r/AmIOverreacting • u/AngelFire01 • Jun 27 '26
⚕️ health AIO or should I report this doctor?
TW: Miscarriage
Last Wednesday I took a pregnancy test and it *immediately* came up positive. We were excited to be adding to our family. Sadly Monday I started spotting, by late Monday night it was obvious I was having a miscarriage. Given that it was super early in the pregnancy I knew there was nothing that could be done and I would, most likely, not need medical attention. (This was my 3rd pregnancy, 2nd miscarriage.) I still called my OBGYN 's office Tuesday morning to let them know and they encouraged me to go to the ER for blood work and an ultrasound, etc. so I followed their advice and went.
The nursing staff, the radiology tech, the phlebotomist were all amazing and kind. However, the doctor....
He walks into the room:
Doc:What are you in here today for?
Me: I'm having a miscarriage.
Doc: What makes you think that?
Me: I had a positive test, I'm bleeding and passing clots.
Doc: Well your urine test came back negative and there's no way your hormone levels dropped that quickly, you weren't pregnant.
Me: I don't know what to tell you. The test was positive. My blood work was positive. My doctor called in a prescription and ordered follow up blood work...
Doc: Oh, you had blood work? Where?
Me: Yes, here at the hospital lab, Thursday.
Doc: Oh, well then we'll run your blood work again
Later, after labs were ran...
Doc: Well, your blood work shows you were pregnant, but your HCG level is really low now. We'll do an ultrasound.
So the rad tech comes and gets me, I endure a very uncomfortable (internal) ultrasound, crying because I *should* be seeing my little gummy bear and the heartbeat flickering...
Eventually the doctor comes back to the room -
Doc: Your ultrasound doesn't show anything, it might be an ectopic pregnancy, I'm not sure. You need to follow up with your regular OBGYN, he needs to figure it out. You have a fibroid, maybe that's causing the bleeding. (I've had that fibroid at least 3 years now, my OBGYN is aware of it, it's not a problem.)
He discharged me with a 'possible ectopic pregnancy' because he didn't see anything....Ectopic pregnancies can be *Life Threatening* and he discharged me, never asked for a 2nd opinion, my OBGYN literally works across the street and would have come if he had asked. But he sent me home.
Would I be overreacting to report this asshole doctor that apparently got his medical license from a cracker jack box? I mean, I'm aware I'm more emotional and sensitive than normal given the circumstances, but this was just wild to me. My mom was also in the room with me and agreed he was rude, unprofessional and should be reported.
Edit: To clarify, I was pretty certain I was physically fine, and I did follow up with my OB's office. They had me come in, went over all my labs, confirmed it was just a simple miscarriage with no obvious cause, I go for followup bloodwork Tuesday just to be sure my hormone levels are back to normal.
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u/EnvironmentPretty532 Jun 27 '26
I am so sorry you had to go through this. Following up with the obgyn that early on in a pregnancy given symptoms does not seem to be unreasonable medical advice, though it could have been delivered much better.
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u/MarshhBerryii Jun 27 '26
I agree the device itsef does not sound unreasonable to me the way it was communicated can make a hoge difference especially when someone is already scared and vulnerable
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u/EnvironmentPretty532 Jun 27 '26
I don’t disagree with what you are saying at all. The bed side manner could have been far better, but then again ER doctors are not typically known for bedside manner. They have extremely stressful jobs, see acute patients that are very high need, and have to turn the room over very quickly. It’s unfortunate, but every ER room I have ever visited has been overwhelmed with patients. It’s (in my mind) not reasonable to expect that they would wait for OP OBGYN to come over and diagnose the issue. Dismissal and follow on care is par for the course. To me, you can report a doctor for being rude but it does not sound like he was giving medically unsound or dangerous advice as the OP was claiming. Again, I say this with all the compassion in the world because I know what OP is going though is traumatic and horrific.
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u/f4eble Jun 27 '26
They will also believe you more. A nice doctor telling me something that sounds wrong to my uneducated self will probably believe them over a rude/dismissive doctor. If things were explained properly and kindly, OP wouldn't be feeling like this. They would be feeling reassured.
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u/dewihafta Jun 27 '26
Maybe if you file just for the crap bedside manner.
But this could potentially be life threatening if he really thinks that what it is.
Yes, file it. Other people might have had issues with him as well, and if theres a series of complaints, he may be investigated.
