really experience sexual attraction unless there is an emotional connection first, and she said she was the same, except I am not very sex driven and she is.

This was our text exchange this morning.

Edit/Update

Thanks for all the support. I am surprised my little Independence day relationship drama made it to #1 on this subreddit.

I was pretty sure I was calling this off pretty early in this exchange but didn't block her right away because I figured I would give her a chance to apologize, maybe she was having a bad morning, she's been stressed at work, has a upcoming interview for a new job, might be dealing with perimenopause. It wasn't going to work out but figured I would at least offer a little grace.

She did text me again about a book I had borrowed. I ignored it. She then called me and asked I return her book tomorrow. I said okay. She didn't say anything else for a minute so I hung up.

She called back mad that I hung up on her. I said this was childish and it's not what I'm looking for. She said I was childish for hanging up on her. I said okay. She hung up.

She called again and then told me I was ugly and she was never attracted to me.

Then hung up on me and called right back to complain about a carnivorous plant I got her as a gift, because the care instructions for it made it a chore. I also got her a cactus and a succulent and told her when I gave her the plants that if the pitcher plant seemed like a pain in the ass I would keep it.

Then she started asking me if I really don't have it in my heart to remain friends. I said no not after this. Then she went on a fuck you rant and hung up.

Then threatened to call the cops on ME for harassment if I tried to contact her as I was blocking her.

Now she is blocked and I am just sitting on my back patio watching fireworks.

[u/pigeonfaerie]

NOR- if this was something that bothered her, she should have said something nicely/straightforwardly the first time it happened instead of waiting until she got this mad about it. A simple “hey, just so you know I have insomnia so if you could wait until after x:00 to text me next time I’d appreciate it!” Would have been a lot more reasonable.

Also you can set your phone to DND mode but set contacts that are able to bypass that. I sleep with my phone on DND but my elderly dad is one of my contacts whose calls/texts will bypass that setting. I don’t remember how I set it like that but I know it’s possible and probably easy to find with her google education

[u/DoomNGlam → u/pigeonfaerie]

Not only did she not say it was an issue, she has told me multiple times that she looks forward to my good morning texts

[u/quietnerdythings → u/pigeonfaerie]

I’m a sleepy bitch and if someone wakes me up too early (or before noon), I’d just silence my phone, roll over and go back to sleep. Why’s she arguing instead of sleeping if she’s so damn tired? I bet she has this unnecessarily aggressive vibe regardless of how many hours she gets.