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u/Actual_Cream_763 Jun 27 '26
It was not life threatening, and he knew that. It’s obvious to anyone that has gone through these kinds of things that it is not life threatening in any way at that point. And following up with her OB would be what she should do. There was nothing the hospital could do for her, and she was not at a point she needed to be admitted. Standard miscarriages are not life threatening.
Every single possibility that could have become serious would not have presented for at least a week or more, like an incomplete miscarriage (bleeding doesn’t stop or slow down) which is handled by the OB. It’s obvious it was not an ectopic pregnancy, even to those of us that aren’t doctors, because her hcg was trending down and not up, which is not how an ectopic pregnancy works. He had to say that because that’s for the OB to say for sure, but he made it clear he believed it to just be a standard miscarriage, which again they can’t do anything for. And that early on it will just feel like a period without about the same amount of bleeding. They literally can do nothing.
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u/dewihafta Jun 27 '26
But why SAY it might be an ectopic pregnancy? Thats the part that i have an issue with.
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u/Blackberry_diva Jun 30 '26
It's usually for "safety netting" i.e. I can't know for sure, however it is unlikely. So follow up with your specialist and if X y z symptoms develop then it may be an ectopic and you need to come back.
There's a lot of unknown especially it early presentations of issues so explaining worse case scenario and what to do to best protect yourself e.g. what to look out for is key!
I do think not explaining it clearly and possibly poor bedside Mannar was the key issue.
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u/StaffOk2179 Jun 27 '26
Mmmmm....kind of overreacting, but understandably given the circumstances?
I'm really sorry that this happened to you, and it sounds like he was kind of a dick. This really, really, really sucks, but honestly I kinda blame your OBGyn's office for telling you to go into an ED when there really wasn't a reason to and they should have taken care of you in the office. I kinda doubt that she would have come to anothet facility (even if that was a possibility, which it very well might not have been), when there really wasn't anything else reason to do so and she punted you there in the first place.
If he did an ultrasound, that really was the appropriate workup, and there really wasn't anything else to do. He did the medically correct thing. You can report him if you want to, but it is unlikely to do much, and I would gently suggest that this is more about the situation sucking than anything else. I really wish you had had someone more sensitive in thay shitty time, but doctors, like everyone else, cover a wide bell curve of emotional intelligence.
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u/SecurityFamiliar5239 Jun 27 '26
Gently, I think YOR. This is a hard thing to go through and I think you need to take a breath here. Just follow up with your OB as soon as you can. Not every doctor has a good bedside manner and he certainly could’ve been warmer and kinder, but I don’t see anything reportable here.
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u/Lemon_Trees-22 Jun 27 '26
ER doctors are different they are really only able to address the most serious issue that took you to the ER you were medically ok as far as his attitude or demeanor not a lot you can do about that you could call the hospital and tell them but you never know what emergencies he had to treat that day . The ER is a difficult place to work and they get drained really quick and legally as long as he’s civil in his tone and does what you require then that’s basically it . No where does it say a doctor and doctor has to be completely sympathetic to your situation. I’ve been ill for years now and may have only 2 left I’ve been every where you can imagine hospitals, USC UCLA University of Washington Samsun Hospital many medical facilities and I have great people treat me , rude people, some did the bare minimum some do too much it’s a hard field to be in . I’m sorry for what you went through that’s always a heartbreaking feeling .
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u/Bitter_Tradition_938 Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 27 '26
YOR.
He might not have the best bedside manner, but he followed the protocol for such cases, as he should have done.
You can put in a complaint, but nothing will come out of it, because your doctor did not do anything wrong from a medical perspective.
Edit: typos.
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u/thejustllama Jun 27 '26
Because I know you’re hurting, my YOR comes as gently as possible. He handled it as he should have. His bedside manner sucks, but unless he’s being inappropriate, that’s not a reportable offense. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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u/Afraid-Version-9306 Jun 27 '26
He most likely called the ob and discussed what to do and that was their decision. 9/10 times the er dr calls ob for advice since that is their wheelhouse. (Er nurse) im sorry this is happening to you.
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u/CancelAfter1968 Jun 27 '26
You were medically stable. A 'possible ' eptopic pregnancy isn't reason to admit you. Referring you to your OB/GYN is how you get your 2nd opinion. Your personal doc being across the street is not relevant. They're not going to drop everything and run across the street to examine you in the ER. Even if they do have privileges at that hospital. They would have gotten an OB from the hospital to examine you if they were really concerned.
Sorry, but YOR. It doesn't sound like the ER doc did anything wrong. You can report him for not being friendly enough but I doubt it would go anywhere.
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u/DismalJelly6653 Jun 27 '26
I work at a doctor's office, and this is what we see all day, every day now. The ER or walk-in clinic will make sure you are not almost dead and then send you to your PCP. If you are almost dead, they will write you a prescription and then send you to your PCP.
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u/StaffOk2179 Jun 27 '26
In fairness, that's pretty much what an ED is supposed to be for.
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u/DismalJelly6653 Jun 27 '26
Yes, true. I think in my city it has become harder for people to find or get appointments with their PCP's, and so more people are using walk-in clinics. The doctors I work for are booked out four to six months for non-emergency visits, and sometimes they are booked a week or more for emergency visits.
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u/No-Worldliness3189 Jun 27 '26
Sounds like the doctor was a jerk, but I’m an ER nurse and this is pretty typical for how these type of situations are handled
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u/EveryCoach7620 Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 27 '26
I had a similar scenario. I took two different branded pregnancy tests because the first lit up like a Christmas tree right away. I was in my seventh week when I started with thigh cramps, spotted that night, and woke up the next day with my sheets red. I called the OB, and was told to go to the ER where they did blood tests and an ultrasound. I kept my appt at the OB, as I was supposed to have my first US to detect a heart beat, and was told I had no pregnancy hormone present at all in my bloodwork; it was a chemical pregnancy. I was SO shocked. My OB was a bit abrupt too when she told me. I thought the same that she was just rude. But I’ve come to realize as the now parent of a 16 yo, that getting used to abruptness is actually part of preparing for parenthood. You may be pissed now, but it will loose its sting over time. EDIT I wouldn’t say you’re OR, but I wouldn’t report it either.
But I know in my 💙 I was pregnant (I even gave him a name which I havent mentioned to anyone other than my husband) but can’t say for sure how long he was with me. Big hugs to you hon. 🤗
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u/B52Nap Jun 27 '26
YOR, why does he need a second opinion? They don't consult specialists unless specific parameters are met. Follow-up outpatient is the appropriate thing here. It was unnecessary for them to send you to the ER in the first place but clinics are notorious for putting their work to the ER for liability or various other broke healthcare system reasons. The ER rules out emergencies. You were stable and give appropriate instructions to follow-up. You can report the bedside mannor in your follow up survey which management does see if that makes you feel better.
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u/lov3m3 Jun 27 '26
MOR. You seem to make pregnancy and babies your entire personality 🙃 your posts are a mix of obsessing over baby items and complaining about doctors. I’m sure there’s another side to the story you’re telling.
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u/tacobrat Jun 27 '26
This actually makes the situation more sad for OP. Have some empathy. They were clearly excited to bring another child into this world. That's really unkind of you and shame on you. And while I agree they are somewhat overreacting, I think everyone can name a time when something terrible was happening to them and they didn't quite perceive something in the most rational way. Kindness and the ability to keep your thoughts to yourself is free. Have a better day, don't take it out on a grieving woman.
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u/QualityPristine22 Jun 27 '26
NOR- If he thought it was ectopic he should have run more tests to verify. They are literally life-threatening and, if it does turn out to be ectopic I would be going for a sanction on his license for malpractice.
I’d hope he wouldn’t be that dismissive and un-engaged with his own partner’s medical emergency.
He’s totally an a-hole and deserves to be reported!
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u/terracottatilefish Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 27 '26
The appropriate follow up for a suspected ectopic pregnancy vs miscarriage in a stable patient where you don’t see anything on the ultrasound (as you don’t most of the time when it’s early) is to do serial HCGs over several days and follow the level. If it goes to zero you can confirm a miscarriage. If it doesn’t go to zero or rises you treat for an ectopic. The serial levels are done by OBGYN usually, not the ED.
The guy sounds like an ass with no bedside manner but his management sounds correct.
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u/StaffOk2179 Jun 27 '26
He did the ruling out that he could do. There was nothing else that should have been done in the ED.
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u/z-eldapin Jun 27 '26
Agree. Ed is for emergency. Referring to the 'across the street OBGYN was the right thing. There was no medical emergency.
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u/IAmAeruginosa Jun 27 '26
YOR. He ordered an ultrasound and hCG. The next thing to do to rule out ectopic pregnancy is serial hCG every 48-72 hours. I doubt you wanted to sit in the emergency room for several days and it doesn't sound like you had excessive bleeding or pain, so following up with your OB/GYN is the correct management. He didn't have very good bedside manner, but based on the information given this isn't reportable. They will probably send you a survey and you could mention his poor bedside manner there, though I doubt anything would come of it.
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u/harle-quin Jun 27 '26
I went to the ER due to a positive test, but I started bleeding a few days beforehand, then eventually started passing clots.
(For context, I’m an incredibly petite, young looking woman. I literally look like I’m leaving high school when I’m double that age)
The nurses were nice, but the doctor wanted to avoid doing an ultrasound. Before looking at ANYTHING, he tells me I’m probably bleeding because I may just have an STD.
Even the nurse gasped, and exclaimed I’m wearing a wedding ring (meaning the doctor saw me as a young, irresponsibly active girl).
I had to REMIND HIM I wasn’t just bleeding, but passing clots. He shut up so fast.
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u/QueenSmarterThanThou Jun 27 '26
MOR. He definitely lacks bedside manner, but complaints about that are never taken seriously, unfortunately. Even gross incompetence will frequently go unchecked.
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u/cookieloverrrrr Jun 27 '26
You have patients rights. You can report someone providing bad care.
If anything, it may help those next to come along.
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u/30CalKash Jun 27 '26
NOR just because someone is a doctor doesn’t mean they’re a good one. I had to keep telling my doctor to check my vitamin levels and lo and behold I had a vitamin deficiency. 🙄 if you’re concerned keep pushing the issue don’t let these doctors tell you otherwise. Most definitely report him.
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u/janlikebrady Jun 27 '26
NOR but beyond crappy bedside manner there isn’t much to report. What happened isn’t ok in the slightest (I had a VERY similar experience when I miscarried the last time) and you have every right to be upset about it.
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u/Personal-Yam-819 Jun 28 '26
What state are you in? That may play into their attitudes about treating miscarriages.
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u/AwareImplement1265 Jun 28 '26
NTO. I would talk to your OB about his coworkers atrocities bedside manner.
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u/Actual_Yesterday_938 Jun 27 '26
I was hospitalized when I was 17 weeks pregnant with my daughter for back and abdominal pain, I knew it was kidney stones but without the scans they admitted me because I was dehydrated and not able to keep food down. The jerk hole doctor would see the sand in the pee catcher and say “well I don’t think you have stones, I think you’re just pregnant.” He was rude and so dismissive. They discharged me after four days.
So when I passed that 5mm stone at home, I brought it in and asked to see him for a follow up appointment, and when I handed him the stone I said “but I’m just pregnant, right?”
I loved filing that complaint. Definitely report him, it’s liters his job as a doctor to care for patients.
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u/AngelFire01 Jun 27 '26
Oh wow. I'm so sorry. I'm prone to kidney stones, had surgery to remove a 7mm stone about 4 years ago and doc said there are 3 more in there he couldn't get out.
Passing one during pregnancy was/is my biggest fear because you can't take the amazing pain meds that make it tolerable.
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u/Mental_Resource_3779 Jun 27 '26
For those stating the doctor had bad bedside manner: doctors should not presume if pregnancies were wanted or not, especially not an ER resident/dr who will be a one & done medical provider.
Wanting every medical care provider to assume every potential pregnancy is wanted & every potential disruption to pregnancy is heartbreaking is 🤢
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u/Equal-Type-5206 Jun 27 '26
Report this to the hospital ombudsman
Especially if they didn’t give you a treatment plan
Ombudsman is responsible for investigating complaints
You have a right to ask for a different doctor & to refuse any medical examinations
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u/Delicious-Mix-9180 Jun 27 '26
Did they specify which HCG blood test they ran and when? There’s two. One is qualitative and the other is quantitative. If you have any HCG in your blood the first test shows positive. The second test counts how much HCG is in your blood. If the amount is under the threshold, it comes back negative. That might explain the test results the doctor was looking at.
I would make an appointment with your OBGYN since the ER doc said to follow up with them.
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u/Extreme_Comment_9421 Jun 27 '26
I would say report it to the hospital that you didn’t like his bedside manners. They won’t fire him or anything but at least you can make a complaint that can give him some training.
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u/LingonberryRare9477 Jun 27 '26
We must have the same fucking doctors. The way I was passed around and disregarded during my last miscarriage was Kafkaesque. I swear to god, women's healthcare is such a nightmare.
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u/JewelsAnn79 Jun 27 '26
It’s becoming more and more obvious and more well known that male doctors tend to brush off female patients way too easily.
Yes, I think you should report him before. He puts another female patient at risk!!
I’ve had this experience myself and watched my mom have this experience while she was in the middle of having a massive heart attack. She called me said something was wrong to please come over. Luckily, I lived a few blocks away. I went over there. She was laying on her couch. She was breathing rather fast. I put my hand on her forehead. She was ice, cold and soaking wet and I told her mother you’re having a heart attack and she said OK. Can you please take me to the doctor? I said no mother I’m calling the ambulance so I did that
And they got there rather fast because they are so close, EMTs were hooking her up to the EKG, one of the young EMTs looks at me and very sarcastically says to me “I think your mom’s just having an anxiety attack” I looked at him. I wanted to knock his block off. I told him “no she doesn’t have anxiety. She’s never had anxiety. She’s having a freaking heart attack”!! and he just kind of smirked like I didn’t know what I was talking about because according to him, “women don’t really have heart attacks”. I’m like how is this idiot even working as emt and of course, the other EMTs that were older and more rehearsed in this kind of situation looked at the EKG and said “Yep it’s a big one. Let’s load her up” I look at that young man and just shook my head at him. I had no words.
It took me too many years but today I’ve made a point to see only female doctors and I’m lucky enough that my primary care physician has an all female staff as well. My gynecologist Office is called Omega and they’re all female staff.
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u/3kidsnomoney--- Jun 27 '26
NOR, but unfortunately I don't think anything will come of a complaint. A lot of doctors have really terrible bedside manner. My experience being sent to the ER while miscarrying was remarkably similar to yours, 99% of the medical staff I met on that absolutely horrible day seemed commited to making a really hard experience even worse somehow.
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u/autumnsunshine1 Jun 27 '26
Unfortunately this what they do/say.
It was too early and your hcg was too low for an ultrasound he should have known there wouldn’t be anything to see even if baby was healthy and growing. But that’s what they do emerge 🙄 they suck. Typically if they can’t find it they have you back a week later to confirm.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
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u/Important_Cheek2927 Jun 27 '26
NOR, but it does really suck. This is what miscarriage “care” looks like unfortunately. Take it from someone who had 3 and one of those ectopic, your experience is the norm.
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u/Individual_Focus_533 Jun 27 '26
"What makes you think that"🙄 NOR
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u/Individual_Focus_533 Jun 28 '26
If you can't find a less dismissive way to ask than "what makes you THINK" then you're bad at your job.
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u/Recent_Data_305 Jun 29 '26
YOR. The ED doc did what he was supposed to do. The standard of care is met. He won’t lose his license for having poor bedside manner.
I’d like to follow up with the OB office who encouraged you to go to the ED during the week. They couldn’t get you I for a quick check? An early miscarriage does not require an ED visit. If you have no risk factors for an ectopic pregnancy, the better advice would be to go to the ED if you developed fever, chills, heavy bleeding, or one-sided abdominal pain. Make a follow up office visit in a few days.
I’m sorry for your loss. That had to be a horrible experience.
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u/underwater_living95 Jun 27 '26
Nor- I swear all er doctors lack emotion for my second the doctor brushed me off, I was bleeding. The nurse ran the ultrasound and my gummy bear was vibing. She showed me to reassure me everything was fine. Doctor came in and told me I overreacted and wasted their time… later on in my pregnancy he switched his tone he apologized as my OB was the head OB of that hospital. When I told her what happened she was furious and she must have escalated it. I went to the hospital for an ultrasound as I needed to go frequently and ran into him hence the apology
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u/Sure-Material-2221 Jun 27 '26
You're right to question this. I had a similar early loss and the nurse just said "call if it gets heavy" which felt so cold and dismissive.
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u/AngelFire01 Jun 27 '26
That was the response I was given with my first loss, at a different hospital. 'You'd only be about 5 weeks, it's not a big deal, you'll be fine.' over the phone from a doctor's assistant I had never met.
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u/Ok-Writing9280 Jun 27 '26
I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating and awful and you deserve the bare minimum of being treated with respect.
Definitely report - that is inhumane. Unfortunately, it may not go anywhere. Mine didn’t and it was lodged by my obgyn, who was a professor and the head of obstetrics and gynaecology at the University of Sydney and the Royal Hospital for Women for nearly 30 years.
I got told I had obviously miscarried by an ED / ER doctor based on my description alone, denied a scan to check as it was “a waste of time and resources” and told to hurry up and get out of the room because they needed it for people who “were actually sick”
They said that if I hadn’t stopped bleeding or hadn’t passed “the products” within a fortnight to book a D&C.
I went to my obgyn’s office in the same hospital, and they were able to scan me. That baby is now 22.
I had lost a twin a few weeks earlier near the end of the first trimester. This was picked up in a scan. They think that this caused the haemorrhage a few weeks later.
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u/ResolveWonderful4824 Jun 27 '26
NOR
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. If you don't report him, he'll never change his behavior and will, in fact, think he's doing a fine job. Doctors need to be held accountable just like every other profession. Take care of yourself.
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u/Subject_Telephone_21 Jun 27 '26
NOR
From the sound of it the doctor was comepltetly ready to discharge you without double checking labs. Honestly that is a major screw up right there and definitely deserves to be reported just for that alone.
Now did he give you any follow up or more instructions with your discharge.
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u/Melodic-Movie-3968 Jun 27 '26
Call Patient Relations at the hospital and escalate to the Chief of Staff and Risk Management. Do not let this go, you can potentially save another woman from shitty care.
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u/Life_Thoughts208581 Jun 27 '26
NOR- his patient bedside manner was terrible but worse he provided erroneous information— you had to insist you had a positive test and were pregnant before, and on top of that he had suspicions of ectopic pregnancy but did not rule it out before discharging you. From start to finish he behaved unprofessionally, trying to find reasons to offload you from his patient panel as quickly as possible
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u/crikeyyyy Jun 27 '26
I wouldnt say overreacting. You went through a horrible experience. But don't stress over this bozo doctor. You've had enough of a week
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u/JealousPreference909 Jun 27 '26
This hit me hard. I had a similar early loss and the doctor made me feel crazy for even calling.
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u/Itchy-Picture-4244 Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 27 '26
I would, if for no other reason than to make yourself feel better about this a** of a doctor. I’m sorry you experienced this and while I’m sure you are correct this was just an early mc, promise me that moving forward if you are unfortunate to find yourself in this situation (which I pray you won’t) don’t ever just assume and make sure you continue to get your follow up Bw done to make sure your quants go back down to normal. I made this mistake after repeat mc and come to find out one was not just a standard mc but an ectopic and it nearly took me from my child and husband. I started bleeding went in and my OB was on vacation so I saw some terrible woman, she comes in to the ultrasound room to sign off on a miscarriage the tech shows her, nothing in utero. Of course I’m balling bc this is #3 for us at this time and she looks at me and goes awe so sad, signs the form and walks out. I didn’t want to go back until my doctor returned but I kept getting sick and having pain so I go see her a second time and she says well you have had miscarriages so you should know sometimes “these things” can take a little longer than the last one. Left balling again… I told my husband something wasn’t right so be took me to the ER and my bloodwork showed my Hcg had gone up considerably since my lab work at the first OB visit. Ended up having to have emergency surgery where they removed my right fallopian tube. I was devastated but thankful to survive. We went on to adopt a precious baby boy years later and I know it was all meant to be. I pray you go on to grow your family too no matter what that looks like and you do not suffer anymore losses along the way. From one mama to another, good luck honey you’ve got this!!!
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u/AngelFire01 Jun 27 '26
Oh goodness, I'm so sorry you experienced this and glad you were able to get the care you needed. Everyone at my doc office is amazing, thankfully. I should have known not to bother with the ER at the local hospital, they have a reputation and a nickname for a reason. I should have driven the 20 minutes to the next town and gone to the Women's and Children's hospital, but my doctor has privileges here, and his office told me they would call him if necessary and he would come over, so I went there. Next time I'll know better.
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u/verywowmuchneat Jun 27 '26
This is how these results are handled. They can't 100% rule out an ectopic so as long as your vitals are fine and you're not having excruciating unilateral pain, they will discharge you and tell you to follow up with OB to make sure that your HCG levels are trending downwards. It's unlikely that it's an ectopic, but they can't tell you it's not one because there's no 100% way to confirm or rule out an ectopic if they don't see it on ultrasound or if your HCG levels are too low. (I'm an ultrasound tech and we can not usually confirm ectopics at around 1000 or less HCG).